"A little restraint is good"

"A little restraint is good"

Every day we are faced with situations that could easily bring out the worst in us. A colleague says something that upsets you. A friend makes a comment that irritates you. It is easy to lash right back, but it might be wiser to adopt a little restraint. Our first impulse might not help the situation, it will probably only escalate the feelings on both parties. Instead of lowering yourself to another's level, try taking the higher road with a dose of restraint and calm. Sometimes just taking a bit of time to organize your thoughts and take a deep breath will benefit everyone involved. If you ever feel so angry and know there is a good chance that you'll say something that you'll regret later on, take a step back. How many of you have impulsively said something that was hard to repair later on? Sometimes you can't fix words that are hurtful and not thought through. This week try catching yourself before overreacting to something that obviously pushes your buttons.

ACTION TIPS FOR THE WEEK:

1. Take a breathWhen you are caught off guard, it is easy to overreact and act impulsively. Next time this happens, take a deep breath and resist the urge to snap right back. Just the mere act of waiting will give you time to think clearly about your actions prior to doing them. Focus this week on taking breaths whenever you feel something or someone getting the best of you!

2. Escape the environmentWhen something is said and you feel yourself holding back, sometimes it is necessary to take a step away. Distancing yourself from the environment will also allow you to take some time to think through your next move. You may or may not need to confront the person, but at least allow yourself a break to come up with rational alternatives.

3. Get information neededBefore coming to your own assumptions as to why someone acted a certain way, ask questions. Get yourself the information needed prior to putting your foot in your mouth. Most of the time once you receive an explanation, it alleviates your urge to lash back. Just understanding someone else's point of view, creates a bigger picture than what you assumed. Try this this week! Ask questions, and do the research before jumping to conclusions.

Good Luck!Have a great week!

Leslie