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An area that needs to be examined while you are going through the divorce process is determining the tax filing status that will be the most advantageous to you. During the pre-divorce year(s), you have a couple of options that can increase or reduce your tax liability depending on which filing ... Views:1721
You may see that a divorce is right around the corner. You are thinking of learning how to stop a divorce before it happens. You may think that your alone in this type situation; but your not,there are many. You have tried everything you know how to do to keep the relationship from falling ... Views:868
1. Do you want to change?
You need to answer this honestly. Do you want to change? If you’re thinking, “Of course I want him/her to change!” That is not what I asked. You cannot change your ex. Try as you may. Manipulate as you may. Punish, kick, scream, whatever your tactic, it ... Views:5684
Has your spouse neglected you? Rejected you? Emotionally abused you?
Are you struggling to get over the pain of an affair?
If you're having marriage problems, the chances are good that you need to put some
hurt behind you.
It's one of the most common questions I get. "Mort, I want to ... Views:3089
Going through a divorce where there are children involved is an anxiety-provoking scenario with much worry on the past of the parents as to what negative effects the divorce will have on their kids. I firmly believe that it isn’t so much the divorce but how you choose to handle the divorce that ... Views:1341
Let's face it, throughout our lives we do the best we can do based on what we feel we are capable of. We do our best to get things right. We ate our vegetables, studied hard in school, learn to love, got married to our sweetheart, went out and got a good jobs. We then raised smart kids, and ... Views:1520
After a divorce or break-up of a significant relationship, you may wonder when the time is right to “get back in the game” of dating. Begin too soon and you will destine yourself to repeat the mistakes of your past. Wait too long and you may find yourself settling for the familiar (but ... Views:4017
The first and most important thing to do before you start dating again is to learn to love yourself. If you are not happy with yourself you cannot expect someone else to be able to make you happy. Happiness comes from within. If you do not love yourself, ask yourself why and make some changes ... Views:1627
The short answer to this question is probably yes.
However you have to adjust to your situation and work your way through the emotions of splitting up before you will be able to move on.
The end of a relationship is always tough whether or not it was your decision to end it. You may need ... Views:2300
What is Alimony?
Alimony is also often called spousal support. Alimony payments are used to provide the spouse that is making a lower-income with funds to cover expenses that are not provided for through child support or through the division of property. Many factors come into play when ... Views:1592
So here we are caught up in the midst of an upheaval in our lives. Our marriage is dissolving. Our house is no longer our home. The light of our relationship that once was a beacon in our lives leading us into the safe shores of contentment, has burnt out. And we are left alone, arms crossed ... Views:1182
Let us consider the functional family as one that works. It works for everyone in the family, not just some of the people. It is not perfect, but it is good enough. It is good enough so that the people in the family feel loved, valued, recognized, and appreciated. In the functional, good enough ... Views:7971
It is daunting to consider dating after experiencing divorce, especially after spending ten or more years with someone. By implementing the tips in this article, I am certain you will become more comfortable and even enjoy dating because dating is a process and can be structured to fit your ... Views:2476
Most couples separating or divorcing find that they are in a period of high conflict. Some have experienced constant arguments and fights for months or years; some are reacting to a sudden change of heart.
Regardless of the circumstances and presentation conflict between the between the ... Views:1244
You’ve heard the expression “love sickness”? The term goes back a long way and many greater writers than I (Shakespeare's Sonnet 147 comes to mind) have covered the symptoms brilliantly. It hits most of us at some stage of life--we think we're in love and we've found "the one", the relationship ... Views:3872
One of the situations that we see in many family situations is where one spouse is the primary caretaker of the financial obligations for the family. That person may have been in charge of paying the bills, setting up the investment accounts, making investment decisions (stocks, bonds, real ... Views:1223
Everyone of us at one point or another may need relationship counseling. Some people think that relationship counseling is for couples, while in reality all couples-to-be, family members, employees with their employers, and clients with their professionals can make use of it during troubling ... Views:845
An area where many individuals get into tax trouble is when splitting their Qualified Retirement Accounts (QRPs) and Individual Retirement Accounts (IRAs). Once you have come to the revelation that your assets must be split you may be tempted to start the process by making pre-divorce transfers ... Views:1866
Facing divorce and stymied about how to tell your kids? Wondering how it will affect them? Worried about hurting them with the news? When’s the best time to talk? What to say and not say? What they will say? Not sure just what to confide?
