Hi There,
I'm Meg, Coach at Your Amazing Life. I want to share a story with you about my "time out" lesson as a parent. And guess what, parents really do need a timeout too! Here's my story.
I bought my first ever, nice sports car, a 1993 Trans Am, with the LT1 motor, and T tops. Now back then she was Dyn-NO-mite! She is still hot to me. I had never had a nice car before this gorgeous beauty . I always bought salvaged title cars for a couple grand at most. I brought my car home strutting like a peacock. My husband begged me to take her out that night to a church board meeting. Now, let me tell you, he had never attended a church board meeting IN HIS LIFE, but all of a sudden he had to go... in my car.
He left and returned after I went to bed. He came into our room and told me one of the parishioners in a very large truck, backed over the hood of my car!
After my utter disbelief, I finally realized he may be telling the truth!
Sure enough, my beloved car was beat up pretty bad. The crazy thing was, I was laughing, then crying, then laughing again... you get the idea. WHAT was happening to me? My emotions were pretty confused; I was all over the place. Yes, it was a huge disappointment to have my brand new-to-me car wrecked but on the other hand... I have this rule...
The rule is, if this was happening in an episode of the "New Adventures of Old Christine" would this be funny? Well Heck Yeah, this would be hilarious. So I was laughing again. This one simple rule has probably saved me from the paddy wagon, or at least a white padded room, more times than I can count.
We took the car to the body shop, and the entire time I was just itching to get her back to take her on our maiden voyage.
When I finally got her back, I just wanted her to hum under me so bad I was grinding my teeth, but I creeped all the way home, my knuckles are white on the wheel. I waited my whole life to have a car like that.
Now as an adult I am supposed to be patient, to show some restraint. FYI, that is SOOO not me. So I eased into my drive with the patience of a saint.
Shortly before I taught my youngest son, 3 years old how to ride his bike. As I pull in, he peddles his bike as fast as he could, and rode over to me... The entire time I'm saying NO! NO! NO! NO! as he scraped his bike down the entire side of my car, GOUGING my beloved car with the handle bar of his bike.
I calmly got out of my car, (which would be going BACK to the body shop), and thought I really need to calm down NOW. I quickly told my baby that I loved him, but it's unsafe to ride so close to cars. He mustn't ever do that again because some cars won't be able to see him, as I'm quickly trying to get to the door of my car, that he has me trapped in with his bike at my side view mirror.
Our son is very intuitive, but it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to figure out mom was acting very odd. He ask me what was wrong and I explained "Nothing's really wrong honey, momma needs a time out for a few minutes before she can talk about this". I went in my room shut the door and just breathed. Deep breath in... Deep breath out... Deep breath in... Deep breath out... after about 5 of these I remembered my rule... and yes, this would have me laughing on the floor, and yes I started to laugh.
Just as I have done on many occasions, parents occasionally need a time out BEFORE they parent.
This is a good thing.
Take the time out.
We shouldn't "teach" our children when we're emotional charged.
We're human and when we're emotional, we can't keep the emotions out of the "teaching" or the punishment.
So go ahead and take your time out, the situation will wait.
The opportunity to teach them is always there.
Children are sponges; they're always ready to learn. They learn faster and easier when taught out of love, as opposed to being schooled out of anger or emotional upheaval.
I have teenagers now, and to be honest, I will tell you my timeouts have gotten a lot longer than five deep breaths, but it still works. ;)
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With Love and Light,
MegYour Amazing Life, LLC.
Hi there.
I'm Meg Hubbard of Meghubbard.com http://www.Meghubbard.com I am a life coach and mentor. I love helping people get to their AH-HA moments. I love to help them find their answers to their happiness, passion, fulfillment. It’s so exciting to help someone know what they want, and to help them go get it. I become fulfilled in helping them reach their goals. To watch a woman become excited, creative, passionate, and feirce, that feels like she fell in love with her husband all over again. THAT ROCKS!
I know what it feels like to be stuck in a rut. I had no energy to do anything when I got home from a career I wasn't excited about. I wanted to do nothing but sit on the couch and watch TV, but I still had the kids, husband, dogs, school projects and house work to do. I was stuck in a toxic cycle. I couldn't see my way out of it. I was gaining weight, losing energy, getting sick and depressed. I would find more and more reasons not to leave the house and go out. It felt like I died a little each day and I was wasting my life away. I felt trapped. There just had to be something more.
We had three successful businesses. I had a beautiful, loving husband and two beautiful, healthy sons. We had a beautiful home and toys. I had so many blessings and nothing I should complain about, but there was still something missing. I struggled and tried to work it out but I couldn't find it. So I started to search. I had to figure it out, for me and for the sake of my family. It wasn't fair to them that I was stuck and feeling frustrated, numb, unfulfilled, empty and tired. I needed to be whole so I could help them be whole. I knew life didn’t have to be like this. I tripped and stumbled and went down dead ends. Finally after more than 14 years of searching and study I figured it out. I got my Ah-Ha moment. I can help you get yours in weeks rather than years. I became a Theta Therapy Practitioner to remove the old patterns and programs that no longer serve you. This helps you find your blocks and remove them. Once I removed my blocks I was unstoppable. You can be unstoppable too. I want to help you so you won't have to stumble and trip. I want to help make your journey as smooth and graceful as possible.
After I found the answers, I was happy ,energetic, passionate, fulfilled and abundant and my family and I laugh out loud together. My husband and I can't keep our hands off each other. IT IS AMAZING how great life is! I go to bed at night and I am excited about the morning. I wake up without an alarm clock because I am excited about my day. I am living my passion and purpose. I lost the extra weight because I am happy and fulfilled. I feel sexy, and have more energy, and confidence because I lost the weight. I became more abundant because my energy changed.
Life is better, love is better, sex is better.
That's why I became a mentor.
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Love and Light to you..