By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
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The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet.
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How are we doing as inhabitants of this beautiful planet? Sometimes ... Views:999
Discover some of the underlying causes of racism and what is necessary to heal this scourge of our society.
I do not pretend to be an expert on what causes a person to be a racist, but I would like to explore some ideas based on the principles of Inner Bonding.
Those of you who have worked ... Views:964
Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior?
Most of us really don't like it when someone is angry with us. We don't like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We ... Views:1441
Does the fear of making a mistake immobilize you when you need to make a decision?
Do you ever have trouble making decisions? Which rug to buy for your floor? Which couch to choose? What color to paint your walls? What you feel like doing on your days off? What kind of work you ... Views:976
How often have you shared your feelings and the other person became angry and defensive?
How often have you heard that it's good to "share your feelings"? How often have you shared your feelings and it backfired on you? Perhaps you find yourself saying "But I'm just ... Views:966
How would our country change if politicians had to learn to love themselves and others before taking office?
What if politicians had to be mentally evaluated before running for office? How many of them would pass as being emotionally stable and healthy?
What difference might it make ... Views:966
Discover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy.
"Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don't recall what they said or did in that altered state of ... Views:989
Do you allow your natural kindness to shine forth?
"Kindness is an inner desire that makes us want to do good things even if we do not get anything in return. It is the joy of our life to do them. When we do good things from this inner desire, there is kindness in everything we ... Views:1126
Do you have the expectation that you will receive unconditional love from a partner?
Most of us would love the experience of being loved unconditionally by someone. This is the experience we needed when we were growing up, but most parents are not connected enough with themselves and ... Views:1146
Your pet knows the truth of who you are!
Many of us know how unconditionally loving most dogs naturally are – unless they have been abused. Even if you don't have a dog, you've likely seen the joy they express when their person comes home after being gone for even a few minutes.
If ... Views:1607
How are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? What are the consequences of this?
"As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." ~Marian Anderson 1902-1993, Concert ... Views:1001
Discover how to manage panic in a way that allows it to dissipate rather than escalate.
"That's the strange thing about panic – when we lean into it, it loosens it's grip on us." Daniel Siegel, M.D.
"The power of reflection allows us to approach, rather than ... Views:1063
Are you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? There is a good reason for this.
I have found over the years of practicing Inner Bonding that the more I listen to myself, the less need I have for others to listen to me and hear me. Not that ... Views:1104
Is your experience of love that it is scarce and limited?
"Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Love never decreases by being shared. ~Chinese Proverb
There seems to be a myth that love is scarce – that ... Views:2328
Do you sometimes look back and feel as if you have wasted your life caretaking others or trying to get others to take care of you?
Very often, in my work with my clients and with people who attend my workshops and Intensives, once they understand that they have been abandoning ... Views:1027
Do you know how to lovingly manage and heal the loneliness and heartbreak of a breakup?
Breakups are challenging for most of us. However, on top of the heartbreak and grief of a breakup, we often make it worse by the things we say to ourselves. What are some of the things you tell ... Views:1258
Discover the great power in knowing what you want and not giving up.
"What this power is, I cannot say. All I know is that it exists…and it becomes available only when you are in the state of mind in which you know exactly what you want…and are fully determined not to quit until ... Views:1913
Do you sometimes find yourself resisting receiving love because you believe you don't deserve it?
Have you ever heard yourself say, "I'm not worthy of love," or "I'm not worth loving," or "I'm unworthy of God's love"? I frequently hear this from my ... Views:1117
Are you limiting your life – allowing fear to stop you from doing what brings you joy?
"There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living." ~Nelson Mandela
Do you feel passionate about your ... Views:1177
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How often do you feel one-up or one-down in comparison to others?
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When you were growing up, did your parents compare you to others? Were you compared to siblings or other family members? Did your parents ... Views:1017
Do you have problems having truly connected friendships?
Friendship is a big topic. There are people who always seem to have many friends, and others who can't seem to find the way to make friends. Some people have deeply connected friendships, and others have only superficial ... Views:1128
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Pressuring yourself might be causing resistance, stress, anxiety, physical pain, insomnia and even illness.
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How many of you put a lot of pressure on yourself? How often do you feel anxious because of this ... Views:1238
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Are you shy? Is your shyness getting in the way of your connection with others?
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Have you struggled with being a shy person?
Lily asks:
"I try hard to overcome my shyness and reluctance to stand out, speak ... Views:1146
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Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love.
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We read many things about what love is and what it isn't ... Views:1213
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Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully?
