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When people ask what I do for a living and I tell the I'm a specialist in Stress Management, the universal reaction is 'Boy! You must be busy!' or 'Goodness! Do I need you, but what exactly do you do?'.
Then often what happens afterwards is...nothing. Sometimes it's because people ... Views:1285
Awareness, mindfulness and observing are words referring to the same experience. There is a profound difference between being immersed in white-water rapids, tumbling downstream, out of control, with all kinds of debris, and then spotting a tree branch hanging over the water, grabbing the ... Views:1463
My title is prompted by the oft repeated phrase: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
What is your experience of this? Is suffering optional? Is that even a desirable goal? Or are there experiences that automatically cause suffering? Is there a function to “suffering” or feeling one’s ... Views:1334
Anger is a normal and healthy emotion that causes psychological changes to occur, such as intense frustration and irritation. There are also physiological changes that occur, such as an increased heart rate and a raised level of adrenaline. Anger can be beneficial by helping to provide the ... Views:6989
There are a variety of reasons a person may become angry. In previous articles, I have discussed the primary feelings that result in anger and the high expectations one may have, which result in disappointment and subsequent anger. I now want to introduce how a person’s belief system can cause ... Views:2076
Anger is what we all see. When someone is angry, it is obvious by the look in the person's eyes, the clinched fists, sweat on the brow, and loud voice...
Upon closer inspection, anger is like an iceberg. The tip represents the anger, which
everyone sees. However, there is 90% more of that ... Views:5126
Have you ever had the experience of sharing your life challenges or problems with an empathic listener who gave you his or her undivided attention? A kind of listener who did not judge you and really cared about what you had to say. Someone who was not quick to give you advice and solutions but ... Views:1469
With couples divorcing and splitting up at the highest rate modern time, quality couple therapy is a must. And, finding a qualified couple therapist is essential. Only 14% of therapists in the United States that state they do couple therapy have actually had training in how to do couple therapy. ... Views:1647
Few issues a couple may face have a more devastating impact as an affair, infidelity or cheating. Infidelity erodes the basic foundational reason the couple exists; their emotional bond. This emotional bond is substantiated by the couple's believe that they are the most important person in their ... Views:1629
When faced with decisions a battle commences between our hearts and our heads. Our heads are full of so called ‘common sense’; others people’s ideas of how we should exist. The should’s and oughts’s of society, culture and family. ‘What will other people think if I do this?’ mentality. But it is ... Views:1536
Grief; What Is It?
We all hear about grief, it’s something we are trained to know something about, even when we are small. It’s that thing that happens to us when someone dies. That’s grief, the word for that place we must visit when we are suffering a loss.
But exactly is it? Or, could ... Views:1370
Most of us at one time or other have confided in a friend, or family member, and later realized that it was not such a smart thing to do. You may have disclosed personal information and they gave you uncalled-for advice. You may have been judged and hurt your feelings - but if you tell someone ... Views:1585
This brief article will answer a few important questions about counseling. I will use the terms counseling, psychotherapy, and therapy inter-changeably since they mean the same thing. Why does a person decide to go to counseling? How do you choose the right place and the best counselor for you? ... Views:1447
As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I work with people who suffer with depression. When I have depressed clients, I know two recommended practices designed to help them feel better; medication and talk therapy. The medication elevates the mood; talking about problems can get to the ... Views:1357
What many therapists fail to recognize is that past life regression therapy is a therapeutic technique. They confuse the technique with the religious concept of reincarnation. They do not believe in Reincarnation so they dismiss the therapy without examining its merits. Their attitude is ... Views:1247
Changing patterns of behavior
The Latin roots of 'resentment,' re and sentire, mean 'to feel again' -- to feel over and over again the pain caused by the wrong that was done. Letting go of that resentment is a lot of the 'personal work' done in forgiving, and is often what takes so long
... Views:1141
Anger expression management
Letting it out in acceptable manners is one way to deal with anger.
Sports activities provide helpful physical outlets for pent up tensions. When I was under emotional stress in the Air Force during the Viet Nam war, I played racquetball or squash six or seven ... Views:1388
Each of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit.
