Why Putting your Feelings Into Words.....

Why Putting Your Feelings Into Words Empowers you• 1. “Pop, I have to stand up in front of 25 clients & convince them our new system is the solution. I have done my homework, but am scared I might blow it.”

• 2. “Right. You think Positive affirmations are “Hot Air”.
Do you feel that icy feeling in the pit of your stomach?

• 3. You have the statistics & test results, but you need to deliver your message to influence, convince & persuade,Am I on the right track?”

• 4. “My brain says, Yes! but my body tells me I cannot do it. Could you cook up a strategy for me to win this business game?”

• 5. “You left out that this “strategy” has to be easy to learn and implement, & take two minutes time, right?”

• 6. “I’m going to blow two years of work, and a ton of money. Is there a way I can get them to be as HOT over our new program as we are?”

• 7. “Two-parts to the answer: first, selling yourself on a Mindset of self-confidence that flashes itself to the clients. I can show you how, but you must make it happen.

• 8. Second, “Acting-Thinking-Feeling As-If” your clients already said “Yes!” and are afraid to lose your project.You must convince the clients you are the PRIZE, and not their Money. Can you get into a winning “Mindset? Good.”

• 9. “Brain science is new to you, so here’s credibility.
Lead researcher: Mathew Lieberman, UCLA, Neuroscience. Summary: when you Speak or Write about your feelings, of fear, anxiety, & stress, your brain changes from painful stress to deep relaxation .

• 10. When you put your feelings into words, like “I’m afraid, nervous & stressed about the result of my presentation.” LABELING brings a reduction in the activity of your Amygdala (emotion controller), and an increase in your Ventrolateral Prefrontal cortex (VlPFC). So what?

• 11. ‘VLPFC’ is the area of the brain that thinks in words about your emotional experiences. We want to slow down your Amygdala (controls your feelings & emotions), and triggers, activates your VLPFC. How?

• 12. Simply labeling your feelings, (say or write them),under fMRI (functional magnetic imagery) shows positive brain improvement. How?

• 13. Repeat aloud or mentally, or write this in your journal. “I am feeling Nervous, scared, stressed & frustrated about my presentation. “Cancel/Cancel” thesefeelings because they hurt my chances.”

• 14. Say “Cancel/Cancel” three-times. Write (type it) with strong-feelings. “Cancel/Cancel” is your command to your mental computer (subconscious). You are programming both halves of your brain for relaxation and to act as your “comfort-zone”.

• 15. Step 1. ‘Mentally’ shout the word, “Stop!” write or type it in “bold!” – “Stop!” This affects your Amygdala and Ventrolateral Prefrontal Cortex to help you. Wait.

• 16. Step 2. Mentally visualize in your “mind’s eye” a bright red “STOP” sign. The letters are in YELLOW on a RED background. See it, feel it, know it is commanding you to STOP! the emotions of Fear-Anxiety,-Stress & Frustration.

• 17. Step 3: Mentally create the positive result of your desires. Daydream: see all the clients applauding yourPresentation, smiling at you, and saying, “Yes!” let’s do it.” Feel-As-If – You are the prize, not their money.

• 18. This research has been proven over ten-years, and works, when you work it. It’s the secret of psychoanalysis. Tell of your fears and you control them.

• 19. Remember, labeling our feelings does not require us to want to feel better. It just reprograms our brain on auto-pilot to improve our mindset, attitude and beliefs.

• 20. This is NOT, “Just-Do-It!” or “Get-Back-On-The-Horse!” It’s your brain responding to new programming. Your own talk is ‘not’ cheap.

• 21. Both the Amygdala & your Ventrolateral Prefrontal Cortex are monitoring your feelings and language. Get it?

• 22. See if you can remember these five elements of a ‘Story’. Why? It’s good exercise for your brain to learn &remember. Learning “thickens” your brain parts.

a) Setting – When? Where? The action is taking place here.
b) Plot – the sequences of events that take place
c) Characters: the reader must identify with at least one of the pivotal protagonists.
d) Conflict: What’s at stake? What’s the prize? Hook?
e) Theme: the Motif, the principal moral of the tale.
a) “Boy-meets Girl, loses & then Wins her.”
b) “Life is a Competition.”
c) “Love-Conquers All or Maybe Not!”
d) “All failure is feedback, pointing you in the right direction.”
See ya,
“Tap-in, Turn-on, & Tune-in” to your “Willpower”.

Copyright © 2013, Bernard Wechsler