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Louise asked me:
"Do you have any suggestions on what to say when my husband says unloving words to me in front ... Views:1071
Do you have problems committing to a relationship, or are you involved with someone who has a fear of commitment?
Louis wrote to me:
"I have been dating an amazing girl, but recently ended it because I am not sure if she is good for me. Our relationship has ... Views:1118
Many people confuse boundaries - which are a way of taking loving care of yourself – with controlling behavior toward others.
Marilee told me in one of our early phone sessions: "I set a boundary. I told him that he couldn't speak to me that way any more."
Jackson said to ... Views:1233
Do you have the common false belief that the better you feel about yourself, the more alone you will be?
Yolanda asks:
"What is coming up for me is -- if I completely move out of self-judgment and fully take the responsibility to actualize the deepest yearnings of my Soul, I ... Views:1022
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Discover what you can do to give your relationship a chance.
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Lauren asks:
"I have been married for 12 years, our marriage has always been a struggle of various forms. I have gotten to feel so empty and ... Views:1045
For many people, inner emptiness is a big problem. They believe that they can fill their emptiness from the outside, which is a false belief.
The cause of inner emptiness is a lack of a loving connection with your inner child - your essence, your true Self, your Being, which then results in ... Views:1055
Are you willing to do the inner work you need to do to possibly save your relationship?
Many people, like Aaron who asked the following question, seek my help because either their partner is no longer in love with them, or they are no longer in love with their partner.
Aaron ... Views:1399
Are you happy with who you are attracting into your life?
"Everybody is like a magnet. You attract to yourself reflections of that which you are." Dr. David Hawkins, Psychiatrist, Physician and Researcher, author of Power vs. Force
Are you happy with who you ... Views:1024
If you are hard on yourself, do you believe that this is helpful to you? You might want to re-evaluate this false belief.
Are you hard on yourself? Do you think this is a good thing? Do you believe this motivates you to do better? Think again. If you are doing well, it's likely in ... Views:1117
Is there something you've always wanted to do but have never done? What’s stopping you?
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” –Chinese Proverb
How often do you say to yourself, "I wish I had…..?"
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Are you a complainer? Are you ready to do something different?
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." - Maya Angelou
Do you complain? If you do, why?
___I complain as a form of control - in the hopes ... Views:1252
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There is no time like right now to get clear on what you want to manifest in the coming year.
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What do you want in the coming year?
One of the things I've done for many years is to write down what I want for ... Views:1016
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Discover the way out of choosing the wrong relationships over and over.
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Do you find yourself choosing a similar wrong partner over and over? This is what Laura asks about:
"How can I get past the point of ... Views:1746
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Are the holidays a joy for you or do you dread them? Are you ready to heal your celebration anxiety?
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What were celebrations like in your home? Were they fun, connected family times that you looked forward to, ... Views:1545
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Are you staying in an abusive relationship because you believe you can change it or not be bothered by it?
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The question of when to leave a relationship comes up over and over with my clients and with the ... Views:1113
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Do you believe that you want a relationship but never seem to find the 'right one?'
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Most people say they want to be in a relationship, yet they consistently do things that keep them from achieving this. If you ... Views:1084
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Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it.
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Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important ... Views:1390
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Do you have good friends? Are you a good friend – both with yourself and with others?
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"A real friend is one who helps us to think our noblest thoughts, put forth our best efforts, and be our best selves." ... Views:1169
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Dating is challenging for many. Here are some tips to turn it into a learning adventure.
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Sometimes, dating can be discouraging, or it can be a learning experience. One of the things I encourage my dating ... Views:2569
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Are you able to stand in your truth, or do you let others talk you out of what you know is right for you?
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When the biblical floods hit Colorado on September 12th, I texted my daughter to see if they were okay. ... Views:1387
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If you are single, do you relate to any of these false beliefs about being in a relationship?
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I have discovered that many of the single people I work with have a number of false beliefs about relationships. If ... Views:1182
Have you ever wondered why God allows so much abuse, so much pain, so much war?
"God has no hands but these." - Mother Theresa
I am often asked by my clients, "If God is all powerful, why didn't he stop my father (or mother, or brother, or babysitter, or uncle ... Views:1472
"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. --Michael Jordan, Former Professional Basketball Player and ... Views:1145
Are you aware of the feelings you cause yourself when you attempt to control others rather than love yourself?
"I have never been able to conceive how any rational being could propose happiness to himself from the exercise of power over others." - Thomas ... Views:1130
Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others?
"Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas ... Views:1118
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Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can't seem to find your way out?
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Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet ... Views:1198