Reconnect with Safe and Happy Feelings

This is the outline for the call Reconnect with Safe and Happy Feelings which is a part of our Body Vitality Workshop as we focus on Body Safety with co-hosts Rick Wilkes and Cathy Vartuli. Team members can listen to the recording here.

Deepak Chopra, in Ageless Body, Timeless Mind says...

Intelligence is present everywhere in our bodies… Our inner intelligence is far superior to any we can try to substitute from the outside.

What are the deeper benefits of reconnecting with our body, besides "just" safe and happy feelings?

We take the view that the body is intelligent and has our best interests (and its survival) at heart.

- Each body has a unique story to tell.

- If we give ourselves the time to slow down, turn inward and listen to our body's messages, we can tap into a broader intelligence (including non-physical guidance). [See Body YES and Body NO]

- The ability to be present in our bodies offers the possibility for changing our lives.

- Our bodies exist in the present moment where deep change and insight can occur.

- This approach is informed by trusting the wisdom of your unique experience and story as it unfolds in your awareness.

- Honoring your experience can be one of the most profound acts you can take. Your experience matters because it is the entry point into knowing who you are and the access point to creating the life you want.

- Learning how to have a positive and pleasurable relationship with our bodies can have profound effects on our health and well-being.

- Grounding, centering, deep wisdom , and expanded creative potential are the many gifts of embodiment (i.e., "being fully present in your body").

- Increasing body awareness helps us to access our intuition and make informed choices.

- Being present with our body experience allow us to uncover and resolve limiting patterns… thereby inviting new pathways for thinking, feeling, and moving.

Softening Blocks to Reconnecting

- The body is always in the NOW. If we're distracted by future worries or past regrets, it's hard to connect.

- Reducing your anxiety and stress helps to soften resistance. Use EFT, meditation, and massage to help relax. [See also Grounding Exercises]

- Sometimes we're braced against relaxing into the body. We expect pain or are too wound-up to relax.

- Touching the natural comfort points used in EFT and taking a breath can help (also called Touch and Breathe). Gently touch each tapping point with your fingertips and breathe in and out. If you like, say aloud, "I am safe now" at each point.

- As we reconnect, it can be useful to listen to our body's guidance as best we can.

- If we approach this gently (not forcing it with willpower), and we do our best to determine if we're disconnected out of habit or because there is a block or fear there, the process is easier on your physiology and emotions.

- If there is a block, we can tap it away.

- And tapping prepares us energetically if something comes up as we reconnect with disassociated parts of our body.

- If it is habit that is blocking the connection, we can gently remind ourselves (tap tap tap) that we are now safe. And practice.

- Beating ourselves up over not connecting is not very helpful… but we ALL DO IT! (whack whack whack)

Reasons We Distrust Our Body

- It's much easier to reconnect if we have a good relationship with our body… yet how many of us really LIKE and easily communicate with our body?

- People who do not feel safe also typically DISTRUST, DISLIKE, and DISRESPECT their body. These are massive blocks!

So what are the reasons we distrust our body?

- It sent us signals we didn't understand or couldn't pay attention to (or even forced to ignore) in the past.

- It "created" conflict and confusion.

- It was a source of pain (either directly or inflicted by others).

- Many of us experienced either abuse or trauma when we were too young to know how to deal with it. (Healthy trauma release was not modeled by parents and teachers.)

- When we freeze (rather than fighting or fleeing), the powerful fear chemicals that flood the body do not get "burned off" and make the body an exceedingly uncomfortable place to "be."

- When body guidance is ignored (as it often must be under the restrictions imposed by parents and teachers), the body "NO" gets stronger and more uncomfortable.

- When we didn't have a clear understanding of what was going on in our body, we blamed the body for its failings and negative feelings.

This cycle of distrust builds RESENTMENT towards the body, and by Law of Attraction , we start noticing all the ways it is deficient. (Of course, if it was totally deficient we'd be DEAD and in no position to notice more minor "failings.")

- My body doesn't do what I want it to do… all the time.

- My body doesn't look how I want it to look.

- It hurts me.

- It is vulnerable to damage, disease… even… DEATH!

Tapping: the above energies.

Start shifting and softening those energies by…

- Write down 5 things you especially dislike about your body. Do a couple of rounds a day on each of them. (We probably spend that much time each day beating ourselves up anyway.

- Write down 5 things you especially like about your body. Do some positive tapping while you look in the mirror and notice each of them.

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