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It doesn’t matter where your trauma comes from or what breaks your heart into pieces, dealing with any kind of emotional damage is not an easy thing. It is the reason many people adopt bad habits and start using drugs or become alcoholics to numb suffering and pain.
If you are going through ... Views:701
In all applications of the fascination with people, you are encouraged to remember that your first goal, always and reliability, is a feeling of happiness in their minds. You do not have to try to encourage people to behave in a manner which you have created your own feel good about themselves. ... Views:1094
Adrienne Rich said “Lying is done with words and also with silence”. The self always shines through and there are many little hints & tips that if you are aware of can show big lying indicators in someone. Signs of lying can be everything from voice tone, body language, changing the ... Views:3750
Aloha!
Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Here we are. Deal with it. Love it up, even! The way to deal with and appreciate it, especially for more spiritually-based women, is to realize that while we’re all from the same planet, our spiritual growth processes occur differently. ... Views:1161
LOVER WITH NO NAME: A PERFECT RENDEVOUS
I have a lover who resides within me
and I have just met her,
though she never introduced herself.
I then asked of what was her name?
She said, “She could be whoever I wanted or choose her to be,
then she added, “what are in names anyway, but ... Views:1060
Now I know what your probably thinking…what an obvious answer to this question it is that “Honesty is the best policy”…Right?
But if the answer was that obvious why would I write a whole blog on it?
Obviously this is still a necessary topic, as so many people in relationships still lie to ... Views:4315
There are many reasons why people struggle to make friends. Here are a few:
Insecurity
Selfishness
Pride
An Introvert Personality
Fear of People
Overwhelming and dominate personality
Depression
But whatever the problem is, it needs to be addressed and ... Views:3796
One of the features of the “modern relationship” is financial separation, although the couple is married, each of them is earning and spending his own money separately, without consulting the other, without sharing the money or managing it together. One of the reasons of financial separation ... Views:2931
I’m not big on schedules and structures, though I would like to be. I admire those who create their own schedules and stick to them as well as those who accept institutional structures that tell them where to be, what to do, when to show up and how long to stay. I, on the other hand, am one of ... Views:1286
We think that our actions define us more than our words. But the reality is exactly the opposite. Our actions are important, but our actions are psychologically used to verify the truth of our words and not the other way around. Be careful what you say. This article attempts to prove that your ... Views:8152
Personal Myth
By
Payam Ghassemlou Ph.D.
For over twenty years, I have been listening to life stories of many incredible people. It is part of my job. Many people might think I am listening to their problems, but I hear stories. People who come to me are brave storytellers. It is a ... Views:1605
New FREE Guide to Persuading Your Partner Published!
You have made up your mind. You are going to take the plunge. Start your new life. Live it your way. Then reality socks you in the face. What about your partner? What will he or she think? What if they nix the idea right off? Or maybe ... Views:1348
When I hear the clients in my psychotherapy and grief counseling practice talk in black and white terms, or view their options in terms of extremes, I am reminded of the Buddhist concept of the Middle Way. When the Buddha was asked how one should meditate, he responded "not too tight, not too ... Views:1445
QUIZ:
EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE CHECK
Each adult person has different types of emotional baggage.
If you have been lied to and/or cheated on, you may have a fear of deception.
You may show signs of being overly suspicious of others and guarded.
You expect the worst in most situations ... Views:3926
So what’s the politically correct word for handicap? Disabled? Or physically challenged? I say, “what does it matter?”
The real question is what do you do when you’re part of this group. As one myself, I wanted to sprinkle a bit of insight to those who are tiptoeing their way, riding their ... Views:1199
You are going out, you constantly need an opinion on how you look, whether it is okay to go, what you should say if you are to talk, whether you fit in with the crowd or just whether you are an embarrassment. If you experience such self conscious behavior, you probably suffer from social phobia ... Views:1209
Ten Guidelines for Establishing Healthy Trust
“How do I know if someone is trustworthy?”
“How can I become trustworthy?”
“How can I ever trust again?”
