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It's dinnertime, and as I pull my car into my unpaved country driveway, Gaia is waiting for me, nine pounds of sienna fur and intelligent eyes that see into my soul. I sing to her, we play; her purring brings me joy. But when I first moved here, this cat and her gray companion were more a duty ... Views:2013
I know that it can really sting to find out that your husband had an affair. It can have an enormous impact on your life and really shake you to the core. In an instant you can feel like the floor just fell out from under your feet and you’re plunging into a world of agony. I’ve been there ... Views:2007
There are many dynamics to a relationship and I think most of us can agree that we rarely see everything going on under the surface, yet we feel the discomfort. As a Guy Spy into the Male Mind I would like to reveal three elements that can cause relational distress and ... Views:1991
On Remembrance Day and Veteran’s Day it is important for us all to reflect on the sacrifice and devotion to duty shown by so many of our brave men and women all over the world. But, what does the observation of past and present wars mean to you?
November 11th is not about poppies, wreaths ... Views:1975
NOBODY LOVES ME -
I’m going to eat worms & die!
Part 1: Essence, Source - Past & Present
PURPOSE for S-H - TO:
• protect our ideal of having good, loving, safe parents
• protect us from feeling our old abandonment pain
• keep from risking change (fear we’ll die if we S & I)
• keep us ... Views:1970
You're angry. Royally pissed off some, or most, of the time. You were not supposed to be divorced. Especially not at this age - after everything you've been through.
You're knocked on your ass, want to get up and move on but can't. Why? Because you've fallen into the deep divorce drama ... Views:1965
For most of my life, I assumed there was something deep, dark and shameful about myself that would make people recoil in horror from me, if they really got to know me. This belief was unconscious, and it actually took a lot of work for me to admit this to myself. It was necessary, because I kept ... Views:1965
I Want to Believe Him, But……….
In today’s world, we like to think of ourselves as worldly and open-minded in our love relationships, but what happens when our instincts are telling us that something is not quite right? Listen to your Gut Feelings!!!!!
It wasn’t too long ago that family ... Views:1950
I See You...a Timeless and Powerful Message
In the movie, Avatar, released in 2009, the Navi greet each other with the words, "I see you" expressed in their native tongue. This simple phrase translates into a more profound message of mutual respect and regard for one another as if you are ... Views:1945
Empowerment of the self is the philosophy by which I run my coaching practice. It is the concept involving the transformation of one's being, in order to achieve true balance amongst the mind, body, and soul. Its strength lies in the ability to trust our instinctual behaviors and eliminate the ... Views:1896
Life is too short to do many things. One cannot be everything. Still we have some desires which we want to get fulfilled. We want to taste success in career and be rich. At least want to get some of them to materialize. I often ask myself, is there a formula for success? Technically; no. We ... Views:1896
I take an oath to you. What exactly does an oath mean? It is a solemn promise to fulfill a pledge and it usually involves invoking a witness. There all types of people in all different professions that take an oath.
Some people don’t need to take an oath. They live every single day as if the ... Views:1892
Secrets of How to Build A Strong Relationship with Your Boyfriend: How to Make A Relationship Last Forever
Do you need some help learning how to build a strong relationship? Would you like to leave past mistakes behind, and do things differently this time? What are some secrets you can use to ... Views:1892
Dr. Romance writes:
There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do , and calms both of you down, which allows your ... Views:1889
Tuesday June 21, Summer Solstice
The solstice marks the time when the Sun moves into Cancer, 1.16pm Eastern, 10.16am Pacific
With the Sun in Cancer - show your vulnerability by talking about emotional issues - and sometimes allow others to care for you. This is where we connect as human ... Views:1883
Falling for a love rat.
Having worked as a relationship expert, agony aunt and life coach for decades I know a lot of people end of falling for cheats or users. Most of those are women falling for men. Age is no barrier, it is not uncommon for a woman who is experienced, been married and ... Views:1881
If human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone didn't have relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part ... Views:1874
A recent survey in the United Kingdom found that married couples headed for divorce are increasingly citing Facebook in their petitions. The survey revealed that a staggering 33 percent of divorce petitions contained the word Facebook, as opposed to only 20 percent in 2009.
The most common ... Views:1869
In my clinical experience, I've encountered many clients who are afraid to admit they’re wrong. This comes from a culture of blaming and accusing—where one's early family may have picked a “culprit” when something went wrong, and focused on blame, rather than on fixing the problem and healing ... Views:1868
Infidelity is one of the most heart-wrenching problems a marriage can face because it shakes the base of trust on which relationships are built. However, it is not inevitable that all couples divorce after such an event. It is natural that couples have a hard time to re-connect and re-build ... Views:1864
“A List of Happiness”
A list of happiness is things that would be listed of how thankful that you are about something or a list of things that make you happy. We take for granted sometimes the simple things in life such as life, health, and strength that allows us to function. We even ... Views:1858
Are you currently sabotaging your relationship and don't even realize where you've gone wrong? This is a common mistake of many women who are unsuccessful in their relationships.
Needless to say, you should do something different if you wish to change and improve your relationship. Attempt a ... Views:1853
3 ways to Stay Sane and Stay Married
Is your spouse a control freak? It is driving you to distraction? Here are three tips to keep your relationship on track, keep you sane and stop you from going to divorce court.
1. Control freaks can be very successful.
If yours is, give credit where ... Views:1843
A basic element in leadership is trust. To trust means that you have confidence and faith in whomever or whatever you are trusting. Trust is in fact, essential for almost every facet of our lives.
