To be a leader you need to make the right choices. In our lives if you stop to think about it we always have at the minimum of two choices in everything we do. Back in school we learned of Newton’s physical law, the law states that with every action there is an equal and opposite reaction and therefore every cause has an effect.

Equal and opposite reactions consist of things such as the choices, up versus down, in versus out, positive or negative, dark or light, over or short, happy or sad, good and evil, heaven and hell, stop or go, left or right, you can see my point.

To become a leader you will need to embrace the positive and discard the negative. The personalities that we develop are a product of how we choose to view life in general. Without the knowledge that we have these choices it is easy to drift in the wrong direction. Our challenge then is to control our thoughts so that we always understand at any given moment in time – we have a choice, on how we think, on how we react, on how we choose to live this one life we have been given.

We cannot back up in time and change the bad choices we made yesterday but we can choose today to grasp the knowledge that we have learned and move forward making the choices that not only make us happy but will also help every life we come in contact with. You have the power to make amazing changes in your life and in those lives that you touch.

Will you make the choice to become a leader or a follower? Will you make your life worth living or just live? Only you have the power to make these choices and these choices will effect every hour of every day that passes.

How do you train your mind not to react in a negative manner? Stop and think before you choose.

How do you know what choices to make? Always pick the positive over the negative.

For the average person the largest part of their thoughts are negative. Review your thought process. Do you have negative thoughts about yourself? Do you condemn yourself more than pat yourself on the back for a job well done? Are you always bracing yourself for the worst outcome? How often do you view the negative in a person rather than focusing on the positive? If you have 100 compliments and 1 criticism which one do you dwell on?

Like a resume you need to look at your strengths not your weaknesses. Look at all of the beauty that surrounds you. Take the time to enjoy life’s small pleasures as well as the large ones. When faced with a difficult situation that prompts you to think of negative thoughts or bad feelings, Stop and look for the flip side of the coin, the equal and opposite reaction and take the positive approach. Take pride in what you contribute to this world - generate passion and give purpose to every task you take on.

Take the challenge today to start living your life by shifting the negative thought process to positive. Dwell on the compliments and learn from the criticisms. Let others see the light shine through your eyes and they will want to find your secret to happiness and success which now you have the ability to share.

Become a leader.

Author's Bio: 

Susan Del Gatto has a degree in social work. Works in the field of Management Consultant and is the author of 'Cobwebs of the Mind' - How to Take Control of Stress. She is also owner/operator/writer/editor for abc-stress.com