At times of crisis, such as when a loved one passes away, we are more likely to reflect on the things we haven’t done, the places we haven’t visited, the words we didn’t say, and wish we had done them, gone there, said them.

I cannot be certain how or when I learned to follow my deepest desire and go for it, without being too concerned about the potential risk. One example was when I gave up one, highly lucrative but unfulfilling job to take on another at half the salary, twice the hours and three times the personal satisfaction. Another was leaving the security of the country of my birth and a rewarding and successful practice to start over again with no visible means of support in a new country. There are many other examples.

Everything has always turned out well. Seldom as I had imagined, but always well. Waiting around the corner is another adventure in life. Watch this space, for I will be taking it. It has started now with my imagination taking me towards the reality of new unknown possibilities.

What are you holding on to? If it’s important, now is the time to make it happen.

In Peace and Love

Warren

Thanks to those who sent in your comments and thoughts. Here is a sample of your contributions.

It’s all about one’s attitude . Each person gets to decide - are they happy or sad, a success or a failure, do they learn from a bad experience or let that bad experience kick them in the butt? Do they let that one negative thing ruin their whole day – or do they see the hundreds of blessings & good things in their lives? It’s each person’s call!

Attitude is everything!! This is the most important lesson you can teach others!

In Peace & Love,Stephanie
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I was happy to receive the news through the monthly newsletter that you were in Montreal presenting to the Counseling Associations. Congratulations! You do incredible work and you never tire of spreading the good news.

Janna

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I like your email format, and applaud your consistent positive energy.

I have been thinking about competition recently, about the way that we make ourselves into losers. And then your newsletter arrived with the editorial introduction being about competition, and winners and losers, and something crystalized for me, so I want to share it with you.

Winners and losers are part of the language of competition. We usually want to be winners rather than losers because it makes us feel special in a good way, better than others. I think that you want people to get that they can have the good feelings associated with feeling good about themselves without having to win a zero-sum competition which forces someone else to be losers.

I do too.

But we can't undo the codependence of competition with the language of competition. Saying, "everyone is a winner" won't work. Winners are people who win, and the context is over others. Winners are the up side, losers the downside. They're in a codependent dance. We need a new word Everyone can't be winners, because that's not what the word means. If everyone wins, then there wasn't a competition, and so winning means nothing since it doesn't mean you're better than anyone else, which was the payoff associated with the word. Similarly, if everyone is special, then no one is special since in that case special doesn't mean special, it loses its value (in the competition worldview).

David Shackleton

Warren Redman
www.EFitInstitute.com
1-866-310-3348 (EFit)

Author's Bio: 

Warren Redman trained in the UK as a psychotherapist, facilitator and coach and has developed his own unique style of Emotional Fitness Coaching. He is president of the Emotional Fitness Institute (formally the Centre for Inner Balancing), writing about, teaching and coaching people in Emotional Fitness. He is the author of fifteen books, including the Award-winning The 9 steps to Emotional Fitness, Achieving Personal Success and Recipes for Inner Peace.

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