“How to Find a Perfect Match for a Relationship”

There are lots of people in the world who are sitting at home feeling lonely and they are waiting for mister or misses right to come along. But how do we find mister or misses right? Read More…

I get asked that question all the time. Lots of people expect that a perfect man or woman is going to come knocking on their door and they will find true happiness. Sorry to burst their bubble… but most of the time it does not work that way. To find the right person we have to do a lot of looking. People are not going to come to us… we have to go to them.

It’s kind of like going to a department store and looking at all the clothes on the clearance rack. Some shirts are too small, some are too big, some are not our style, some too colorful, some are too drab, and more. So it takes digging through a lot of shirts to find that perfect shirt that looks good and feels right. And the same thing goes for relationships, we have to do a lot of digging to find mister or misses right.

And finding the right person now does not mean it will be forever. Things change and so do we… but it will be good right now and we need to have faith. But we can hope that everything works out for the best and pray to God that we find the right person for the rest of our life. This also means we have to get out of the house and be around other people. Joining clubs, joining associations, finding groups of people who enjoy the same hobbies. And anything else one can think of to get yourself out of the house and around people… new people!

Also, dating is not the way it used to be. In the past, lots of people went to parties, to bars, and met at restaurants and other places. But that is not common in this day and age. In fact, I met my wife on-line… dating on-line has become one of the best ways to meet new people. And very soon my wife and I will celebrate our 19th year together. And I’m sure we will be together for the rest of our lives… we make a great couple. And I know lots of other couples who have long term relationships that met on-line. My wife and I met on one of those dating services like E-Harmony, Match, and many others.

And one of the things that’s really important when a person is dating on-line is to be truly upfront and honest about who you are, and what you are all about, what you like, and what you don’t like. And you have to be very picky about who you want in your life. This is also vital… because you are looking for a person to be with for the rest of your life.

After meet on-line for a while and chatting, and then talk on the phone, and eventually meeting in person for coffee or dinner… you find out if there is chemistry between you or not. It might not work at all the first 10 to 20 times dates or more, but eventually, you will find someone you really love. Like I said, you have to go through a lot of apples to find that perfect crisp, sweet, and luscious aromatic apple that you love.

And a person has to remember that everything happens for a reason. We go through some relationships to grow and become better people… and to awaken from our slumber and see the world from a new point of view.

Also, it’s important that if no one wants to go on a date with you… perhaps you have some work to do. Because you have some issues that need to be worked on. This is important because you might think you are a good catch… but the reality of the situation might be totally different. We all have stuff that needs to be work on and made better… and thus making ourselves a better person for a relationship. So doing some counseling, meditation, and talking with friends who will be brutally honest with us is very important. Then we can make changes and become a better person. Then we will attract mister or misses right into our life.

But like anything else, relationships take work, every single day takes time and effort. And if a person is not willing to put in the time and effort to work on a relationship… then don’t even try. Relationships are a team effort, and both sides need to put in the effort to make the relationship work. And I promise you one thing for sure, there will be hard times, bad times, good times, and amazing times, but you will get through all of it together… if you decide to do so.

So stop being sad… get up and get going… time is wasting!

Mister or Misses Right is Waiting!

Many Blessings to Everyone!

Dr. Paul Haider