3 More Questions to Stop Body-Bashing

Hanging on to a negative body image can limit our chance of success in weight loss as well as health and life in general. Here are three questions that, if you answer honestly, can help you blast past old, worn out, self-sabotaging ideas about your body.

Are you over-enrolled in celebrity diets? I admit it. I have bought those magazines that show "How They Did It," what plan models, actresses, and other famous people have followed to achieve substantial weight loss and what seems to be a total body make-over. Well, my friends, it's true that most of these stars did work very hard to obtain those results. However, please keep in mind that many celebrities have personal chefs, staff, and trainers and have worked on their body as a project that must be "fixed" in order to remain favorable in the public eye. So what do these plans mean for the rest of us personally? I say, nothing. Most of us don't have such advantages. Besides, comparing yourself to others usually comes from a sense of lack, and competing with the rich and famous may only contribute to a greater sense of failure and feeling "less-than."

I've seen celebrity diets fail for patients. Jen, for example, came in excited about trying a diet that was featured in People magazine. She was sure that following a plan that kept stars looking fabulous would yield similar results for her. After a few weeks, though, it became clear that Jen was gaining weight.

The reality of the situation is, a diet plan that works for one person may not translate the same way for another. A successful eating plan must take into account your nutritional requirements, your food sensitivities, your daily schedule, the responsibilities that you alone face, and the goals that you have set for yourself. It must provide enough food to satisfy your body's hunger. Not to mention, it must be pleasing to your personal tastes and preferences. After all, food is both a physical and an emotional experience. Eating things you don't like or can't feel good about is sure to result in failure.

The plan designed for some other person, however beautiful, was clearly deficient for Jen. This plan would fail for many others as well. Don't be star-struck and fixate on what worked for someone else. Instead, keep focused on what your own requirements are. Only then will you be able to stay on track.

Do you yearn for your high school weight? You might be surprised to learn how many people come into my office wanting to weigh what the scale said 20, 30, or 40 years ago. Realistic? I don't think so. An arbitrary figure from the distant past may be an unattainable goal for many reasons, and it surely can be an undesirable one as well.

The aging process brings many variables than can affect one's weight. Hormones, nutrition, and lifestyle can change the body's ideal weight (usually a bit higher). Setting your sights on a number from another time will set you up for failure and ultimately can be a damaging choice.

Here's a much better option: Stop in for a complimentary consultation to see what plan will work for you. I'll give you a comprehensive evaluation including possible sensitivities (to foods, molds, etc.), exploring some emotional components that have kept you from being unsuccessful in the past, and defining your personalized, workable plan. Don't start with the wrong goal; get a realistic picture of where you should be today to enjoy a healthful, rewarding life. You probably look better than you did when you went to high school anyway!

Do you think you can make all the changes yourself? Please think again. If you have been struggling with the same issues and results for a while, then chances are you are missing the boat in determining which strategies work for you and will work in the future. It's amazing how many people have lost weight only to gain it back because they don't have proper support and care.

When David began coaching with me, he was eager to try a new detox plan he had discovered. He hoped the plan would free his body of toxins and let him lose weight while following his vegetarian preferences.

What he didn't know was that he had sensitivity to soy, a primary ingredient in many of the proteins on vegetarian eating plans. David's digestion was often upset, and he wasn't getting the burst of energy that can accompany a good food-based detox plan. He was following all the instructions, but because his body did not feel good during the detox , he began to sense a deeper failure than he had before he started. He was already seeing himself fight a losing battle, and he'd only just begun.

Fortunately, David's symptoms came up early on. On our next coaching call, he shared his disappointment, and we worked together to make adjustments. Once we realized the source of his discomfort--too much soy--we were able to craft a new, healthful, personalized nutritional program that took into account this and other sensitivities. We also collaborated to come up with a workable plan for exercise and other lifestyle considerations. The result: David has had smooth sailing from then on.

Now, when people ask David what steps he took to get into a healthy pattern, he tells them to begin their own coaching plan. His knows full well that what works for him may not be the answer for the next person. It took a personalized plan and the support of a caring expert to find the strategies that worked for him.

The common factor in most success stories is identifying the problem, so get started by asking yourself these questions. Then take action to change, beginning with finding a caring partner to support you in your journey toward the positive. With the right help, you can move past these stumbling blocks and embrace instead an attitude of possibility and improved self-esteem--which lead to better health.