("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She").
We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on ... Views:666
I often come across sad examples of the powers of self-delusion that the narcissist provokes in his victims. It is what I call "malignant optimism". People refuse to believe that some questions are unsolvable, some diseases incurable, some disasters inevitable. They see a sign of hope in every ... Views:1166
"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use ... Views:973
Alan Pease, author of a book titled "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps", believes that women are spatially-challenged compared to men. The British firm, Admiral Insurance, conducted a study of half a million claims. They found that "women were almost twice as likely as men to have a ... Views:840
There is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed - one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, ... Views:1096
Abusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control.
There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to ... Views:817
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I admit it! Sometimes I'm overwhelmed by the seemingly endless
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The first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you.
1. Keep it in perspective.
If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it.
2. Keep your expectations in line.
Consider possibilities rather ... Views:633
Knowing how you feel, having personal power, managing anger, being creative, focusing on your strengths and having Intentionality - these are all emotional intelligence competencies.
1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the
2. You can stop when you want to, stop ... Views:458
I am fortunate to work with people from all walks of life on a regular basis and one of the most common requests I have is to help them set and achieve ‘real’ goals. One necessity in starting this process is to take time out of our day to assess our current position and determine where we are ... Views:623
What is it you want and desire?
-A better life
-To have greater prosperity
-A better job
-A new car
-A bigger house
-To lose weight
-A new relationship
-An overseas trip
-To send the kids to University
-To create more success
These and many other outcomes are thought about, dreamt ... Views:1037
Electional astrology is the astrology of timing and the Moon plays the most significant role because she is responsible for setting events in motion. As the closest orbiting body to the earth, her influence is so important that two branches of astrology, Horary and Electional, use the Moon as ... Views:1641
As a parent of a child with a disability or with special needs you will be only too aware of all the challenges you encounter when you try to get the best help you can for your child.
Sadly the list of problems faced by so many children, and their families, never seems to end. Each disability ... Views:1014
What do we mean in healing when we talk about ‘letting go’? Everywhere we turn to get some help in healing, all we hear is people preaching to us “you must let it go!” This probably sounds like a very nice idea to the person who seeks guidance and I do agree with whomever it is that is preaching ... Views:435
Less than ten years ago, most folks thought “emu” was a crossword puzzle answer. Today, Emu is the answer to many other puzzles: What to make for dinner? Emu Steak or Emu Burger. What to rub on sunburn to take the sting out? Emu Oil. What to apply to wrinkles to help with anti-aging? Emu ... Views:1025
"When you are deluded and full of doubt, even a thousand books of wisdom are not enough. When you have realized understanding, even one word is too much."
"Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself."
2)How to read ... Views:681
There is great adventure in the unknown that propels us to discover powerful parts of ourselves that we didn't know were there.
As I write this article, my eyes focus on the cover of our leading news magazines. They tell us that ANXIETY is the number one issue at the moment. ... Views:1677
Do you know how to focus?
Well, if you did know how, would it help you remember people's names? Would it stop you from being nervous, or at least help you control your thoughts so your thoughts don't make you nervous?
How about if you talk too much or too loud? Would ... Views:10148
The power of the mind is a truly remarkable thing.
How you feel in any given moment is linked to:
- What you are focussing on
- The way that you are moving and using your body
- The language you are using
Your mind controls all three!
If you are feeling lethargic or need an instant ... Views:2214
Someone emailed me recently, "Do you think it's possible to have too much emotional intelligence going on? To the point that perhaps logic takes a backseat?"
Good question. The fact is, we need both IQ and EQ. You can't have "too much" emotional intelligence, but that doesn't mean atthe ... Views:523
Ok, so back in June I shelled out $1200 for a premium treadmill (it was on sale, I AM a female after all) It was a huge decision and yes, there were the cheerleaders and the naysayers.
"That's great, that treadmill will really help you get in shape!" (how out of shape do I look?)
"You'll be ... Views:5238
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4 Tips to Avoid Internet Scams
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I stopped by a preschool the other day, and met Sam. He caught my eye right away because he had presence. We call him “Mr. President,” the teacher told me. “He’s bossy.”
Sam was focused on a car he was playing with. When I walked up to him, he looked up slowly, with confidence. Something ... Views:520
Coaching's been around for about 10 years but there are still lots of people who haven't tried it yet, and don't know what it's about.
Two major confusions in people's minds are:
· What's the difference between coaching and therapy, and;
· What's the difference between coaching and a good ... Views:628
In Memoriam, Thomas Leonard, the Founder of Coaching, who died February 11, 2003
1. Because we never know when we may die.
2. Because we never know when's the last time we'll see a loved one.
3. Because it's the worst thing in the world to have someone die and not have told them you loved ... Views:1959
If it is our aim to succeed in life then many qualities will be demanded of us. We must have not only courage and ability, but also intelligence and integrity to name just a few. To aspire to success you will also need to understand, either consciously or instinctively, the necessity of having a ... Views:3051
Have you ever had a client say, "Oh, I didn't know you treat headaches." or "Massage can't help a tendinitis, can it?"
Have you ever felt like hitting your head against a wall? I certainly do when I hear those kinds of comments.