When people talk about trust, they talk mainly in terms of gaining, earning, or reclaiming ... Views:1843
I read with great interest the article "Despair is up — so why isn't crime?" (Dec. 22 – Contra Costa Times, CA) The so-called experts are "scratching their heads over why crime has ebbed during this recession."
A former Los Angeles police chief gives credit to tracking, analyzing numbers and ... Views:1838
Change-Conflict-Into-Intimacy
Do you Feel like your Relationship has Become a Battle Ground?
Does Your Relationship Seem More Distant Each Day?
How Is It Possible to Change-Conflict-Into-Intimacy?
You might be scratching your head wondering "How is it possible to turn ... Views:1829
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am (or was, perhaps) in a fairly strong relationship for a few months now. Recently though, as the upcoming fall quarter approaches, my girlfriend doesn’t think she can handle a relationship. Between stress from school (she really wants her 4.0 this year), over-bearing ... Views:1828
Have you ever disappointed someone or broken a promise? Was the incident serious enough to ultimately compromise the trust between you? We all have been untrustworthy at some point. That doesn't mean that we're bad or selfish. Sometimes, even under the best of circumstances, we let people down. ... Views:1828
Trust is an essential key in any relationship. I’ve helped couples rebuild trust after an affair, financial dishonesty, physical and emotional abuse as well as constant lying over small things. I’ve also worked with individuals to trust again after previous childhood trauma or relationship pain ... Views:1812
Dear Dr. Romance:
Is he cheating on me? Or am I just being paranoid? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 15 months now. A couple of weeks ago we broke up and then got back together after a week. When we broke up he kept texting me, asking “Are you happy?” and ... Views:1811
Money! What a complex relationship many of us have with it. Not only is it the source of our survival in the modern world, but we often see it as a measure of self-worth. This is evidenced in our culture by the continual need for the bigger home, better car or designer jeans. There is ... Views:1799
A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect. This is true of all types of relationships; your family, you friends and your co-workers. You can't choose your family or, in most cases your co-workers, so you hopefully learn to get along with them. Your friends you can choose. You can choose ... Views:1798
Listen To the Hand
Whether you were taught to fold your hands on your lap, hold your hands behind your back, or shove them in your pockets, you won’t be able to avoid the fact that your hands are communicating all the time. After many years of debate, researchers have finally agreed with ... Views:1795
Your one-and-only isn’t behaving his one-and-only self lately. He’s distracted, spends more time at work, on the Internet, everywhere but with you. He’s not that interested in being intimate – oh, he joins in just fine if you make the moves, but he’s not initiating things. You hear “yes, dear” ... Views:1785
Let’s look at the definition of betrayal so we can understand why it hurts so much.
Webster’s definition: To hurt (someone who trusts you, such as a friend or relative) by not giving help or by doing something morally wrong.
“The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from ... Views:1778
We all want to be loved. However for many achieving happiness within a healthy relationship has escaped us. Many of us have spent most of our lives in relationships that were co-dependent and needy, but did involve huge life lessons and karma. Knowing that each relationship we experience brings ... Views:1770
Marriages are going down the drain at an alarming rate. Many of those that seem to be surviving are fraught with terrible tensions and anxieties. Thus, it seems foolhardy on my part to sing the praises of what some people refer to contemptuously as "an institution." Yet, despite all this damning ... Views:1752
Are you in a love relationship or marriage with your soulmate? Have you found “the one” for you?
Maybe you haven't yet found “Mr. Right” or “Ms Right” and are trying to attract the relationship of your dreams.
If you're in a relationship with someone you love and you want this ... Views:1749
Learn the Power of Eye Contact
What is eye contact?
Several popular definitions are:
1. Eye contact is one of the most important nonverbal channels you have for communicating and connecting with others.
2. Defined as a meeting of the eyes between two people expresses meaningful nonverbal ... Views:1744
25 Sure Ways to Improve Communication
By
Bill Cottringer
“The greatest problem with communication is the illusion it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw.
Communication is the main currency in the today’s Information Age, but sadly, miscommunication is our number one failing ... Views:1739
Self Responsibility
“It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.”
Sir Josiah Stamp
Self-responsibility, — a concept by which individuals assume responsibility for their own choosing.
Now when it come to the ... Views:1739
1. Listen. To truly listen put your internal dialogue ¡V your opinions, personal agenda and judgments - aside. Listen instead for the speaker¡¦s point of view and what¡¦s important to them. Stay open to the possibilities that the speaker has to offer. Listening requires hearing, perceiving and ... Views:1727
It is often said that people shouldn’t have expectations and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can’t be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways.
For example: when someone expects more from life, they are likely to ... Views:1724
We all have dreams, wishes and goals. There are things we want for ourselves, our partner, our family. Sometimes though we find that it is difficult, if not impossible, to make our wish a reality.
We may want to start a new business, go back to school, learn a new trade, pick up a new hobby ... Views:1723
It is a well-known fact that relationships thrive when there are communication and understanding between the partners. Without these components, the relationship is destined to fail. Unfortunately many people don’t realize that simple communication can do wonders for a failing relationship. ... Views:1718
Dear Dr Romance:
I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ... Views:1715
Once you have taken your vows, don't do anything to break that trust. You have both taken vows to be faithful in every way to one another. Now it's time to believe in one another and trust your partner.
You have taken the plunge and made the biggest commitment of your life. But statistics ... Views:1711
Dear Dr Romance:
I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight.I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a ... Views:1708
Relationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse
Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex.
1. Choose your battles.
One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ... Views:1707
When we begin a relationship we start off by revealing parts of ourselves, our likes and dislikes, what I like to call our preferences. These include things such as politics, religion, our favorite movies, the food we like, basically our thoughts, views and beliefs. If we agree, like and accept ... Views:1706