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    • 4 Divorce Myths you need to bust so you can get what you want. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on May 25, 2021 from Martha Bodyfelt
      If you’re divorced and still feel guilty or ashamed about asking for what you want, you may be struggling with common myths that are making you feel like you’re not worthy. Today, you’ll learn the top divorce myths that keep you from getting what you want. And learn the powerful steps for ...
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    • Did you just dodge a bullet? - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Hey, Gorgeous! So, I'm not going to tell you something that you don't already know. Rejection sucks. There’s no way around it. As we learn to move on after divorce, even the strongest of us can’t help but feel like we did something wrong when the person we loved and cared about and ...
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    • Why is healing after divorce so hard?! - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Mar 29, 2021 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Hey, gorgeous! If your divorce is finished, you might be kicking yourself. I know I was. Back in 2011, my year-long divorce was finalized, but I wasn’t jumping up and down and doing cartwheels. I felt stuck. Sure, I was going to therapy and had good friends, but I was still ...
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    • 3 Steps to Beat Divorce Loneliness when you’re on Facebook - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Mar 17, 2021 from Martha Bodyfelt
      We’ve all been there. You pour a glass of wine after a long day at work, and all you want to do is some mindless scrolling on Facebook to give yourself a mental break. But the exact opposite happens. The first thing on your newsreel is a picture of flowers that your high school acquaintance ...
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    • Stressing about the holidays? Here's what you need to know. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
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    • Divorced and still angry? Here's that to do. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Nov 11, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Hey, so does this ever happen to you? It may have been months since your divorce ended, and you thought you were doing okay. You were picking yourself up financially, making your home your own, and trying some new activities and were feeling pretty good about yourself. But then it ...
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    • Don't be afraid to piss people off. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Nov 01, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Want to feel more confident? Then don't be afraid to piss people off. Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends. In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words... Don’t be afraid to piss people off. Strong women ...
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    • Saying sorry is killing you. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Oct 12, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Want to feel better? Then quit apologizing! Ever been in a situation like this before? You don’t pick up the phone in time and when you call the person back, the first words out of your mouth are “I’m sorry.” You bring store-bought cupcakes to your friend’s party and you utter “I’m ...
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    • Tired of feeling like a doormat? - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Oct 05, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      It happens all the time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life. Your boss just *assumes* you’re going to work late...even though you already made plans. Your ex texts you, saying how sad he is, although you asked ...
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    • Want to feel more confident? Don't be afraid to piss people off. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Sep 21, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      This is the #1 thing you must do to stick up for yourself. Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends. In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words... Don’t be afraid to piss people off. Strong women will end up ...
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    • Struggling right now? How to let go of unmet expectations - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Sep 14, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      So I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the ...
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    • Hey, that's not what I was expecting! - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      So I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the ...
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    • I’m finally divorced, so why is my self-esteem still so low? - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jul 13, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      I noticed something recently that I want to talk to you about. Do you ever find yourself thinking the following deep thoughts... Ugh. Why do I still feel like shit? I thought I’d be totally confident after all of this divorce stuff was over, so why is my confidence still in the dumpster? ...
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    • Jealous during COVID? Here's what to do. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jun 07, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      You know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
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    • Tired of being around toxic people? Here's what to do. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Martha Bodyfelt
      When you’re working to get your confidence back and build boundaries after divorce, there is one “hiding in plain sight” barrier that will keep you from reaching your goals.  And that’s surrounding yourself with toxic people.  You know *exactly* who they are... The pushy one with ...
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    • Stressing about the holidays? Here's what you need to know. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
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    • What to do when things didn't turn out the way you expected. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      So I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the ...
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    • This is the #1 thing you must do to stick up for yourself. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Aug 20, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      This is the #1 thing you must do to stick up for yourself. Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends. In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words... Don’t be afraid to piss people off. Strong women will end up ...
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    • This is why you can’t shake being pissed off all the time. But here’s what you can do about it. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jul 22, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Hey, so does this ever happen to you? It may have been months since your divorce ended, and you thought you were doing okay. You were picking yourself up financially, making your home your own, and trying some new activities and were feeling pretty good about yourself. But then it ...
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    • How to let go of your anger before, during, and after divorce. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
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    • How to be in love with everything you have in 4 easy steps. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Mar 25, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      So, you want to know about one of my favorite guilty pleasures? You might have a similar one. I love watching House Hunters on HGTV! There’s nothing better to do on a lazy Sunday morning, coffee in hand (or let’s be honest…a homemade mimosa) than curled up on my couch watching TV, and ...
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    • Tired of feeling like a doormat? Here's how to stand up for yourself. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      It happens all the time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life. Your boss just *assumes* you’re going to work late...even though you already made plans. Your ex texts you, saying how sad he is, although you asked ...
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    • Tired of feeling like a doormat? - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Feb 25, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      It happens all the time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life. Your boss just *assumes* you’re going to work late...even though you already made plans. Your ex texts you, saying how sad he is, although you asked ...
