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    • Valentine's Smalentines - by Debra Berndt, CHt
      Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from Debi Berndt
      I have to admit that I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day. After decades of being single, that date caused so much heartache for me and my single friends. Even now that I am in a relationship, I don’t like to celebrate because it never brought any joy for me. The holiday only put additional ...
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    • James Arthur Ray Tragedy & the Price of Transformation - by Debra Berndt, The Love Hypnotist
      Submitted on Oct 15, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      When I read about the sweat lodge deaths at the event hosted by James Arthur Ray (”The Secret”) , I was saddened. My heart goes out to him, his well-intentioned program and those who suffered and died. This story is tragic beyond the lives lost, but of a greater failure in the self-improvement ...
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    • Dealing with Anger & Frustration - by Debra Berndt, The Love Hypnotist
      Submitted on Sep 21, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      In your everyday life, you may get impatient with the person on the highway in front of you, the checkout attendant at the grocery store and the car in front of you who ordered the ultra-supreme wash that takes twenty minutes. Watching the clock in the mid-afternoon, wishing it was five o’clock ...
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    • Signs That You Are in an Abusive Relationship - by Debra Berndt
      Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      Abuse can come in many different forms – physical, emotional and even financial. If you are not sure if you are in a bad situation, review the different types of abuse and warning signs to see if you need assistance. 1. Physical abuse – This does not only apply to women or men who are bruised ...
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    • Law of Attraction Anxiety - by Debra Berndt, Certified Hypnotic Love Coach
      Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      Many people have seen the DVDs, read the books, attended the seminars to attract romance, wealth and more, but still are not getting results. In the areas of money and love, so many have tied their hopes and dreams of finding that magic ticket to become a millionaire or meet the love of their ...
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    • When it comes to dating, are you a Cougar? - by Debra Berndt, Certified Hypnotic Love Coach
      Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      In case you haven't heard of this new phrase, a "Cougar" is named used to refer to an older woman who dates men much younger than her. Cougars come in all types and the reasons for their particular fetish with the boys are varied. Some are content with having fun and others seek more in the ...
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    • 5 Ways to Feel More Beautiful and Attract Love - by Debra Berndt
      Submitted on Jul 18, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      Have you ever felt ugly or unattractive? Sometimes people can feel that way if they put on a few pounds, if someone rejects them or after they acted out in anger. No matter what society determines as being attractive, I believe everyone is beautiful in their own way. They key is that you must ...
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    • Top 5 Mistakes Women Make in Dating - by Debra Berndt
      Submitted on Jul 18, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      There is a point in every single woman’s life when she pauses and asks herself, “Why is everyone else finding a match but me?” She gets advice from her coupled girlfriends and is assured that she is desirable and there must be something wrong with them. Or, perhaps they have an intervention ...
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    • How a Love Coach and Hypnosis Can Shift Your Love Life - by Debra Berndt
      Submitted on Jul 18, 2009 from Debi Berndt
      Love should come naturally, right? We should not have to rely on experts to give us dating tips, be more attractive or make better dating decisions. Isn’t that what our girlfriends are for? Unfortunately, most of the dating advice you get from others is incorrect or, worse, damaging to your love ...
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    • How to Stop Fear from Running Your Life - by Debra Berndt, Hypnotic Love Coach
      Submitted on Oct 22, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      In these trying times, many are concerned about their jobs, investments and the future of our great country. According to the law of attraction, what you think about you create more of in life. Listening to the news and talking with friends and co-workers, your mind is constantly flooded with ...
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    • ***Who's Your Daddy? A Father's Day Tribute - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Jun 14, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      As father’s day approaches, many women either acknowledge and appreciate the gifts their fathers have given them or recoil because of how he “wronged” them. An important aspect of having a healthy relationship is to heal your relationship with your parents. Like it or not, the type of men that ...
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    • ***Ten Ways To Increase Dating Confidence - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Jun 06, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      Instead of getting a tummy tuck or eye lift, you may want to consider these ten ways to increase your dating confidence for an inner makeover. 1. Be conscious of your self-talk. Identify the voice inside that doesn’t often speak nicely to you. Become a witness to those defeating thoughts from ...
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    • ***Who is Making Your Dating Decisions? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Jun 02, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      You may think you are in control of who you want to attract into your life. You probably have a clear vision of the type of person that you desire. Having it down to a list of ten or more characteristics, you set your intention, visualize and wonder why you keep getting duds (or dudettes). The ...