William James
Introduction
Anger is a natural response to being endangered or hurt. Challenges that commonly elicit anger include:
Being attacked verbally or ... Views:1321
Online therapy (also referred to as Internet therapy, distance therapy, cyber therapy or e-therapy) is used to describe the variety of ways a professional counselor or psychotherapist can communicate with you over the Internet or telephone. It may consist of emotional support, mental health ... Views:1338
The “Dinzel Group”, integrated by Ignacio Lavalle Cobo, Monica Peri among others said:
Psicotango is based in the universal value of the embrace, and in the gregarious ritual of the dance. The bodies that in movement are the royal pathway to the unconscious. The diseases are pictures of ... Views:2882
Dear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom,
My thirty-two year old stepson has hit some hard times and has had to move in with us. He lost his job, lost his condo in foreclosure, and his girlfriend broke up with him. I’m very worried about him, but my husband thinks he has to just tough it out. My stepson stays ... Views:1816
Most patients undergoing total hip replacement surgery want to know when they'll be able to return to their normal life. "Recovery time" is a common question posed to specialists and non-specialists alike. There are many factors that can contribute to recovery time, but typically patients can ... Views:1678
WHAT IS CHILDHOOD ABUSE?
Child abuse can take the form of any act of emotional, physical or sexual abuse perpetrated against a child. Child abuse can also take the form of neglect: ignoring the child's emotional and or physical needs. Child abuse can take place inside and outside of the ... Views:1682
In this article, I'd like to share an extremely important idea from the world of cognitive therapy. It is an idea that I use in most of my psychotherapy sessions. To illustrate it, let me begin with a model called the ABC's.
The ABC model is a framework that was developed by a psychologist ... Views:953
As hands-on healers, massage therapists, body workers, we have tremendous responsibility and great opportunity to provide our client’s with an experience of touch that can have a profound impact on their physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. This experience begins the moment the ... Views:1424
Imagine for a moment that you come in three layers. (Actually, the human has five main layers, but three will do for clarity’s sake.) Picture a pyramid, point up, divided into three horizontal bands. In order of frequency/vibration (highest to lowest) we find Spirit at the top, Soul in the ... Views:3384
This article explains how magnets work to aid healing in the body.
Many people are seeking alternative health care due to the high cost of paying for medical bills and knowing that one prescription drug will lead to another one, mainly because of side effects.
I recently went to the hospital ... Views:1777
Sometimes people just don’t like the Psychologist advice they’re given. And indeed, sometimes it is better to be your own Psychologist, or Life Coach.
This was the case recently with M., a 31 year old professional saleswoman who had a small high end sheep leather coats import company. M. had ... Views:1066
Have you ever wondered how ‘that couple’ stayed together all those years? What is it they are doing right? What are the things that contribute to the success of healthy long term relationships? There are a few fundamental things that will improve the chances of a relationships success. Those ... Views:15862
There was a routine I had at the beginning of each shift as a paramedic. It was to work with my partner to prepare the ambulance for our time in it. This included cleanliness along with making sure that each item was there that was supposed to be there, and where it was supposed to be. With a ... Views:1167
Did you play on a see-saw as a child?
Growing up, my little brother and I spent hours pushing each other up and down on this playground apparatus. And our game went like this…
We would take turns holding each other up in the air while one of us weighted the board down in the dirt - until that ... Views:1120
I was involved in a situation several days ago that rekindled some thoughts I’d been having over the past few months. I’d like to share what’s on my mind.
I had been summoned to an emergency department to do a psych assessment on a woman who just hours before had her suicidal plan interrupted ... Views:679
Before describing how to use dialoguing with your Inner Child to increase self esteem, I'd better say what your Inner Child is, for those who may not be familiar with the term.
What is an Inner Child?
We all have an Inner Child. It is who we are when we were born, our natural core self. That ... Views:3384
What is “dialoguing” with my Inner Child?
