There we were, newly married, living thousands of miles from either of our homes, in Durham, NC where he was in medical school. My husband was from Texas, and I was from the North Shore of Chicago. We came from two different cultures ourselves, and now were together in a new one. It turned ... Views:1156
“Intuition is vital to the empowered employee,” says Garrett Boone, CEO of the Container Store, in “Fast Company,” but intuition certainly doesn’t come to the unprepared mind. The more knowledgeable you are, the better informed you are, the better prepared you are to use your intuition.”
So ... Views:1433
Olivia and I returned from going to the rodeo, and we’d been talking about going swimming. “That would be fun,” I said. “We’re hot and sticky. Let’s ask your Dad if you can.”
When we got to the house, Olivia ran ahead of me. While I was talking to her Dad, she came running out in her ... Views:1328
If you've ever had a long-distance relationship with a guy, and lose ou t to a new woman he finds in his hometown, even though you two had a phenomenal relationship, you might find some new research interesting, hopefully even consoling.
fMRI, functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging, lets ... Views:1548
As a midlife transition career coach, I often encounter clients are are initially afraid they won’t get hired because of their age. They’ve all gotten good jobs, but I decided to verify my experience with some senior HR professionals. Here’s what they told me:
Q: Is age an issue?
A1: "Age ... Views:1254
According to research by Martin Seligman, Ph.D., pessimists are more often right, but optimists accomplish more. Optimism is an emotional intelligence competency, can be learned, and it can be twice as important to your success and happiness as your IQ. Take a look at some of this exciting ... Views:1751
Have you considered having a personal rebirth this spring, recreating your life, planting new seeds to bring about a different harvest? A coach can help you do this.
"A garden in the early stage is not a pleasant or compelling place: it's a lot of arduous, messy, noisome work -- digging up ... Views:1196
It happens. You hate your boss, but you love your job. Or you love your boss, but hate your job. Or you’ve seen a colleague in that position, or you have a client so encumbered.
I’ve seen it play itself out in more than one work situation. In fact, in one situation, I accompanied the ... Views:1174
Another Christmas come and gone. What a workout for the emotions!
I’m the EQ Coach, but that doesn’t mean I know all there is to know about emotional management – it’s a lifelong proposition; and it doesn’t mean my emotions don’t give me a ride for their money – remember, 2 of our 3 brains ... Views:1644
1. You’re stuck in your career.
It isn’t pleasing you any more, you aren’t getting the promotions, it’s a drag to get up every morning, you’re missing deadlines, failing to produce at your best level, or being less effective. Or you’ve been “written up.”
2. You want to increase your ... Views:952
Most children love to clean up along with you. In fact, much of the Montessori Method of early childhood education makes use of this fact. If you notice their "work", praise it, and take it seriously, you'll keep them interested and you might also instill some good future work habits. Don't tune ... Views:1476
Staying in touch … we say it so lightly, yet it’s an important concept for our wellness. Staying in touch with others, staying in touch with ourselves, and staying in actual physical touch with our lives are all important.
One of the ways to reach relaxation and give ourselves some relief from ... Views:1549
Q: What do most employees hate the most about work?
A: The meetings.
Here are some ways to apply your emotional intelligence to running the kind of meetings people would actually like to attend.
1. Intentionality.
Intentionality is one of the highest-level emotional intelligence competencies ... Views:1319
Casey’s 5 years old and reminds me of Edith-Ann. She sometimes even stomps her foot and tosses her head. And that’s the truth!
Casey’s what you’d call “high-maintenance.” She likes things to be just so, reacts strongly to what’s going on, and tends to get wound-up. We’ve been working on ... Views:1641
It’s common at mid-life to have the feeling that you didn’t factor yourself into your own life. In fact I got that phrase from a client who, at 47 years, had noticed that she hadn’t. You think your goals and plans were all about you, but at mid-life we often have the feeling that we were ... Views:1370
I’ve had more potential partners through eharmony.com ( http://tinyurl.com/2lyea ) than I ever did dating around my hometown,” says my client whom I’ll call Mary. She’s over 50, single, and interested in finding a life partner.
“I’ve always done better with some sort of introduction,” she ... Views:5964
Have you received “King Arthur’s Dilemma: A Wise Lesson for All Men to Learn” in your email? (I have no idea to whom to attribute it.)
Here’s how it goes: As a test, young Arthur was asked to answer the question, “What do women really want?” (Freud’s eternal question.) He finally went to ... Views:2872
Saul's mastered enjoying life and smelling the roses, but his job is in jeopardy because he doesn’t get enough done, and so is his marriage, for the same reason.
