What's It Like Being Married To You?

It's easy for you to know what it's like to be married to your spouse, because you are married to him or her, and you know what you like and don't like about that person. But have you ever considered what it's like for your spouse to be married to you? What qualities do you bring to your marriage ? Are you the kind of wife who praises your husband, or do you cause him pain? Are you the kind of husband that adores your wife or do you belittle her?

Here's how you can become a better spouse:

Ask yourself "What does it feel like to be my husband"? Does your husband feel discouraged because you regularly complain, criticize, and nag? Is he frustrated because your actions burden him? Does he feel you don’t respect the work he does to provide for his family ? Do you go behind him and re-do everything he’s done because he didn’t do it the way you would have done it? Ask yourself “What does it feel like to be my husband”?

Does your husband have self confidence because you encourage and praise him every day? Does he feel loved because you do acts of kindness for him? Does he feel respected for the work he does to provide for his family and the help he does around the house? Ask yourself “What does it feel like to be my husband”?

Put yourself in his shoes by answering the questions asked in the paragraphs above. How do you make your husband feel? If you are too negative in your marriage, ask God to help you be more loving, caring, and respectful, then have faith and trust in Him. Obey God’s command to accept your husband as he is and give him grace, because Jesus has accepted you and given you grace. Shift your focus or paradigm from what your husband does wrong to asking God to show you how to become a better wife. If your husband is happy to have you for his wife, I congratulate you and say keep up the good work.

Ask yourself "What does it feel like to be my wife"? Does your wife feel unattractive because you regularly tell her she’s overweight, or you don’t tell her how beautiful she is? Is she frustrated because every time she asks you to go out you roll your eyes like she’s a burden? Does she feel that the work she does around the house isn’t good enough? Does she feel insecure because you’re always looking at other women? Ask yourself “What does it feel like to be my wife”?

Does your wife feel beautiful because you compliment her inner and outer beauty ? Does she feel desired because you can’t keep your hands off of her? Does she know her work around the house and with the children is appreciated? Does she feel loved because you fulfill her needs? Ask yourself “What does it feel like to be my wife”?

Put yourself in her place by answering the questions in the paragraphs above. How do you make your wife feel? If you are over bearing and too negative ask God to help you become more loving, ask God how you can learn to speak to your wife without hurting her feelings, then have faith and trust in Him. Obey God’s command to accept your wife the way she is and give her grace, because Jesus has accepted you and given you grace. Shift your focus or paradigm from what your wife does wrong to asking God to show you how to become a better husband.

Look in the mirror. Keep in mind that what matters most to God is that you're faithful and loving. So look in the mirror and ask yourself if the wife or husband you see there is being faithful to God and loving to your spouse. Every day, pray for God to give you the strength you need to be faithful in loving God and in showing love to your spouse, and God will help you keep learning and growing.