Sexual Intelligence: One of the Keys to Fulfillment and Joy

What's available when we learn from the ancient wisdoms and bring them into our modern life? TantraNova, a branch of Neo-Tantra as it's called in the West, is a blend of ancient Eastern traditions (see writings by Tao Master Mantak Chia or Tantric Master Lama Yeshe) as well as contemporary knowledge of quantum physics (Amit Goswam, Ph.D.), psychology (Daniel Goleman) and biology (Candace Pert, Ph.D.).

To delve deeper into the awareness of human energy and particularly of sexual energy we want to introduce today the term of "sexual intelligence." Commonly we are familiar with intellectual intelligence that's measured by IQ or with emotional, kinesthetic and other kinds of intelligences as identified as "Multiple Intelligences" by Howard Gardner, PH.D.

However, sexual intelligence isn't very well known and therefore not cultivated as a capacity. We at TantraNova ( www.tantranova.com ) refer to sexual intelligence as the development of consciousness as it relates to life force or sexual energy -- known in Sanskrit as Kundalini and in Taoism as chi). To get a better handle on this form of intelligence let's look first at human energy that is such an elusive phenomenon. Just as electrical energy is present for turning on the light bulb and infrared waves for connecting with each other by cell phone, human energy is ever present as long as we are alive.

Traditionally we don't have a course about human energy in high-school or college. So let's discuss it here: At the core of all human energy is life force (sexual) energy which is the most powerful energy there is given that it brings forth life. Sexual energy has been used for procreation over the millennia, for recreation that became more available over the past 100 years with the onset of contraceptives and now we have become aware that we can use it for co-creation. It is the creative energy that fuels us in all areas of life like our health, well-being, relationships, career, work and family.

Now here comes the question: How can you cultivate your sexual intelligence that implies a consciousness of your life force (sexual) energy experience? Simply put: Become aware of your subtle energy body on physical and emotional levels; learn to channel non-aroused and aroused energy throughout your body & being; and integrate your meditative with your sexual practice. The raising of sexual intelligence starts with each of us as an individual and then we can bring that consciousness to our relationships in daily life and in the intimate love making.

To get started with becoming more aware of your inner energy flow experiment with this simple yet foundational practice:

- Lie on your back on the floor or a mat

- Exhale all the air, emptying yourself totally out until all air is gone

- Then take in a deep breath and feel the rise of your belly, followed by the chest.

- Visualize -- with your mind's attention and intention -- your breath moving all the way up to the top of your head

- On the exhalation visualize sending the breath from the top of your head all the way down through your torso out of the base of your spine into the floor

- Then again, take in a deep breath from the bottom of your spine all the way up to the top of your head.

- On the exhalation visualize sending the breath from the top of your head all the way down through your torso out of the base of your spine into the floor

- Continue in this pattern of breathing for 6 more breaths

- Then continue breathing in your own rhythm while noticing how you feel right now - notice any sensations in your body, any energy movement, any tingling, just be present to yourself

In a more advanced state a student who wants to cultivate his/her sexual intelligence can learn how to move aroused energy through the body from the bottom all the way up to the top, and from the top all the way down to the bottom. The aroused energy no longer resides only in the sexual center, or the second charka, it actually emanates throughout the body. This allows for the experience and greater sustainability of fulfillment and joy. Frequently this kind of experience is referred to as whole body orgasms, which opens up the possibility for multiple orgasms for both, men and women. At another time, we will discuss how sexual intelligence can be cultivated between two partners.