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    • The secret to beating your guilt for good - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Feb 04, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Guilt. What an ugly word and a terrible feeling. Guilt comes in all sorts of mutating forms before, during, and after divorce. We may feel guilty because of a specific/concrete action we have done, or, more likely, divorce guilt permeates our lives like a mist running through our bodies. ...
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    • If you're lonely after your divorce, here's what to do. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      When you are recovering from divorce, loneliness is definitely an obstacle that keeps you from moving on. We get stuck in this mindset because it makes us feel like we have nobody in the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Take a look at the mindful strategies that can help you kick your ...
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    • Feeling Jealous After Divorce? Help is Here! - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Martha Bodyfelt
      You know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
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    • Divorced and dreading the holidays? Here's what to do. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
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    • Divorced and dreading the holidays? Here's what to do. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
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    • Are you afraid to be alone? Here's what to do! - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      How to beat your divorce loneliness When you are recovering from divorce, loneliness is definitely an obstacle that keeps you from moving on. We get stuck in this mindset because it makes us feel like we have nobody in the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Take a look at the mindful ...
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    • Jealous after Divorce? Help is here! - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Oct 29, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      You know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
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    • Is your divorce actually a blessing in disguise? - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Divorce is tough, especially when you’re a mom. You already have a million things to worry about—taking care of the kids, professional obligations, making sure the house doesn’t look like a nuclear fall-out, worrying about college tuition, retirement, aging parents—the list goes on. So, when ...
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    • Unfair Divorce? Great, nobody cares. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      Divorce is completley unfair and can screw you over. It’s up to you to move on. Ah, if only moving on, especially after a divorce or break-up, were so easy. There are so many obstacles that hold us back when recovering from divorce, but perhaps the elephant in the room deals with the ...
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    • What to do when your divorce isn't fair. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      It’s unfair to yourself to keep trying to justify why you’re holding on to toxicity. There are lessons in letting go and moving on. Ah, if only moving on, especially after a divorce or break-up, were so easy. There are so many obstacles that hold us back when recovering from divorce, ...
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    • How to Let Go of Your Divorce Anxiety - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jul 09, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      No matter where you are in the divorce process it’s unavoidable. You know the feeling all too well. That divorce anxiety and stress. The fear of the unknown. The loss of control of the life we thought we knew. It’s normal to panic, but that doesn’t mean you have to go through your days ...
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    • Are you making this HUGE happiness mistake? - by Martah Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jun 18, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      I thought my world had ended back in January. I had this job and career that made me comfortable and paid well. It was not necessarily a job that I loved, but it made me feel secure and gave me the validation that I thought I needed. Until I was laid off. I started to panic, because ...
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    • This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
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    • This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
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    • This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
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    • This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
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    • This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
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    • Finding Joy During Your Divorce is Easier than you Think! - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on May 21, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      When we are experiencing loss and sadness in our life, everyday can feel like a struggle. Whether it is recovering from loss of a loved one, divorce, a lay-off, or anything else, we forget to take care of ourselves and find joy at the time when we need it most. Learning how to reinvent ...
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    • You already have what you need to kick some serious butt. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      So, you want to know about one of my favorite guilty pleasures? You might have a similar one. I love watching House Hunters on HGTV! There’s nothing better to do on a lazy Sunday morning, coffee in hand (or let’s be honest…a homemade mimosa) than curled up on my couch watching TV, and ...
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    • How to love *exactly* where you are right now. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      In my neck of the woods, the promise of spring is starting appear. The once-barren trees now have cherry blossoms peaking out. And the air—the type that freezes the inside of your nostrils and hits your chest so it’s hard to breath and hurts your already-chapped face—is little by little warming ...
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    • Is your anger keep you stuck? Here's what to know. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Martha Bodyfelt
      As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
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    • Divorce getting you down? Here's the secret to coping. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Martha Bodyfelt
      At this point in your divorce journey, you may have already done some research. You may have already talked to a lawyer. You may have already gone on some support forums to see if others have experienced the same crap that you are feeling right now. Some of what others on the forums, or what ...
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    • Is rejection actually a gift? Yes! - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Martha Bodyfelt
      None of us are immune to rejection. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, and whether it’s ending a marriage or breaking up with a partner. Even the strongest of us can’t help but feel like we did something wrong when the person we loved and cared about and spent our lives with as a ...
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    • Here's what to do when you're worried about the holidays. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Martha Bodyfelt
      For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. And instead of looking forward to the beautiful decorations, smell of baking pies, and holiday songs on the radio, we instead may feel triggered by sadness. Moving ...
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    • Dumped? How to get your self-esteem back. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Martha Bodyfelt
      One of the many things we struggle with as we learn to recover from a break-up is learning how to rebuild our self-esteem. It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your relationship ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You sit crying on your coach, a pint of Ben ...
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    • Feeling Jelous after your Divorce or Breakup? Here's what to do. - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Martha Bodyfelt
      You know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
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    • How to Get your Self-Esteem back after a Break-Up - by Martha Bodyfelt
      Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Martha Bodyfelt
      One of the many things we struggle with as we learn to recover from a break-up is learning how to rebuild our self-esteem. It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your relationship ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You sit crying on your coach, a pint of Ben ...
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