Many years ago, I attended a seminar given by Caroline Myss in Los Angeles, CA. During the course of the seminar, one young man raised his hand and asked a question. It seems he was confused, not yet knowing what to do with his life and facing a variety of job offers and opportunities. But he was stuck because he had no idea which one to take. He listed them off, one by one, there were five total. He asked Caroline what he should do, how could he possibly know which one would be the right one, the best one, when he wasn’t even sure of his direction.
Her answer still plays in my mind today as she replied to his question. “It doesn’t matter WHAT you choose, just choose SOMETHING. Make a decision, just choose one and do it.” She went on to say that through the act of making a decision, a purposeful choice, he would begin to see what he wanted and that choosing any one of those opportunities would eventually lead him to the place he is meant to be. She finished by saying, “You have until 12:00 noon tomorrow to decide.”
His question resonated with me because I too have found myself in that place many times throughout my life, asking, “What should I do?” “Which choice is the right one?” And there began the battle between heart and mind. There have been many times when I didn’t know, so I didn’t choose, and unfortunately, that inability to decide made my choices for me.
How many times have we decided to just wait and see what happens? Isn’t that just another way of not making a decision? If so, it’s not a very good way of going about it. Like the band Rush says beautifully in their song, Freewill, “If you choose not too decide you still have made a choice.” Without making a decision, we are powerless to manifest what we truly want and lose confidence and belief in ourselves in the process.
So here’s a suggestion to try the next time you need to make a decision and you’re not sure how to make it. Realize that it’s not about making the “right” or the “wrong” choice, it’s about deciding what experience you want to have. Be sure to bring your heart into the decision making process and see what it wants. We get so caught up in making the “right” choice that we lose touch with the experiential nature of life itself and therefore miss out on the ability to allow our heart and intuition to play a role in the decision making process.
Is it time for you to make a decision about something? If there were no right or wrong choices, what experience would you choose to have right now? Which experience would make your heart happy?
Bambi is the founder of Living with Purpose… On Purpose™, a company dedicated to deepening people’s sense of purpose and calling by teaching them to connect with, and live, their lives' passions.
With over 27 years of corporate experience, Bambi’s passion is helping other transitioning professionals to begin living the life they feel called to live, just as she has. She does this by using her expertise in spirituality, energy and mindset management, the law of attraction, and dreamwork.
Bambi believes in possibilities, in the power of change, and that every individual has the ability to chart a different path simply by choosing an authentic life based on deliberate choices. She uses her training and philosophy to help others open their minds to enhanced perspectives that support these changes, working to overcome limiting beliefs that may keep them from manifesting the life they desire. She also uses her expertise in dreamwork to help support these changes because each dream is constantly commenting on the true and emotional state of the dreamer allowing people to gain a broader perspective about where they’re at in their lives in comparison to where they want to be. By combining the two, the ultimate reach is deeper and attention is drawn to that which may not otherwise have been consciously recognized.
Bambi gives her clients tools to listen to their inner wisdom and intuition in order to chart the path that most resonates with them and is known for her ability to listen deeply and see the bigger story that is playing out in her clients' lives.