Left unchecked, there are a handful of pretty normal bad habits that can turn into relationship killers.
The patterns of communication listed below can start innocently enough. You probably just don’t know any better. And for a while these cycles let out some tension and can be laughed off ... Views:2757
It’s tax time! Are you ready?
If your answer is a loud “NO” – you’re not alone. Tax season seems to be one of those universal experiences that makes everyone grumpy and anxious. The whole system seems especially designed to confound ADHDers: first, keep track of every little expense for 365 ... Views:2239
When your ADHD diagnosis arrives, it can be overwhelming.
Hopefully most of your feelings about it are positive. In some respects, years or decades of frustration and missteps suddenly make a lot of sense. There is also comfort from the revelation that many of the bad habits and problem ... Views:2216
“I am so ADHD today.”
We have all heard that phrase and know what it means. It is shorthand for someone who is feeling absent-minded, and makes a joke of it that his or her brain is in the grip of distraction issues beyond their control. But have you ever said it about yourself, and wondered if ... Views:2016
What do you want? This might be one of the most loaded questions in the English language.
What is your long-term, big-picture, no-guts-no-glory goal? Not to be morbid, but what is the accomplishment you would be proudest of in your obituary? For adults with ADHD, it’s common for those dreams to ... Views:1889
A month from now, you will be powering through your New Year’s Resolutions, well on your way towards achieving feng shui in your living room, or better upper body strength, or all-around inner peace.
But for now, take a victory lap in honor of 2012 (whether or not last year’s resolutions all ... Views:1899
“What is my role in life? How do I fit in?”
These are questions that everyone on earth has given some thought to in their lives. For some, the answers are harder to find than others – especially when some intangible difference separates people into “us” and “them,” making those searching ... Views:2018
A holiday party is less than fun when you’re the one arriving late, or forgetting the gifts, or – worst of all – scrambling in the kitchen and wishing you had never volunteered to play host while hungry guests sit in the living room.
As the nights grow frosty and the dreams of sugar plums ... Views:1975
It is especially hard these days to maintain a center of equilibrium amid the pressures and stresses of daily life. It’s difficult to escape reading or hearing stories and murky pieces of information that bring us down, making us question the sanity of the world and the viability of our own ... Views:1693
To live as an asset, we must live fully in the present. Most of us live as if we were half alive. The Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, observes that we walk around more dead-like than alive-like. He says we tend to live in the past where life has already happened or we live in the future where we ... Views:2069
There are many Colleges and Universities throughout the nation that offer excellent services and support to students with the ADD/ADHD brain type. That means offering personal assistance and mentoring, innovative teaching styles, tips and strategies for better organization and, above all, ... Views:3583
I have found that for many ADHD couples it is hard to see the true warning sings that their relationship may need outside help. When immersed in our own conversation and behavior patterns with each other, it would be unusual for us to be able to see the larger perspective of what is really going ... Views:1942
Today it is more important than ever to learn good strategies for having meaningful and happy relationships. For couples where one or both of the partners have ADHD, this can prove to be particularly challenging.
With ever increasing demands on our time and energy, it is easy to neglect ... Views:1731
I recently heard that there is a new program being funded that is designed to inspire and teach innovative thinking to students in the 6th, 7th and 8th grades. Since this is where new generations of innovators get their start, I believe this is an idea well worth supporting.If we can reach kids ... Views:1615
What is the deciding factor for a rapid-fire thinker? Is it education? Is it peer relationships? Is it the right meds?
I believe that the tipping point between solid, grounded life success and shaky, scary failure is how you feel about yourself. Self-esteem is the core issue of ADHD and ... Views:1645
Meditation is a great way to calm and focus yourself if you have the ADD brain type. In fact, research has shown that mediation has the power to not only calm you down, but retrain your brain to work better. Meditation is also good for gaining perspective and helping you make better decisions ... Views:1332
The truth about what exactly is ADD can be confusing. There are many interpretations out there each claiming to be the right one. ADD is a disability. ADD is a brain type. ADD is an executive function disorder. So how does one navigate the confusing waters of these competing definitions? How do ... Views:1605
Structure gives you the ability to follow a routine and daily agenda; get your bills paid, keep up with your professional tasks at work, manage your relationships, get places on time, know where you put things, etc. A lack of structure causes the opposite result. So there is great importance in ... Views:2224
Then your greatest asset is your rapid fire thinking!
With this asset, you are able to come to the best conclusions quickly, effectively, and way ahead of the people who don’t have ADHD. Let other people around you do the organizing, paperwork, and the detail managing. Your job is to create ... Views:1683
To live as an asset, we must live fully in the present. Most of us live as if we were half alive. The Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, observes that we walk around more dead-like than alive-like. He says we tend to live in the past where life has already happened or we live in the future where we ... Views:1212
Vampire Thinking Series # 6
So many of us don’t realize how fear drives our everyday world. Fear is often behind our lack of authentically loving relationships, unsatisfying jobs, disappointment in our selves, bad money management, and lackluster lives.
Take a few minutes out of your ... Views:2059
Vampire Thinking Series # 6
So many of us don’t realize how fear drives our everyday world. Fear is often behind our lack of authentically loving relationships, unsatisfying jobs, disappointment in our selves, bad money management, and lackluster lives.
Take a few minutes out of your ... Views:2059
Last week I introduced the concept I recently coined called Vampire Thinking. Vampire Thinking is the compulsion we all have to suck the juice right out of our possibilities and opportunities. Instead of acting on a good idea, we excel at finding a slew of reasons we should kill it as soon a ... Views:3184
I knew I needed to come up with a better name for this thinking type. It is a habit of mind we tend to take for granted as part of our mental make up and how we do things. But it has a powerful pull on our minds, sort of like a magnet the size of King Cong. I work consciously to identify this ... Views:3109
Because of how the ADHD brain functions, people with this condition commonly experience several workplace challenges that can negatively impact their performance. These challenges include: Time/Task Management, Distractibility/Impulsivity; Working Memory; Organization; and ... Views:2637
Because of how the ADHD brain functions, people with this condition commonly experience several workplace challenges that can negatively impact their performance. These challenges include: Time/Task Management, Distractibility/Impulsivity; Working Memory; Organization; and ... Views:3217
Karen is a 23 year old woman who felt extremely uncomfortable around people. She originally contacted ADD Insights for coaching services, because she felt she had nothing to offer. By her own admission, she felt she was unattractive and had nothing interesting to say. Karen did not attend ... Views:3403
Because of how the ADHD brain functions, people with this condition commonly experience several workplace challenges that can negatively impact their performance. These challenges include: Time/Task Management, Distractibility/Impulsivity; Working Memory; Organization; and ... Views:2107
Is ADHD really a legitimate brain condition? Or is it a made-up diagnosis used to explain aberrant behavior? Is the ADHD label an opportunity for some people to slough off responsibilities and get a pass on completing necessary tasks? Does it give people an excuse for their mistakes and their ... Views:1918
Because of how the ADHD brain functions, people with this condition commonly experience several workplace challenges that can negatively impact their performance. These challenges include: Time/Task Management, Distractibility/Impulsivity; Working Memory; Organization; and ... Views:2463
For many of us trust is not necessarily an easy thing. It can be a big word - loaded with disappointments and few happy memories. We hesitate when we are faced with the desire or need to trust someone and are not comfortable when they trust us. We fear what may happen by making ourselves that ... Views:4225