Rule 1 Of Success: Remove The Word “Can’t” From Your Vocabulary

We are all faced with new challenges every day of our lives.  How we choose to approach what life throws at us is the difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful person.  You will notice, if you look hard enough, that there are many key differences between someone who is successful and someone who is not.

• A successful person will face life head on.  An unsuccessful person will hide from the world.
• A successful person will give even the smallest task everything they have.  An unsuccessful person will do the give the minimum effort required.
• A successful person will take responsibility for failure and learn to succeed the next time.  An unsuccessful person will blame failure on anything and anyone but themselves, learning nothing.
• A successful person will never start a new challenge by saying "I can't.  They will say "Let me see how I can do this.."  or "I can do this, not a problem" or "Give me a few minutes and I will figure this out."
• An unsuccessful person will sabotage themselves before they even begin facing a new challenge.  Often the first thing that comes to their mind and out of their mouth is "I can't do this."  

The difference between being a successful person and being unsuccessful comes from your Mind Set.  Yourmind set is the daily dialogue we have with ourselves.  Every day we talk to ourselves, evaluate our selves and our abilities and we judge ourselves, often harshly.  The conversations you have with yourself will effect every aspect of your life.  The good news is that you mind set can be changed by changing the way you talk to yourself. 

• Never talk negatively to yourself.  If you think something negative, pause, take a deep breath and say something positive instead.  "I am such a failure, I lost that sale..."  should turn into "I lost that sale, but I will figure out why I lost it so I can learn from it and be successful next time." 
• Remove the word "can't" from your vocabulary immediately.  Every time you think it or say it, put a quarter in a jar, snap a rubber band on your wrist or do something that reminds your mind that "can't" is not a word.  
• Do not shy away from challenge.  You should challenge yourself each and every day.  If your mind, body and soul are not challenged often, your spirit wilts and becomes a heavy weight that can hold you back.  When you challenge yourself, your spirit feels accomplished, light and happy.  
• Do not judge your success solely on if you succeed in the challenge or not!  Judge your success on how well you tried.  If you focus on the success of failure of the final result, you miss the entire point of the challenge.

Life is a journey of experiences.  Sometimes you will succeed and other times you will need to go back to the drawing board and try again.  The important point is that you do try again, and that  you keep trying.  Anyone can do anything.  Period.  If you tell yourself anything different, you are lost before you begin.    Remember:  You will never learn to fly unless you go out there and try