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An Assertive Person is not an Adversary
Speaking up for oneself in an assertive manner sometimes brings to mind the image of two people warily circling each other, fists raised, prepared to strike. Each person wants to get his/her way.
In fact, the most effective assertiveness is not ... Views:2740
Have you every noticed that some people have no trouble making requests while other people seem incapable of making a direct requests. Yet, one of the principle laws of prosperity is, "Ask for what you want when you want it and to then be responsible for whatever you get."
At the same time ... Views:2709
Do people walk all over you? Do you often feel resentful? Have you ever said, “I give and give and give…”? If so you should evaluate your level of assertiveness. Assertiveness can be simply defined as behaviors that operate in our own interest. In other words, do you put your ... Views:1016
1.) Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Too often, we place excess importance on potential problems. We all have a certain amount of energy so let’s apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy ... Views:33516
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"WHY FAILURE IS SO POPULAR"
Written By: Darren Roberts
Copyright ?1998, All Rights Reserved
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Success! Failure! Apart from the spelling is there a further difference? Naturally! One gives you what you want and ... Views:1029
Do you perform relaxed and tension-free in a practice but then race tense or scared in races or national events? This is a big sign that your mindset breakdowns when you go from practice to race situations.
Why would your mind get in the way when you think the race really counts or is important ... Views:1132
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"Why You Should Aim For The Stars"
Written By: Darren Roberts
Copyright ?1998, All Rights Reserved
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Our upbringing, schooling, tertiary education, family, work colleagues, community, friends; virtually all of ... Views:1009
You never know, when someone is going to flip out, and start firing a gun into a restaurant or store filled with innocent people.
It could happen. It has happened. And now we have the threat of terrorism added.
So, how do you stay safe?
Here's a simple tip, adapted from the world of ... Views:1176
Lie detection may start with watching for signs of lying in a person. But sometimes you have to do more than just listen and watch. Sometimes you have to trap a liar. Here is one of the many ways to do that.
Lie Detection - Introduce An Assumption
This is a common trapping technique. Here is ... Views:6926
In my travels across North America speaking on motivation and human potential I hear the same question asked repeatedly, " How can I become more assertive?" There is no doubt about it, there are people in our lives who are harmful to our health and we don't like it one bit.
I read recently ... Views:11099
The Art of Selfishness
Achieving a harmonious balance between your work responsibilities and your personal life requires that you become selfish. That’s right, selfish. Stop frowning and wipe that look of disbelief from your face. Let’s look at this concept in more detail by examining the ... Views:8345
We have in the previous chapter mentioned a few possible need conflicts. We unfortunately seldom communicate very clearly and objectively in these cases, and this lack of effective communication adds to the problem often resulting in conflict.
A classic example is a couple I remember who had ... Views:3233
Professional standards are strong guidelines for how you treat yourself within your business or career. They can include a code of ethics, guarantees, how many hours you work, etc. Professional boundaries are about how you want your clients to treat you within your business. They can include ... Views:1021
“There is no honor in hard work?was a statement hurled at me many years ago by a hippie-type. I, of course, dismissed it, considering the source, despite the fact that the young man who favored me with that piece of his mind traveled world-wide, and did pretty much as he pleased, while I ... Views:2655
CHAPTER 1
THE POWER OF CONTROL
Man is still responsible. He mast turn the alloy of modern experience into the steel of mastery and character. His success lies not with the stars, but with himself He must carry on the fight of self-correction and discipline. -Frank Curtis Williams
In today's ... Views:4252
Life is one great adventure after another for those who will try something new. There are those who consider life a success if they can tip-toe from birth to death and no one notices them. There are others who not only accept challenges, but actively solicit them. Those in the last group are the ... Views:1030
Many years ago, I ran a part-time resume service out of my New York apartment. My client showed up on time for her first appointment, nervously clutching her old resume.
"Can we just talk for awhile?" she asked.
"No," I said firmly, amazing myself. "If you want me to work on your resume, ... Views:1149
Nanny Diaries has achieved the dazzling height of Number One in book sales on amazon.com. The authors serve up delicious pseudo-gossipy scenes of a dysfunctional Park Avenue family, "Mr. and Mrs. X."
From the perspective of a career coach, Nanny is an independent contractor -- a very small ... Views:1294
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Life Lessons- byLife Designs Coach Julie Fuimano, MBA, BSN, RN
Submitted on May 12, 2007 from
"A life spent making mistakes is more useful than a life spent doing nothing." ~ George Bernard Shaw
Some people say there are no mistakes in life, only lessons to be learned. When we get clear of the lesson, we grow. When we don’t learn the lesson, then it will repeat itself over and over ... Views:1028
It scares us more than anything except death.
Being alone.
