How to Stop Being Needy and Create a Healthy Relationship

If you are one of those individuals who is at odds as to why your relationships fail and/or wondering why people suddenly disappear from your life or withdraw from you and you are ready to do something about it; then this article is for you. This article will shed some light on what the causes are and how with a little tweaking of your unconscious drivers it is now possible to reclaim full ownership of your life, mind and body without counselling, coaching or endless hours trying to understand why you do what you do.

You have most likely come to the awareness that needy behaviour is a huge turn off. Do you know most needy people keep getting rejected simply because they don’t know they are needy?

So what does constitute as a needy behaviour and what can one do about it?

If you:
• Have a fear of being alone
• Need others to constantly text, call, or email
you
• Experience overpowering feelings of jealousy
• Have a fear of making decisions and taking
responsibility for yourself
• Need to possess your partner
• Engage in affairs
• Have temper tantrums
• Have a controlling personality
• Need to please others
• Regularly try to get attention from others
• Are self-aggrandising
• Need others to take care of you
• Feel like a child in an adult body
• Have low self-esteem , low self-worth, or low
self-confidence
• Feel empty inside
• Feel like there is something wrong with you
• Feel unattractive
• Need others to validate, accept, like or love you
• Need to belong to a group
• Have few of your own interests or hobbies
• Are afraid of rejection
• Are afraid of abandonment
• Are shy
• Are unsure of yourself
• Keep making bad relationship choices
• Keep getting rejected
• Are self-sacrificing
• Need to be rescued

And so on, then you have a significant “neediness” problem which has and will continue to plague your relationship life forever.

The items above result from old dysfunctional relationships in your family of origin, the memories of which remain firmly stored in your subconscious mind much like computer software . However, most individuals do not realise that this programming (also referred to as “conditioning” by some) has a powerful influence on one’s self-confidence, self-image, sense of adequacy, wholeness and attractiveness.

The negative memories leave a deep emptiness that many feel can only be filled by others around them. This is the source of the “neediness” i.e. an emptiness that “needs” to be filled up. At the deepest level, it is about the need to feel loved, desirable, wanted, welcomed, useful, validated, acknowledged, appreciated, accepted and so on.

What has not been recognised is that
a) these needs can “never” be met by others and;
b) can only be sourced from within.

The Source:

So where or what is that “source” you ask?
Well it was discovered a decade ago that negative memories themselves are responsible for generating the feeling of emptiness. This emptiness refers to what I call a “deficiency” of Life Force Energy from the mind/body. The negative memories deplete one’s energy and leave them with a feeling of emptiness in its wake.
What has been discovered is that by “erasing” those negative memories, Life Force Energy spontaneously returns and re-integrates itself with the mind/body leaving the individual feeling whole, complete, attractive, adequate, confident, capable, strong, and resilient again.

Learning to Erase

So how does one accomplish this “erasure”? Well, a new coaching process has been developed to do just that. To learn more about it or to request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to help you experience and remember who you were meant to be kindly visit the Institute of Self Mastery website.