Well you’re not alone.
There’s no doubt this might ... Views:1399
Question:
I am single, and ever since college I have been in love with a girl whom I have tried to be with through the four years since graduating. Even though she married someone else, she would say she still wants to be with me and be intimate with me. I believe her, but have thought ... Views:843
The grief you cry out from
draws you toward union.
Your pure sadness
that wants help
is the secret cup.
Rumi
One of the hardest things for someone going through a breakup is fighting those relentless urges to contact the ex. "I just need some closure. I need some answers; I ... Views:1393
Happiness has a very short attention span,
it forgets what came before.
Unhappiness, on the other hand,
has a very long memory.
Bert Hellinger
“Sexual relations create a deep and binding bond. When a man takes a woman as his woman; and a woman takes a man as her man, sexual ... Views:2488
As part of her ongoing "Life Makeover" psychotherapy process, Mia brought up her severe neck and shoulder pain in a session. I asked several questions regarding the pain, including when it had started. She said ten years ago. I then asked: What had happened ten years ago? Mia's eyes immediately ... Views:2302
The “difficult ex” - I think every divorced couple goes through at least a stage of complaining about this. I hear it in nearly every couple I work with, and I had my share of this pain too. It seemed to me for years that my husband’s ex-wife looked right through me as if I didn’t exist, and ... Views:2204
This is a question I have given a great deal of thought too. Why is it that the minute someone hears a strange noise coming from their engine they immediately take their car into the mechanics for an expert opinion but their relationships can run itself into the ground for years and they will ... Views:1727
When Theresa’s husband of 15 years announced he wanted a divorce, she was devastated. She says, “I couldn’t believe Alex threw our life away. But I’m strong- I got through it. I’ve moved on and put it behind me.” But has she?
Six years later, Theresa and Alex “parallel-parent”, each doing as ... Views:1475
I often hear this from clients:
“I didn’t tell my wife I was unhappy because I didn’t want to hurt her.”
“I haven’t told my children I’m sick because I don’t want them to worry.”
“I can’t tell my boyfriend I want to see other people because he’d be upset.”
In other words: “I can’t tell ... Views:1477
Nanette Geiger, Relationship Expert , writes... ...
Donna from North Carolina wrote me to ask me that question As a Law of Attraction relationship coach, here's the relationship advice I have for her. Donna, I'm so glad that you know that you definitely need to let go of the past before you ... Views:1033
As a licensed mental health professional, I work with many individuals, couples, and families who are affected by divorce. I see the devastating effects that breakups can have and am dedicated to helping people develop the skills to cope with experiences like divorce.
Major Disruptions
The ... Views:1267
Many generations ago, marriage was about survival, property, money, securing family dynasties, and pragmatism, not love or sexual intimacy. Marriage remained popular largely because of the stigma attached to sex outside of marriage.
Now “love” is the main reason given for tying the knot, but ... Views:1531
Can a marital separation save a marriage? Usually my opinion is: it depends…
Whether the separation will help or hurt the marriage is unknown, unless you know the couple, have listened to them and assessed their mental state. Needless to say, a professional marriage counselor should ... Views:8037
It started out to be a nice visit from my son. We spent a great deal of time talking about our jobs and how our family members were coping with every day trials and tribulations. When we moved on to his family, he dropped the bombshell. I felt as though I had been kicked in the stomach when the ... Views:1282
Better relationship? The Chicago Cubs? You may be asking what the two have in common. Back in 2003, it was extremely disappointing watching the 7th game between the Chicago Cubs and the Florida Marlins. The game started out great and somewhere along the way, it headed south. There were many Cub ... Views:1506
Who’s not scared of love? I mean whether you are scared that it will or will not find you, that it will or will not last, that it can or cannot exist – in some theory we are each scared of love. Scared of getting our hearts broken – scared of taking a risk – scared of putting ourselves out ... Views:1416
I'm sure most of us are aware that the stats for marriages ending in divorce are at least one out of two in America!