For some it is a little death. Our fear of solitude is so ingrained that given the choice of being by ourselves or being with others, we opt for safety in numbers, even at the expense of lingering in painful, boring or totally ... Views:4645
Breathing is something we do more than 14,000 times every single day. Yet the breath is something we rarely devote any attention to, and breath is one of the most powerful ways to develop awareness of our physical dimension. Breathing provides a link between our physical dimension and ... Views:2492
My goodness! Where has civility gone? Is it still here? Is it in hiding or has it been stomped on so much that it can't get up and function? Perhaps it is all of these. I believe civility is still here but only practiced on those occasions when we want to present ourselves in a good light. Then ... Views:1523
If you suffer from Bipolar disorder,you can try the following six steps to daily heal yourself from within. "Quotes Added".
1) Self-Discovery= I spent many years not knowing who or what I was. Any type of discovery takes knowledge and time.
Once you receive the knowledge you need about your ... Views:1045
One of the most important skills we can learn that will help us manage and fulfill our priorities is to say "No." Once we get there, it becomes easier and easier, but initially it can be extremely awkward and unpopular with others. Knowing the stages we’ll go through can help us realize that ... Views:9369
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life. Define yourself."
~Harvey Fierstein ~
Why do you allow people to talk to you like that?
Is there a sign on your forehead that gives people permission to talk to you in an ... Views:16265
BE ASSERTIVE AND GET WHAT YOU WANT!
We all desire to attain the best out of life. In order to do that, we must begin with knowing what we desire and being assertive in going after our goals.
1. It all starts with passion. What do you like to do? What are your interests?
2. Now ask yourself ... Views:1118
Question: I’m not a very assertive person. How do I learn to say No to people who ask me to do things I don’t really want to do? I have this problem not just with my colleagues but with my boss too.
Answer: Don’t think you’re alone. We all find ourselves in situations where we say “Yes” to ... Views:2474
In your journey through life are you the "driver" or the "passenger"?
Let me be perfectly clear what I mean about this statement. In other words,do you take charge of your own life? Do you make the judgment and set the goals for what you want your life to be like? - Or - Do you let others do ... Views:1077
Imagine a very muscular guy, surrounded by lots of weaker people. He's just finished lifting his weights. He's feeling strong and confident, ready to take on the world.
On his way out of the gym he finds a giant boulder in his path. He must get past it. It's in his way. He's got places to go, ... Views:1257
Tell me if this sounds familiar -- someone asks you to do something that you really don’t want to do or you honestly don’t have time for. It might be a church bake sale, a school fundraiser, participating on a committee, or even just working late. But you feel like you will let the other person ... Views:27040
“You must do the thing that you fear until the fear of that thing becomes no more.”
- Brian Tracy
One day, not too long ago, I was in the middle of a 5 day fast. I was looking for spiritual answers to some situations that I was facing. On the third day, I got hit with the truth. ... Views:12190
[This is a follow-up article to last week's issue on asking. If you haven't read it yet, you may want to view on our homepage, http://www.ordinarywords.com.]
Does asking really work? Is it "that" simple? Did you try it?
Some people tried it on me! A few subscribers wrote and asked me if I ... Views:1416
Imagine a store that doesn't bother putting together any policies or procedures. No one has ever decided what their business hours will be, so the customers don't know when the shop will be open -- it could be 10-2 one day and 6-6 another day. No one has decided what the store will sell, so ... Views:2202
The way you feel about yourself impacts how and why you do everything in life. If you feel good about who you are, then what you do will be an outside reflection of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Contrary to popular belief, self-esteem is not something anyone or any accomplishment can ... Views:3900
Consider this: Your world is created as you wish it to be. If you believe that you are a victim of circumstance, then you will always be a “victim”. There is a benefit to being victimized. You will always have people around you who will support you and feel sorry for you. That is ... Views:1207
Has anyone ever spoken to you in an inappropriate manner? Often people are caught off guard and are not prepared to handle these challenging situations. But, as a leader, whenever you are in a situation that’s uncomfortable, it’s imperative that you speak up; the person needs to know that the ... Views:7346
Have you ever had anyone speak to you in a tone that made you feel uncomfortable? And yet, you said nothing. Have you ever done something for someone or with someone that you really didn’t want to do? And yet, you did it anyway, only to become resentful later.
Every time you say nothing, every ... Views:1070
You're the new secretary and your boss asks you to become a Notary Public. He then walks back into his office and you can hear him on the phone talking about a contract he wants out of, and the fact that he's going to falsify a date and signature -- "No problem, my secretary will do it."
It ... Views:6459
Have you ever had anyone speak to you in a tone that made you feel uncomfortable? And yet, you said nothing. Have you ever done something for someone or with someone that you really didn’t want to do? And yet, you did it anyway, only to become resentful later.
Every time you say nothing, every ... Views:1789