3 Ways to Make Her Happy: Relationship Tips for Men

The cover story on the men's magazine read, “Make Your Woman Deliriously Happy.” This article title immediately caught Jeff's attention. He was, however, disappointed to see that most of the suggestions involved bouquets of flowers, expensive romantic get-aways or extravagant jewelry. A big portion of the article seemed like an advertisement for florists and cruise lines!

What Jeff wants to know is how to make his long-term girlfriend happy... in realistic, cost-effective and everyday ways. He is aware that she is frequently disappointed with him for various reasons. He feels like giving her a dozen roses from time to time is just not going to make the difference that he's looking for.

There's certainly nothing wrong with presenting your woman with a romantic gift or whisking her away for a weekend adventure for just the two of you.

But, if there is tension or distance in your love relationship or marriage , these gifts probably aren't going to bring about (and sustain) the kind of improvements that you are looking for.

What you might want is to have fewer arguments, fewer misunderstandings and less of the cold shoulder that she may give you all too often. What you probably want is more closeness and harmony between you and your partner, more fun and more sex too!

If so, you're going to need to possibly take a new approach to thinking up ways that you can make your woman happy. Think about what you are doing now (or in the recent past) that has NOT made her happy and that has contributed to her pulling away from you.

Once you've identified these habits , you could put into action changes that will not only improve your relationship and make her happy, you'll be happier too.

Here are some ideas to get you started...

#1: Go above and beyond. I know, you're probably busy and overextended just like everybody else. If you want to make your woman happy, however, it might be time to re-evaluate your priorities.

In many cases, work, time with friends, activities with the kids or hobbies have inadvertently edged out your woman. For whatever reason, your relationship might be less of a priority than other things.

Does this mean that your woman will only be happy if you neglect your career, ignore your friends and kids and stop doing the things that are interesting to you?

Absolutely not!

What it does mean that is that you could set aside the time, energy and attention to really focus in on her and on your relationship. You can make your woman one of your top priorities (again).

This shift in focus will allow you to be more thoughtful and aware of what's going on with your partner.

You can be ready with a hot bubble bath, an offer to massage her shoulders or an invitation to take her out to dinner to celebrate an accomplishment that might otherwise have gone unnoticed by you.

When you go above and beyond what is expected of you, she will most likely feel special, adored and happier.

#2: Go deep. Another way to make your woman happy and improve your relationship is to stay in tune with your own self. Keep regular tabs on how you are feeling, what your aspirations and goals are (personal and relationship goals) and be willing to share what's going on with you with your partner.

When you go deep, you know your own mind and you won't seem wishy-washy or indecisive to her-- this can help prevent disagreements and misunderstandings.

Being open with your woman about what's true and important to you allow her to more accurately understand where you're coming from and it will help her feel close and connected to you.

Make sure that you are also open to listening to what's true and important to your woman. Stay curious about her and don't assume that you know everything there is to know about her. You might be pleasantly surprised!

#3: Go the distance. Let's face it. You can tell your partner that you've realized that you've been too focused on other things in life and that you're now ready to give her more of your time, attention and energy. You can tell her that she's important to you and that you are ready to open up to her more deeply and honestly.

You can tell her anything and everything but, it's not going to help your relationship improve if you don't follow through.

This is what going the distance means-- it's keeping your promises (no matter how “small” or “big). It's doing what you say that you're going to do and it's not making an agreement unless you truly are saying “yes” and the specifics seem doable to you.

Before you say “yes” anything, take a few moments to really think about what you're agreeing to do (and the parameters of that agreement).

Let your woman know if you want to do this thing that she's asking you to do, but you aren't sure you can make particular aspects of it work. Suggest a different agreement if you aren't willing to do what she's requested, but you'd like to figure out a different way to meet her needs and yours too.

Going the distance is all about presence, honesty and an openness to working together. When you do, trust will strengthen and your woman will know-- by your actions-- that she truly is special to you and she can count on you.