Set a time limit for when you will put a stop to negative thoughts and allow yourself to flourish again.
By Beate Chelette
You will find that I like acronyms and tools. It’s easier to remember something if we can build a bridge in our minds. We are talking about K.A.R.L. which stands for ... Views:1891
The illness or loss of a parent is one of the true tests of our dignity, our sense of self. On every European trip, my first stop was to see my father. We had always been very close. This time, we spent two days together before I left for Munich to continue with my trip before heading to Milan ... Views:3326
Sometimes, life smiles on you. It’s the kind of thing that nourishes hope. And then, life turns. And, well – you deal with it.
Upon my return from Germany and settling the affairs of my late father, I retained a lawyer—with more money I did not have—to fight the eviction notice I’d received ... Views:2724
Follow your bliss, and doors will open where there were no doors before.
~ Joseph Campbell
Timing is everything. It just helps to know where you are at what time – and many of us don’t. That’s where the problem lies.
When I began to conceptualize the idea of what I now call ego-RHYTHM™ ... Views:1416
Isn’t it the truth that we have these great ideas but somehow they get lost in the shuffle? As time goes by, these great ideas wane from our consciousness and soon they are forgotten. But let’s look a little deeper into how you can actualize those ideas.
The Nike slogan “Just Do It” sums it ... Views:1614
By Beate Chelette
The recent Atlantic cover story on whether or not women can “have it all” has certainly hit a national nerve. The week after the article came out it had received more than 1.1 million online views. Women and men all around the country are registering their objection or ... Views:1331
By Beate Chelette
The recent Atlantic cover story on whether or not women can “have it all” has certainly hit a national nerve. The week after the article came out it had received more than 1.1 million online views. Women and men all around the country are registering their objection or ... Views:1135
It’s easy to find people who will critique your business and tell you how to run it. But no one actually explains the hard part: how to make money. I know many women entrepreneurs who, like me, tend to focus on the creative side of business, with a thousand new ideas racing in our brains, but ... Views:2015
It has been a tough year for almost everyone, but doesn’t if feel as if things are moving forward again? The financial markets are recovering, housing prices are stabilizing and now we would like nothing better than getting back to conducting business as usual.
The only problem is: That is ... Views:2731
We’re Tired of Choosing!
Today’s woman doesn’t want to choose anymore. Between work and home and personal life and career. She’s had it with the balancing act.
Heresy, right?
But why is it that men don’t really have to choose and that we women, after a half-century of social progress, ... Views:2221
Most people we get to know in our business and personal lives aren’t meant to travel
the whole road with us. We forget that sometimes, especially when there’s been a good
connection, yet endings and new beginnings are the natural flow of life.
Every year I ask myself: What does my business ... Views:1009
Boundaries let people know that you respect yourself.
By Beate Chelette
"Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have."
-- Anonymous
That is ... Views:1273
Have you noticed how much fun you have working with some of your clients while others simply drive you crazy? While you can’t afford to lose any clients in today’s economy, it is still a challenge to be at your very best behavior 24/7. And yet, good customer service is crucial to the growth of ... Views:981
Have you ever caught yourself doing something that doesn’t really work, but then you still do it over and over again? I know I have. In our personal and business lives we sometimes find ourselves stuck with ineffective habits—even when we know better. Other times we just do things because we ... Views:2449
Her true power comes from unexpected places.
By Beate Chelette
What would you guess women said they wanted most in 2013? A recent survey suggests we’re seeing the rise of the alpha woman who chooses to be independent and aggressive when it comes to seeking out and getting what she wants. ... Views:1955
Problems sometimes turn out to be unexpected gifts, so look for them.
By Beate Chelette
Can’t all this move faster, I asked my herbalist the other day as I sat impatiently on the treatment table? I am smack in the middle of being rewired by nature and Steve is helping me through the ... Views:982
Can you believe it? This year is already half over. Wasn’t I just in Chicago, at my daughter’s graduation? Now summer is almost here. We all feel it. Time moves so quickly, we become absorbed in the routine of our busy lives, and some things fall through the cracks. Do you remember what your ... Views:1214
Are You A Doer Or A Talker?
