The way a man approaches online dating could be the exact way he plays poker (like Texas Hold’em). If you can figure out how a man plays poker, you might easily see how he dates.
Some men are just bad poker players. They don’t have a lot of experience, aren’t invested in learning, rather timidly sign up and aren’t all that interested in perfecting their technique, strategy or game. They don’t understand poker, how it works, the dynamics of the game or what it takes to win. This translates to men who are just bad daters. Their dating history combined with their lack of interest in upping their game reveals how they are at the poker table which is crappy! They don’t have the time or interest and aren’t going to find any for you either.
Some are Bluffers. They are very good poker players, they know the game well. They are very good at reading people and know exactly how to play their cards. These guys translate into dating Bluffers who know what to say to you and when to say it. They make you feel very special and shower you with compliments, have exotic ideas for dates, may pay a lot of attention to you but… suddenly you feel like something just doesn’t add up. You notice something that is simply a bit ‘off.’ If you mention it, poof, they are gone! Many times their dating profiles are not even real. They lie about their age and income, post old profile pictures, invent reasons for canceling dates, and not calling…
Others are Card Counters. These guys have technique, strategy and all the tools to play an exquisite game of poker. They approach the game from a very systematic viewpoint, calculating every move. Their interactions with their poker partners are carefully measured. As daters their poker technique matches perfectly. These poker players translate to the serial online daters. They are manipulative, intensely analytical, evaluating and keeping track of every word while mentally assigning you points and methodically going through the motions with little or no heart behind their actions.
Finally, there is the Intuitive. They really enjoy their poker game and are in touch with their cards as well as their game. They have mastered the strategy, but realize important factors, such as how the cards are dealt, timing, where the game is held, who is playing and everyone else’s understanding and experience, all have a definite influence on the game. These are the poker players that translate into daters who are in tune to their greater surroundings are flexible and playful enough to take real life into consideration. As daters and as men, these guys realize that dating is part strategy, part luck, part timing and part chemistry. They are REAL men with a desire for REAL relationship. They play poker and date from their hearts! This guy IS the game!! He has the cards, knows the game and is not afraid to wholeheartedly pursue what he wants.
Which type of poker player is right for you? The next time you are thinking about dating, casually ask him if he plays poker and what type of poker player he is! From there, your intent could be to persuade him to play less poker with the guys and up the ante more with you! That translates to more phone calls and more dates with the right guy.
Jonathon Aslay is a successful entrepreneur, a sought after speaker and graduate of LMU with graduate honors from life’s virtual University of Dating. Being a man of intuitive knowledge, he assists women in finding that seemingly elusive man with whom they can have both compatibility and passion. Jonathon knows the male brain. He is gifted at bridging the gap between the two. He coaches men and women on how to “choose better” when it comes to life partners.
Accomplished at recognizing patterns in the things women complain about most and those that continually baffle men, Jonathon realizes that processing information from both sides enables him to filter out the interpersonal “noise” that often causes people to invest in someone who is wrong for them. He utilizes clarity and objectivity to assist others in their relationships.
Jonathon’s career as a dating coach/confidant has allowed him to educate hundreds of clients in the proven methods of “purposeful dating”. Jonathon has chosen to focus on working primarily with women, who he freely admits tend to be more coach-able than his own gender. He has a large following in the social media arena and is frequently a special guest on radio.