The truth is that most of your clients - even your most ... Views:1743
One of the hardest things for some people to do is to accept the blame for something they did, as in admit they made a mistake. This has to do with authenticity, with being honest with yourself, and with your self-esteem. Perfectionists have the hardest time owning up to a mistake; in fact ... Views:569
A number of ADHD medications are hitting the market, joining the old Ritalin standby. Concerta, in its relatively short existence, has already grabbed a sizeable portion of the ADHD medication market share.
Although Concerta offers a number of advantages over the older ADHD medications, it ... Views:45626
Reiki is an ancient healing art that has recently been re-
discovered in Japan. With the resurrection of Reiki in this
age of mass and almost instantaneous communication,
word of its power is quickly gaining the attention of the
mainstream world. The mode of transmission of Reiki ... Views:607
Having clear goals is important to ensure successful living. With a vision in mind and landmarks for achieving success, you add direction and focus to your personal and professional life. It’s like taking both hands and grabbing hold of the steering wheel of the car called life and steering into ... Views:611
“I am going out of my mind. I have two small children and my husband, behind my back, went out and bought a very expensive car. We are hardly making our monthly expenses and he goes out and does something like that. Is he stupid, or what? I am furious! I am on the verge of divorcing ... Views:1356
Nail biting is common among children as well as adults. It typically begins between the ages of seven and 10. But the number of nail biters increases as children reach adolescence, according to parentplace.com.
On average, boys 10 years old and older tend to bite nails more frequently than ... Views:1804
"I've been terrified every day of my life but that's never stopped me from doing everything I wanted to do." ~ Georgia O'Keefe, American painter
Go to: http://cgfa.sunsite.dk/okeeffe/p-okeeffe4.htm to see one of her paintings, called "Music - Pink and Blue II" Views:1635
ARE YOU TAKING YOUR INNER BRAT TO WORK?
By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D
Author of "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior"
Is your inner brat taking over your job? Everyone has an inner brat. It's the part of us that's still a 2-year-old. It gets furious at the ... Views:695
IN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK
By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D
Author, "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior"
In the weeks and perhaps months to come, the world will be on edge as events unfold in the Middle East and ... Views:616
The reptilian brain, our oldest brain, operates at the level of survival instinct. It's the life of easy choices -- Can I eat it? Will it eat me? Can I mate with it?
This brain regulates basic life functions, generates strong primitive emotions needed for survival (lust, fear, aggression), ... Views:2655
The quality of your life, whether you're talking about your professional or personal life, is determined by habits. Success is often the result of simply doing the right things over and over again. In sales and marketing, consistency is one of the most ... Views:802
The Why's in the Road. By Michael Levy
Each day in our lives there are decisions to be made. Most are small but nevertheless can have significant impact on our happiness. We amble along and make the most of each situation we face as the result of our actions. But there will come a time when we ... Views:507
The Equalizer doesn't seem to be answering the phone so it looks like its up to you. What? Oh any of those nasty chores we all hate to do. For me its keeping lists, keeping records.
Of course I can DO them. I was an event planner - it's nothing BUT details - but it's not my strong suit. ... Views:639
Here it is, it’s very simple...The most important thing YOU can do to manifest World Peace is… BELIEVE PEACE.
What? What does that mean, BELIEVE PEACE? “You mean to tell me that all I have to do is Believe Peace and Peace will be my reality? You mean I don’t have to do anything like write my ... Views:1665
I was at the public Library the other day to look up some media contacts for a publicity campaign and also to check out a biography of Woodrow Wilson.
When I left the library, I found myself walking directly behind a man who had a dark complexion and was wearing a turban. Two young kids on ... Views:740
Being a good guest is important to both your business and your social life.
When you’re invited somewhere as “the guest,” you really have a role to play, and it’s an active one, not a passive one. You’re there to enjoy yourself, but it’s also up to you to make a positive contribution to the ... Views:1344
Ayurveda- A Complete Science of Life
Welcome to read about the most ancient and traditional science on one
of the most modern systems, the Internet. How can this ancient system of
health care be relevant to people of today, when technological advances have
radically altered our ... Views:2812
Is your son or daughter not as respectful and courteous as you would like? Maybe you’d like to instill more discipline in your child. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could influence better behavior from your child just by making simple decorative changes? You can with feng shui.
Often ... Views:7180
Is your son or daughter not as respectful and courteous as you would like? Maybe you’d like to instill more discipline in your child. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could influence better behavior from your child just by making simple decorative changes in his or her room? You can with feng ... Views:804
There's a one-word reason most ideas never see the light of day: Resistance.
Resistance is often behind the glassy-eyed stares you get following a presentation, the sarcastic put-downs you have to put up with when you describe your vision for a new product or service, and people's abrupt ... Views:703
WARNING: Your Life Is At Risk.
"This Special Report Can Help You Reduce Your Odds of Contracting One of the Eight Deadly Diseases of the Western World."
By Paul Devlin
Note: this report is fairly long. You may want to print it ... Views:1184
Fred Rogers is one of my heroes. He was gentle "before gentle was cool".
1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the drain.
When life can involve divorce, layoffs, losing a child, being a single working parents, or starting a new career at 55, it's good to know you can never go ... Views:620