These stats are the same whether you go to church or not! What? How can the divorce rate be the same for Christians?!
Then... I heard Dr. Phil confirm what I used to wonder ... Views:2565
You've just given birth to the most precious gift imaginable. This gift will portend the future of the world. Certainly you hope this precious gift child will have a life filled with excitement, wonder, and happiness. But what if the excitement and wonder bring this child a world of ... Views:825
“If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principles, we can greet the future and the transformation we are undergoing with the understanding that we do not know enough to be pessimistic.”
-- Hazel Henderson (Economist, writer and syndicated columnist)
Fear of our future ... Views:2954
Why do we make New Year’s resolutions? Because we desire change for the better. But, for those dealing with divorce, resolutions may offer much-needed hope for the future.
Resolutions are meant to give us a boost and promote positive change. However, if you think back to your past ... Views:2811
A number of things can shake up a person's life, but divorce is definitely one of the biggest. Whether you initiated it or not, dealing with the aftermath takes a great deal of emotional fortitude.
Most people start to identify themselves in conjunction with their spouse, especially after ... Views:2239
I am writing this article while flying over some spectacular snow-covered mountains in Northern British Columbia, Canada. In fact, I just read that these mountains have been featured in Hollywood movies as substitutes for the Himalayas.The view is of large peaks and deep valleys. At the bottom ... Views:1144
The following article originally appeared on www.midlifebachelor.com on June 14, 2009 ...
Choosing to invest in a new relationship directly affects your own level of personal happiness especially in the near-term ... and so it is extremely important to keep your eyes and ears open, and be ... Views:7222
It was 1994 when the papers were delivered to my apartment; I had just joined the ranks of 50% of the population when my wife filed for divorce. As a single father my biggest fear was that someone would come in to my ex-wife's life and that person would eventually replace me as the figurehead ... Views:1284
With couples divorcing and splitting up at the highest rate modern time, quality couple therapy is a must. And, finding a qualified couple therapist is essential. Only 14% of therapists in the United States that state they do couple therapy have actually had training in how to do couple therapy. ... Views:1603
Holidays have always been special, joyful times for everyone. That is, until things got rough and you ended up divorced. Celebrating it is always challenging, but holidays after divorce, are without doubt extra-challenging. Some people are quite lucky—not all their friends are in a relationship. ... Views:997
Whether you just got out of a relationship, or have been struggling to heal your broken heart for some time now, figuring out how to move on can be confusing, fear-inducing, and downright uncomfortable. Not only do you have to let go of your past, but you’ve got to be willing to embrace the ... Views:9505
Everyone knows breaking up is hard to do. But staying in contact with your ex following a breakup? That's where things get really tricky. By remaining in each other's lives, you run the risk of a post-breakup rendezvous, holding onto feelings for your ex, and in general delaying your ability to ... Views:12259
Whenever I’m at a dinner party and meet somebody new, the inevitable question comes up: What do you do? When I tell them I’m a heartbreak reinvention coach, it always leads to an interesting conversation. Usually, I get to hear the story of Their Big Breakup, and it’s always gut-wrenching, ... Views:5579
Can we be friends?
After a breakup, this simple question can weigh heavy on your mind. As a heartbreak reinvention coach, I often hear this question from clients. And my answer is always the same — no. Why? Because as hard as it may be to accept, your relationship is over. This person is ... Views:2605
Conventional wisdom says it takes just 21 days to establish a new habit. So what if that new habit involves getting over a breakup? Is it possible to exorcise your ex, clear your head, and heal your heart in just 3 weeks? It is when you enroll in a crash course in breakup survival, immerse ... Views:3043
After a relationship ends, it's all too easy to second-guess the decision to split up. And while reconsidering doesn't necessarily mean you should reunite, what happens if you and your ex DO decide you'd like to give the relationship another go? Maybe the time away from one another has shown you ... Views:9533