Four steps to help you get past the roadblocks in your life.
By Beate Chelette
A few weeks ago I got busted by one of my own coaching clients for being out of balance. I have a particular system that I use to help my clients create the life and business of ... Views:1106
Oh the joys of finding new clients. Most business owners, and many of the creative entrepreneurs I work with–decide to look for their new clients, by licensing mailing lists. And then they start to fire off emails and blog posts to people they don’t know. At first look this beats the option of ... Views:941
Many of my private coaching clients are women who want to build a business. But they don’t really know where to start and don’t have a formal education in how to go about setting up their own shop.
Let’s go through the steps that are needed to build a successful business. It doesn’t always ... Views:1045
All these years later, I still think about what kind of mother I used to
be. It took me three years to become a real one after the birth of my
daughter. Motherhood is much harder than most will tell you or admit
to. I couldn’t understand why people said that it was so worth it. I was
32, ... Views:1171
Recently, Fortune 500 giants Yahoo and Best Buy became targets of heated criticism after they dropped a bombshell: their employees would no longer be allowed to work from home.
You could almost hear the shrieks of shocked telecommuters who would now have to return to the office—or find new ... Views:1126
You are asking the million-dollar question. All the blood, sweat, tears, doubts, and tons of time and money—and for what? It took me 13 years to become “an overnight success” but when I finally did, the rewards were extraordinary. The popular TV show Shark Tank gives entrepreneurs the chance ... Views:1187
Do you ever notice how negative some people are? Lately I’ve heard professionals make snide remarks about another or the industry they’re in and I feel as if I’m on a mission to get rid of negative thoughts. They don’t serve or help us in anyway and they interfere with achieving success and ... Views:1212
Have you said these words and then realized another hour or two went by before you were finished? You see the disappointed faces of your family, you order take-out dinner again, and you miss yet another yoga class. Instead of spending time on our family and relationship, we find we spend our ... Views:1108
I have seen it happen to many of my coaching clients. They work hard, put in the hours, follow their business plan and then their business grows. Sometimes almost too fast and they are not prepared for their own success.
Who would have imagined? You’ve heard the saying: Be careful what ... Views:1093
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could do what we love and money would flow automatically?
It actually can do this and it will, but not entirely by itself. An extra step is needed. Money comes around when it is actively pursued and it doesn’t when you neglect to do so.
Let’s take a closer look ... Views:1009
We hear the term balance a lot these days, but what does it really mean? Giving time and attention, in fairly equal measure, to our personal and professional lives is one way to look at balance. Business demands usually top everything else, especially for entrepreneurs who are trying to ... Views:967
Clients these days want to do business with people who share their core values.
No matter where I go these days, I read and hear the word “authenticity.” It’s one of the big keywords circulating everywhere, but what’s it all about and how can it help your business?
It’s hardly news that ... Views:954
One of the best arguments I know for setting goals could be an ad for a Global Positioning System (or GPS). Unless you know where you want to go, you can’t figure out a way to get there. It’s true for all aspects of our lives, personal, family and career. Even so, just having goals without ... Views:1120
I have always liked the It Takes A Village idea. Getting and giving other women—and men—support when they need it is essential for the success and well being of us all. It is also one of the core principles of The Women’s Code. I was reminded of the wisdom of the village idea two weeks ago, ... Views:1107
As a career coach, the most commonly asked questions I get are: what is the effectiveness of marketing, should I do more and how do I measure the success of my campaigns? Marketing is an important aspect for any business. Dan Kennedy, one of the most recognized and established marketing gurus ... Views:1090
It has happened to all of us. Some ideas—even really good ones—just don’t work out sometimes. We come up with a great idea and are close to signing a new client or securing a partnership and then, just like that, the opportunity is gone. Have you ever considered that maybe your style of doing ... Views:2249
Lately, I have gotten so busy that I find myself in dire need of scheduling absolutely everything. Between coaching, interviews, consulting and being the mom of an aspiring and talented young woman, I once again feel everything pulling on me at once.
