You probably already know that self-confidence (self-esteem) is necessary to feel happiness inside and to achieve success out in the world. So, increasing our awareness of ourselves is pretty important as we do our life journey.
Let’s get acquainted with how a self-confident person thinks. Below you’ll see some positive thoughts or beliefs. As you read, ask yourself how many of these are true for you?
As you can see, these statements are positive ones and that’s great. But, for most of us, it’s not easy to reach adulthood with all positive beliefs. Criticism from others, our desire not to disappoint others, especially our parents, and negative messages from our peers all influence how we feel and think about ourselves. Sometimes the negative messages we hear are so convincing that we actually believe them, even though they may not be true. Then, we form harmful beliefs about ourselves that come out in our behavior.
A good self-awareness exercise: promise yourself that you’ll notice any negative self-criticisms that come up in your mind. That means you’ll be tuning into your thoughts and actually listening to them. This is especially important at those times when you feel down.
Thoughts generate feelings, and in turn, the feelings intensify the thoughts again. If your thoughts are positive, you’ll have positive feelings and behaviors. That’s a good cycle. But, if your thoughts are negative, you’ll have negative feelings and behaviors. That’s trouble.
Get acquainted with yourself. Why? You have the power to change your thinking. You’re entitled to create positive thoughts that are based on the reality of who you really are, not who someone else says you are or who you fear you are.
So, start now being a friend to yourself. Discard your negatives. Discover your positives. And remember: this kind of exercise isn’t always easy; so, be patient with you.
All the best until next time,
Joan
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Joan Chamberlain is an author, therapist, and life coach with over 30 years of experience helping adults, couples, and teens. She has a Bachelor's degree in Business and Finance, a Bachelor's in education, and a Masters in individuals, couples, and family counseling. Her book, Smart Relationships, has helped many people achieve the self-awareness needed to see themselves honestly. Its wisdom has helped them work toward improving their relationships with themselves, their friends, and their families.
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