After a breakup, it is not uncommon to find yourself wondering how to get back together with your ex girlfriend. Spending time thinking about what you could have done to save the relationship will not get her back. At this point, an apology letter will most likely do little to rectify the breakup. Most of the time, it is difficult to tell the actual reasons behind the breakup.

Women can get emotional when it comes to breaking up and this emotion can sometimes interfer with the reasons for breaking up. In saying this, the reason behind a breakup is not always clear cut and it is better to focus your energy elsewhere.

To begin getting your ex girlfriend back, you need to set aside any thoughts you have of her for a period of time and use that energy to focus on yourself. Make time to have fun, enjoy yourself and better yourself by setting some future goals. A couple of months will give you enough time to implement some changes and start feeling better about yourself.

After a couple of months you will feel refreshed and more clear minded. The point to this step of the strategy is to allow yourself to feel better and to see things in a different light. After some months of working on yourself, you will have a clearer idea of whether your future plans include your ex, or not.

Once you know whether you want to go after your ex girlfriend or not, you need to put a plan into action. If you do want to get her back, this is the time to find out what she is thinking about you. The direct, strategic approach is needed at this stage of the plan.

But whatever you do, avoid begging her as this will not help you win her back. Staying casual and cool towards her is your best option. With a couple of months of seperation, she will probably miss you just as much as you miss her. When she sees that you are doing fine without her, she may rethink things.

If you are both meant to be together, it will be obvious around this point of the strategy. And don't worry about analyzing everything you do because this can just hinder your plan to stay cool and calm. Give it some time and stay calm as you see what unfolds.

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