We will all do two things in our lives – pay taxes and die. We do the very best we can to plan for our taxes, why don't we do as much to plan for our death ? National Hospice Foundation statistics show that Americans are more likely to talk to their kids about drugs and sex than they are to talk with their parents about death . Fewer than 25% of us have thought about how we would like to be cared for at the end of life and put it in writing. Even though nearly 36% of people will claim that they have told someone how they would like to be treated, in reality it is more likely that that information was communicated as a passing comment. One out of every two people interviewed said they would rely on family and friends to make decisions for them at the end of life, yet none of them have talked about their wishes! To compound the problem further, these same interviewees feel that enforcing the patient's own wishes when they are sick with less than six months to live is the most precious thing you can provide to a loved one.

Dr. Stuart Lazarus of the National Hospice Foundation reveals that despite the fact that hospice care has been successful in America for more that two decades, one-third of Americans do not know that only hospice offers what people say they want when dealing with a terminal illness and limited life expectancy: choice in care, control of pain, medical attention, help for the family , spiritual and emotional support, and the option to remain in their own home.

Hospice is both a service and a philosophy. Hospice embraces the philosophy that quality of life is much more important than quantity and emphasizes caring rather than curing. The patient and their family have been informed of the diagnosis and they understand that continuing therapy will be palliative rather than curative in nature. The patient is no longer seeking active treatment for their disease. The primary goal is to provide comprehensive care to those terminally ill and to their families , helping them to continue life as normally as possible. Hospice care should allow the patient to die peacefully and with dignity.

Hospice is unique in its approach to patient care. It embraces the whole person and their family. Their emotional, physical, and spiritual needs are the primary focus. Quality hospice care relies upon a team approach. Members of a patient's hospice care team include:
1. The patient's attending physician.
2. The hospice medical director - contributes specialized expertise in pain and symptom management and participates in the development in the individualized plan of care
3. The social worker - provides counseling and linkage to community services which will assist the patient and family develop coping strategies.
4. Spiritual counselors if desired.
5. The Registered Nurse - identifies physical, psycho-social and environmental needs of the terminal patient and addresses symptom management and comfort
6. The certified home health aide - assists the patient with hygiene, feeding, light housekeeping and similar personal care activities.
7. Volunteers - provide practical help, friendship and support to the patient and their family.
8. Registered dietician – provides nutritional counseling, as the food and fluid intake needs change with terminal illness.

Since 1983, hospice has been fully reimbursable under Medicare Part A. Since that time, many private health insurance companies have followed suit by adding hospice care to their plans of coverage.

Home hospice care can be accessed wherever a patient resides. In addition to the patient's own home, hospice care can be provided in a skilled nursing facility, board and care home, assisted living facility or retirement home.

How many of you reading this article right now have talked with your family members about what you want when faced with terminal illness? Do you have a durable power of attorney for health care in place? Have you made funeral arrangements? It is very difficult for adult children to discuss of end-of-life issues with their parents. The National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization recommends an "asking permission" approach. Some suggestions are, "I'd like to talk about how you would like to be cared for if you got really sick. Is that okay?," or, "If you ever got sick, I would be afraid of not knowing the kind of care you would like. Could we talk about this now? I'd feel better if we did." You really will.

Author's Bio: 

Sherry Netherland has one mission - clearing away the fog and misconceptions about the decisions that are vital to an organization or to a family when it comes to taking care of those we love. With more than 25 years in the service industry, hiring, recruiting, and retaining high-quality workers on low-service wages, Sherry knows how to spot the winners, avoid unnecessary drama, and make sound decisions. You will find her advice invaluable as you take your journey into new territories.

Sherry is the author of numerous articles about successful aging, especially the concerns of the Sandwich Generation - individuals caring for children and aging parents simultaneously. She is a health and fitness expert who provides educational programs and motivational presentations on baby boomer health care issues, including life/work balance, continuum of care for aging parents, and how to create a fitness lifestyle at any age and any size (and you don’t know how to begin).