I know I’m not the only one who wonders ... Views:999
And the top strategies to change that and get ahead.
[Part One]
As a career coach and longtime entrepreneur I have been able to watch how men and women work and advance (or not) in their careers. Here are some of the top reasons why women don’t get promoted at a higher rate and Part Two ... Views:1146
[Part Two]
In my last article, I talked about the reasons why women don’t get promoted more often. My experience as a career coach and long-time entrepreneur has enabled me to witness, first hand, why men tend to get promoted at a higher rate than women.
Now I’d like to talk about the ... Views:1254
Discover what you need, besides talent, to further your career.
What if someone told you, as they did me a couple of months ago, that what you say and do will either further or boycott your success? A bit scary, right? Surely, there are other things at work, too. Like talent, IQ, ... Views:1001
How to make your website a successful marketing tool.
Last month a business owner called me to inquire about my coaching services. I took a look at his company website and immediately saw a problem. His visual presentation was a mess, disorganized and confusing with a variety of links to ... Views:1005
When my daughter was little, she used to yell, “look at me, look at me” for practically everything she did. Standing on one foot, jumping in the pool, she wanted me to look every few seconds and take note of her amazing accomplishments. I was reminded of that human trait when I read an article ... Views:1114
After all the hours of therapy and self-help, self-discoveries, self-realizations, and self-improvements I’ve made, I just identified yet another layer of unresolved issues that I need to deal with. Can you relate?
When will we finally be done evolving and growing into the person who we want ... Views:1333
A client of mine calls it spinning. I call it helicopter brain. Our lives seem almost manic at times, and I’m guessing you feel it, too. Between coaching, editing my new book, event speaking, interviews, consulting and being the mom of an aspiring and talented young woman, my ability to focus ... Views:1078
If you are like many women, you sometimes feel like exploding because everything in your life seems to pull on you at the same time. We're all on a seesaw trying to balance our emotions, our attitudes, our expectations. I hear from women all the time who say they feel overwhelmed, inadequate ... Views:1982
Women can be big bullies, too, but only if people accept their behavior.
By Beate Chelette
The phenomenon of bullying is a big topic in the news these days and it is having a devastating impact on kids at school, as well as women (and men) in the workplace.
To me bullying is the zit on ... Views:1198
We’ve all been in that place, but the uncertainty can mean the beginning of an important transformation.
The days start innocently enough. We wake up, a bit sleepier then usual, and we don’t really want to get out of bed. Wouldn’t it be nice if today were a Saturday or Sunday? And yet, at ... Views:1458
Here is a shocking fact. I didn’t always like women. In fact I couldn’t stand most of them. But eventually I realized that their seemingly perfect lives were not so different from mine and not perfect either. We had similar problems in a different shade of grey. Here is an example: I was a ... Views:1360
If you are easily distracted, the one thing you need—focus—is not always easy to find.
I call it a helicopter brain and maybe you experience the same thing. I have gotten so busy lately, and there are so many thoughts in my head, that I have to schedule absolutely everything so I don’t ... Views:1485
The road traveled can be a tough one. We all go through some pretty heaving things during our lives that can derail us. It’s happened to me several times, and no matter what is going wrong, if I can remember, even for a second, that life is made up of rhythms or phases that come and go, then I ... Views:1970
The idea came to me after watching the Golden Globes. Morgan Freeman declared that he had never worked a day in his life for the last 40 years because to him his job is not work, it is his passion.
Luckily I feel pretty much the same way about what I do. In the mornings, I want to get up and ... Views:1160
The more specific your goals are, the better chance you have of achieving them.
By Beate Chelette
One of the best arguments I know for setting goals could be an ad for a Global Positioning System (or GPS). Unless you know where you want to go, you can’t figure out a way to get there. ... Views:1244
Recently, a client of mine called very upset about some bad news. A lucrative new government work project she believed was set to begin had just fallen through. It wasn’t her fault, the directors in Washington D.C. decided to put the project on hold. Convinced she would not have the cash flow ... Views:1211