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    • ***Moving Away From The Familiar - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable you feel when you do something for the first time? Remember your first day at school, the first time you rode a bike or even your first day at a new job? Change can be scary and that is why people avoid it so much. The reason you tend to cling to the ...
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    • ***Moving Beyond Limitation: How To Use The Creative Mind - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on May 04, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      Relationships and Our Minds Everything in the universe is created by one original substance. This formless substance or energy is neutral. It is the thought applied upon this substance that creates the thing that is imagined by the thought. Since you are thinking source, you can create anything ...
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    • ***Are Your Working Against Yourself? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      A frequent complaint I hear from my clients is that the things they have been focusing on have not manifested yet. They are doing all the “right” things, believing in themselves, changing their attitude and listening to their self-hypnosis. Even though their thought process has changed ...
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    • ***Is Your Dating Life Predictable? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Mar 29, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      During times of uncertainty in your dating life, you may often wonder what lies ahead. Is he going to be arriving in your life soon, or do you have to bear another wedding season at the singles tables catching bouquet after bouquet? In desperation, many single women consult psychics to discover ...
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    • ***Top 10 First Date Tips - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Mar 19, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      Tip #1 – Revealing • Don’t give your whole story away on the first date. If you are meant to be together, you will have plenty of time to tell him about your life. If your stars are not aligned, there is no reason to share your personal history anyway. • Do reveal some tidbits about yourself ...
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    • Changing Your Relationship With Money - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      The amount of money that flows into your life is directly related to your inner relationship with the dollar bill. Since childhood, we have been programmed to believe certain things about money. Money is the root of all evil, blessed are the poor, rich people are jerks, and so on. These old ...
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    • ***Are You Dating Like a Politician? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      As I watched the debates over the last few weeks, I kept wondering, “Who is telling the truth?” Politicians create their persona and tout their opinions on issues based on what image is going to give them the most votes. The same with dating, most men and women go out on dates with ...
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    • ***Healing Jealousy In Dating & Relationships - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      One time or another, we all had an experience of jealousy in our romantic life. Whether we were cheated on, left for someone else or simply found ourselves competing with a girlfriend for the attention of single man, jealousy is an ugly feeling. The green monster makes us feel hopeless and ...
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    • ***What Is Your Story? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Jan 21, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      I hear many stories throughout the day. My clients tell me stories of their childhood, recent break-up, new love interest, or the latest tragedy in their lives. We are surrounded by gossip and tales from our family, friends and even the media. The stories we share are simply an opinion based on ...
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    • ***What Is Your Dating Style? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Jan 03, 2008 from Debi Berndt
      Lori called her best friend crying because Steve, the guy she had recently been dating, had told her that he did not want to see her anymore. She explained how he came on so strong in the beginning, calling every day, sending her flowers, telling her that she was the one and then suddenly he ...
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    • ***Creating Your Year - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Dec 30, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Instead of living another year on autopilot, what if your New Year’s Resolution was to consciously create each day as you go through the year? Unfortunately, we often fall into the same traps and habits no matter how much we vow to make changes in our life. The reason for our struggles is that ...
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    • ***Getting Into The Zone On Your Date - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Dec 26, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      When you think of getting in the “zone,” you might automatically think of an athlete. The zone is actually a state of mind that can be applied in any area of life. Whether you are going on a job interview, playing golf or having a first date, accessing the zone can help you be your best. ...
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    • ***Changing The Movie Of Your Love Life - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Nov 23, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Have you ever wondered why it is so easy for others to be in a relationship and you struggle so much in dating? Are you familiar with the feeling of being left out of your friends’ coupled dinners and feeling the ache of loneliness every Valentine’s Day wondering when it was going to be your ...
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    • ***Dating Rejects - Why Aren't You That Into Him? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Nov 07, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Why are women so attracted to the bad boys? You want love, you desire love but when a nice guy shows up in your life, you feel like running away. The man has an impressive resume, wants everything in life that you do, but you cannot seem to stop obsessing about the jerk who dumped you last ...
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    • ***Using The Law Of Attraction In Dating - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Nov 06, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      The circumstances in your lives seem to happen by chance. You may blame your single status and dating bad luck on others and good experiences on random fate. The Law of Attraction states that your life experience is a direct result of your thinking. In order to change those ideas to attract the ...
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    • ***Finding Peace In The Holiday Season - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Oct 28, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      The holidays often bring up a variety of emotions. The expectation that we should be feeling jolly and grateful throughout the season can create a tremendous amount of pressure. Uncomfortable emotions such as stress or loneliness can have us seeking external ways to “fix it.” We look for joy in ...