Dialoguing is talking with your Inner Child, caring for her/him non-verbally. The word dialogue implies a back and forth exchange between the two of you, rather than just “talking” which could be understood as a one-way communication.
When do I do ... Views:3794
Major news outlets reported earlier this year that hypnotists across the country have seen an increase of clients seeking help with increased financial stress. Although smoking cessation, weight control and stress have always been the most common reasons people go to hypnotist’s offices, things ... Views:1249
People turn to counselling, be it individual, marital, family or group, at times having done little or no homework on the service provider. There is more to choosing a counselor then simply picking up the phone and making an appointment.
Anyone may call himself or herself a counselor, so ... Views:1131
Therapy can be a powerful tool for your personal growth and well-being. It’s also a great stress buster. But is it for you?
And how do you find a good therapist? What do you need to know about a therapist before deciding to work with her or him? How should you relate to a therapist? Is ... Views:886
Most people have an Inner Critic that tries to brow beat or guilt them into change. You may hear that little voice saying “You should . . . “or “You shouldn’t . . . .” I call this shoulding on yourself. It’s not very much fun.
If you feel bad enough, you may make temporary changes, but then ... Views:1087
Choosing the right clinician for your needs is a complicated matter. There are some simple steps to begin heading in the right direction. It is important to understand your needs and what you are looking for. There are several different types of clinicians in the helping profession.
I want to ... Views:1762
What is Online Counseling?
It is the process of interacting with a professional online in ongoing conversations over time when the client and the online psychologist / counselor / consultant are in separate locations and utilize the phone or e-mails or internet video-conferencing technology to ... Views:1194
Commonly asked questions by people learning about Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) are -
“What is guided discovery?’
“Is it about the therapist directing the client?”
“Is ‘Socratic dialogue’ the same thing as guided discovery?
“How do I offer guided discovery?”
One thing for sure, is ... Views:10459
While living a routine life, an average human being comes across incidents that make his life difficult. Most of these incidents affect our mental health and result in depression, anxiety or other psychological problems. And these are often the underlying factors that cause major crimes like the ... Views:816
Is there something holding you back from fulfilling relationships, health, career or prosperity? If so, there is an easy way to find out what is blocking your progress. Anyone can change their life through the use the pendulum and Spiritual Response Technique (SRT). This precise system is a very ... Views:1802
Decide once and for all that your mood, your sense of balance and wellbeing are your responsibility.
Decide that you are precious to yourself and that you are in charge of treating yourself well. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND.
Decide that you love and honor yourself and repeat this as often as you ... Views:1539
Much has been written about self-esteem. But if we would like to give a simple definition of what self-esteem is, a definition that everyone can immediately relate to, what would that be? Self-esteem is our gut feeling about our Self. It is an inner condition that accompanies us wherever we go ... Views:1250
I have experienced a shattering of my old world - a crash that broke my cover personality, the part of me that tried so hard to earn my worthiness through doing, pretending over dysfunction and often covering it with pride. This false face hid a strange emptiness, a voiceless hollow, a place of ... Views:1023
Fibromyalgia syndrome (FMS) is the medical terminology used to represent a complex clinical disorder of symptoms characterized by soft tissue pain, stiffness, and altered deep pain threshold with psychological fallout. It can mimic or accompany symptoms of joint injury, but it is not an ... Views:1304
Looking back on over a decade of using labyrinths in counseling, all indications point to the powerful role they can play in facilitating the therapy process.
I use a finger labyrinth in counseling at the same time as my clients do in order to promote relaxation and the resulting increase in ... Views:1544
Weight-loss is about majoring in the majors; it’s not about how you “butter your bread.”
Often, people can be obsessive with weight-loss behavior. Weight-loss and weight maintenance can become a ritualistic, compulsive cycle. Charlie Whitfield, author and addictions expert calls the pattern ... Views:1625
Dr. Randi Fredricks, Ph.D., LMFT
San Jose Counseling and Psychotherapy
(408) 264-3082
Among complimentary and alternative therapies for mental health, nutrition is by far the most popular and the most frequently studied. Food, dietary supplements and herbs interact biochemically with our ... Views:5927