Healthy trust is hard work. Betrayal, neglect, abuse, addiction and abandonment damage healthy trust but it’s never too late to learn how ... Views:4261
“Gossip,” as defined by Wikipedia, is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It derives from the bedroom at the time of childbirth when the pregnant female’s relatives and neighbors (an all female event) would gather and chatter about others outside the ... Views:1170
Just rewind back to when you were a child and you used to play with Barbie and Ken dolls. If you were a boy, you probably played with small action figures like He-Man and GI Joe. You put so much imagination into those toys. After all, you needed to bring them to life. Each toy had a story ... Views:1644
There are many experiences of the truth of who you are:
"The Authentic Self is the part of you that lives before and after this lifetime, that is eternal…When you leave [your experience here on earth] you have a lot more power. It won’t be ego-based power. Rather it will be beyond ego, ... Views:1404
I remembered a story that my teacher told me when I was in high school about a student that had exams and he was going to church to ask God to help him pass them all. He did little or no study at all but he was praying. He had faith. He really believed that he will pass the exams without him ... Views:3124
Are You Tired of Being Taken for Granted?
“Sing like no one's listening, love like you've never been hurt, dance like nobody's watching, and live like its heaven on earth.”-Mark Twain
It happens every single day and whether we like it or not, we cannot control it. Other people’s ... Views:3242
It's been a turbulent couple of years for Selena and Robbie. After living together for over 5 years, Selena was shocked and outraged to learn that Robbie was having an affair with another woman who also lives in their apartment building.
She was so upset about this, she packed up her ... Views:2958
For most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship-is not the same as having a real friend.
If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well ... Views:2658
Are we just a body with a personality? From my understanding, we are much more than that. Each one of us has a higher aspect. This higher aspect has been typically called the Higher Self. If I am not wrong, others have also referred to it as the oversoul or overself.
Who and what is the ... Views:2663
What is Trust Made of?
What is Trust? How does someone earn your trust? What happens once it’s broken? Do you trust yourself?
There are many definitions for the word trust but to me it means that, “I can have faith that you will do what you say you will do, when you say you are doing it. ... Views:1433
Shame, negative judgment, scorn is unfortunately a common side effect of this status. Thus most women do not open up about their situation, only suppress it. For this reason, we have no way of knowing the real numbers of how many women take on this difficult and unforgiving role, not to mention ... Views:656
Spirit speaks through your “Heart” – the highest, deepest part of your Heart where Soul connects – and you will find that your heart has a lot to say. No matter how many times you may have overridden it, ignored it or denied it, it will continue to speak in the same soft, loving, gentle voice it ... Views:1127
Many relationships have been destroyed over the jealousy issue. However, sometimes it isn't so much jealousy but envy and covetousness that is the real root of the problem.
Here is a brief definition of each before we get into a lager discussion of these.
Jealousy - The fear of losing ... Views:14075
Think of someone that you are uncomfortable talking to.
•Why is it so difficult to talk to this person?
•Do you feel defensive?
•Do they feel listened to?
•Do you avoid this person?
These are signs that the relationship is lacking trust and respect.
One way to help you have successful, ... Views:3712
I believe we are in the beginning of a massive change on our planet. Many of us are starting to awaken. We are shifting from an old paradigm… away from fear, setting down the belief that we live in a scary world. We are beginning to expand our awareness from our physical bodies and our ego ... Views:1013
Ups and downs are part and parcel of relationships. It’s usual for two people to start seeing each other as they are content with each other. But it’s not always easy to keep the happy times forever in a relationship. It’s not easy to make a relationship work sometimes, but with the right ... Views:2756
Hi there Faith-Seekers!!
Faith is a word that is talked about a lot in personal development. Many of us may conceptually understand what faith is. We may even make conscious efforts to employ faith consistently in our lives. But do we really utilize faith in ALL areas of our lives? We may ... Views:6964
Often people think intimacy is learning about their partners and teaching their partners what they want their partners to know about them. In actuality, the word "intimacy" says it all – IN TO ME SEE. Seeing intimacy as this simple phrase can be the key to unlocking the door to true openness ... Views:2273
Falling for a love rat.