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    • ***Hopelessly Single - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Offical Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Oct 15, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      My coupled friends used to always give me reassurance that “my guy was on his way.” I tried to believe them but, after six years without a serious relationship, a strong sense of hopelessness was churning inside. For years I struggled with my perpetual aloneness and fought to keep my attitude ...
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    • ***Who Are You...Really? (The Masks We Wear in Dating) - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Oct 01, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      As Halloween approaches, funny costumes come to mind. Halloween always seems to bring out the wilder, crazy side of people. They feel free to express themselves during this season because their costume is a shield of armor. Why do people wait until a special occasion for permission to be ...
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    • ***Managing Expectations In Dating and Relationships - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Offical Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Sep 24, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Susan was excited about her date that evening. She spoke with Brian a few times over the phone and felt an instant connection. She called her girlfriends and her mom to announce that she finally had a date with a guy that could be the one. She arrived at the restaurant in her new black pants ...
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    • Creating the Body You Love - by Debra Berndt, CHt
      Submitted on Sep 12, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      When starting a regular fitness regimen, we focus so much energy on the outer body that we forget to take care of our inner world. We look in the mirror or at the scale and mentally punish ourselves for not being good enough. Continuously thinking we are fat or unattractive only reinforces ...
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    • ***Why Is it Hard To Change? - by Debra Berndt, CHt
      Submitted on Sep 12, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Most people who come to me for hypnotherapy have had enough of their specific issue and they are ready for a new approach. After years of trying various prescription drugs, talk therapy and other alternative remedies they still seem to have a difficult time changing their behavior. With ...
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    • *** Letting Go and Feeling Good - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Sep 02, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Whether you are searching for the love of your life, on a mission to lose weight, or just trying to get your business off the ground, there may be a time when things are not moving forward. When feeling stuck, you may start to give attention to what is not happening and what is wrong. Focusing ...
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    • ***Why Men Don't Call After A Date - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Aug 12, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      No matter who you are or where you are in your dating search, there is always at least one time when the guy you are interested in does not call. Sure, you had a great date and felt like you had a real connection. He said he would call during the week but the call never comes. You really ...
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    • *** Biggest Dating Blunder When Looking For Mr. Right - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide to Dating
      Submitted on Aug 08, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      If you want to attract the love of your life, you need to make sure that all of your behaviors are congruent with that desire. Most singles find a man to fill in the void while they wait for Mr. Right to show up. I did this for years, hanging around Mr. Right Now's convincing myself it was ...
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    • ***Dealing with Dating Disappointments - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Aug 04, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      If there is one thing for certain, disappointment is a part of dating. Most people are in denial of this realization. They believe that they are going to join an online dating service and magically "the right one" will show up immediately. Many have that expectation because of the stories heard ...
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    • ****Fear of Intimacy in Dating - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Many singles think they want a relationship, but are really afraid of commitment and intimacy with someone that really cares for them. These hidden fears from past hurts and possible abuse have put an armor of protection around their heart. They reject available men who treat them nice, while ...
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    • ***Dating & Life - Here Comes the Judge - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      This is a story I’ve heard many times. It is a good reminder of how to be judge-free of life’s events. A young farmer and his wife gave birth to a son in a small village. The villagers around him proclaimed, “What good luck! You have a son to help you in the fields.” ...
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    • ***How To Recover From a Breakup - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Most people that arrive at my office for relationship issues have recently gone through a painful breakup. They want to know how to cope with a breakup with their boyfriend, spouse or even just their latest fling. They experience bad breakup depression and wonder if there is a light at the end ...
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    • *Dating Decisions - How do I know if He's The One? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      When we are looking for our soulmate, we often have high expectations for each online date we go on. He is looking for love, you are looking for love - it has to be a match, right? Well, the problem with online dating is there are two types of men - the ones that are sincerely looking for a ...
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    • ***Online Dating - When and How Much Do We Open Up? - by Debra Berndt, CHt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Online Dating - When and How much do we open up? I recently was interviewed by a writer on Match.com regarding the email communications between prospective online daters. It made me realize how our dating society has changed. In my dating days, I remember the difference in how men ...
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    • *Being Your Best - by Debra Berndt, the Official Guide To Dating
      Submitted on Jun 06, 2007 from Debi Berndt
      Everyone has unlimited potential, but they seem to hold themselves back from their greatness. They get distracted, talk themselves out of their dreams as if they were unattainable anyway and ultimately feel unsatisfied. It is a tragic cycle of dreaming, getting disappointed and giving up. Most ...
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