Having worked as a relationship expert, agony aunt and life coach for decades I know a lot of people end of falling for cheats or users. Most of those are women falling for men. Age is no barrier, it is not uncommon for a woman who is experienced, been married and ... Views:1883
To begin, let's realize that adult relationships are intricate in nature. No two relationships are the same, and thus they cannot be treated as if they are: everyone is different, taking different approaches to the same set of circumstances. Because all relationships are unique, there can't be a ... Views:2354
Absolute trust in ourselves governs how we perceive and respond to all challenges in life. It affords us the personal power to express pure love, flow with the stream of life, and transcend any difficult circumstance. For example, with such trust we can embrace every situation not as a source of ... Views:1476
People speculate a lot with the word trust and they do it on purpose. I would like to make a few clarifications about it...
Many times trust is mixed with faith. But to have faith is one thing and to trust someone is something completely different. Faith is pointing outwards, it is created ... Views:1163
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
We have said it before and we now say it again – the divorce rate in the United States of America is NOT 50%! It is more likely, closer to 40%, perhaps, slightly less, according to some estimates. Here are the facts.
According to Brad Wilcox in ... Views:5035
Have you ever trusted someone—and gotten “burned?” Have you ever failed to trust someone and missed significant opportunities as a result? The practical issues with regard to extending trust are these: How do you know when to trust somebody? And how can you extend trust to people in ways that ... Views:5469
Flirting between two people can be fun, sexy and harmless...unless, of course, one of those two people is already in a committed relationship with someone else!
When you are the one who watches (or hears about) your partner flirting with another person, it can be emotionally painful and it ... Views:7766
Dear Keith and Maura,
I broke up with my lover last August, but still now I have his feelings. I didn't know why he left me without even telling me. I stayed for some time but now am dying of his love. What do I do? Please help as soon as possible.
Broken Hearted in Kenya
Dear ... Views:1701
Gossiping can suck the zest out of your spirit. Gossip is mean-spirited and little-minded; its goal is to make the gossipers feel superior to the gossiped-about. It is seductive, addictive and a way of bonding with other gossipers, all while pulling you down to the lowest spiritual common ... Views:2746
A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect. This is true of all types of relationships; your family, you friends and your co-workers. You can't choose your family or, in most cases your co-workers, so you hopefully learn to get along with them. Your friends you can choose. You can choose ... Views:1801
For those of you who have become familiar with my written or spoken words, you’ll often notice me signing off with the phrase “From My Heart To Yours”. This is something I adopted a few years ago, when I came to realization that what comes from the heart, goes to the heart ... Views:1288
WHAT IS IRRATIONAL JEALOUSY?
Frequently, I am asked how to handle irrational jealous feelings. Usually, the individual recognizes that her feelings are unreasonable with no valid evidence but feels incapable of controlling the jealousy. In addition, the person usually recognizes the ... Views:3393
In my work with couples, I often find a lack of trust at the root of many challenges they report.
Trust is a Verb
We have been taught to believe trust is a commodity to be earned by others. Once they have passed certain tests, then we feel safe to extend our trust. I would like to entertain ... Views:5665
Often I see couples or hear the sadness of friends who commonly complain about their mates and wish for a paradigm shift. I hear them echo “If they can only be this way” or “If they were more like that.” When I pose the question: ” Why are you in the relationship?”, the answers vary but they are ... Views:3254
"The best place for him, Karen, is the feedlot - he's too far gone; he's so scrambled that he's not coming back". A trainer's comments seven years ago, after he watched while I tried in vain to stop my then 10 year old gelding, Lukas. "Downward transitions" were accomplished by veering ... Views:2061
When the essence of your life, which is consciousness, connects to something like another person or your work, a commitment is formed. A superficial level of commitment happens when your consciousness connects to the thoughts of something and you are just left committed to your own mind. The ... Views:1164