What can Saul do to improve his efficiency? Well here at EQ Central, we teach Emotional Intelligence, not just a list of to-dos, ... Views:1121
If you've always worked for someone else, you may harbor fantasies of what it would be like to "be your own boss." While working for yourself has major advantages; if you choose this route you may find some surprises.
1. MYTH: I won't have to work as hard.
REALITY: You'll probably work ... Views:1167
Yes, USING it. Read the data about just the conversation part. Read the data about the hands-free part. Go here http://www.nysgtsc.state.ny.us/phon-ndx.htm for tips for safe cellular phone use in the car (if there is such a thing).
1. Interrogatory No. 2: Was a cell phone in use in your ... Views:979
1. Lay Lady Lay - Bob Dylan
2. I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston
3. Take My Breath Away – Berlin
4. Can’t Help Falling in Love With You, It’s Now or Never – Elvis
5. O Elizabeth - the Statler Brothers
6. Unchained Melody - the Righteous Brothers
7. Blue Velvet - Bobby Vinton
8. ... Views:4340
Difficult to diagnose, with no known cause (and/or multiple causes), and no known cure, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (or Myalgic Encephalomyelitis or ME) plagues over 1,000,000 people in the US. Here are some of the latest findings about this syndrome:
1. About 1.3 million people in the US have ... Views:1165
Remember your Optimism rules: Attribute bad things to something that isn't permanent, pervasive, or personal. Attribute good events to things that ARE permanent, pervasive, and personal.
Learned Optimism is the emotionally intelligent way to reduce stress, live longer, be healthier, recover ... Views:1379
In Memoriam, Thomas Leonard, the Founder of Coaching, who died February 11, 2003
1. Because we never know when we may die.
2. Because we never know when's the last time we'll see a loved one.
3. Because it's the worst thing in the world to have someone die and not have told them you loved ... Views:2796
The reptilian brain takes over sometimes; it's there to keep us alive, and it's instinctual messages are strong. The limbic brain can also "flood" us with emotions. Have you used the phrase, "talk til you're blue in the face"? These are some of the times when our neocortex (thinking brain) shuts ... Views:1070
1. Get caught up on all details requiring thoughtful attention so you can devote your attention to her and to the moment.
2. Check to see what movies and attractions are in town, and schedules for amusement parks, skating rinks, library, Sunday School, etc. Check newspaper and with friends for ... Views:1069
DECLUTTER
Consider anything that might be more costly to move than to rebuy. Have a garage sale, take things to Goodwill, call Habitat to come pick up big items. When you come across something you haven’t used in a couple of years, unless it’s sentimental, get rid of it.
TRANSFER ... Views:1071
Introverts make up about 10-30% of the population, but they're highly represented on the Internet! However much of the world is designed for extraverts, who predominate. Being an Introvert can be like being left-handed and living in a right-handed world. Sometimes it can feel like the ... Views:8303
The first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you.
1. Keep it in perspective.
If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it.
2. Keep your expectations in line.
Consider possibilities rather ... Views:1344
Intuition is a great emotional intelligence competency to have. It expedites decisions and is a very sure way of knowing. It also helps us stay safe.
From an extensive study of intuitive people, these are the traits they're most likely to have.
1. A woman over 40 with an advanced degree in ... Views:10273
I’ve counseled some truly beautiful people – I mean physically beautiful. People whom anyone would term “stunning.” I’ve also know some personally, and worked with some. Aside from being beautiful (which is a big “aside), I’d say the “other things” we look for in life (or that hunt us down) ... Views:1002
We tend to think of feeling angry as being caused by rude drivers, people we don't like, or 100 degree temperatures, and feeling good as being caused by kind people, successful projects, or ice cream cones.
When we're working on our emotional intelligence we work on our self-talk and ... Views:3981
Martin Seligman, Ph.D., noted Optimism researcher, who’s now studying Authentic Happiness, has proposed that one of the surest paths to happiness is to know your signature strengths and build your life around them, particularly if it’s in a way that has meaning to you.
Management gurus, ... Views:1407
“The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves,” writes Robert Burney, in “Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.” The term “boundaries” has been around for some time, and if ever a term needed an adjective before it, it would be “boundaries.” For instance, we ... Views:1428
One of the greatest joys of grandparenting is taking the grandkids for an outing, yes?
And of course you buckle them into their car seats. But even the best car seat on the market can’t protect the grandkids in case of an accident, so there’s one other thing you need to be doing.
Driver ... Views:1043
Emotional Intelligence is all about self-awareness, understanding how emotions work within you and others. Our feelings are regulated by neurotransmitters such as serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine. Here are some things to know about serotonin, called the "feel good" ... Views:2822
Got your attention? Everyone’s favorite subject.
I’ll begin by stating again a myth that dies hard: That people over 50 [substitute your own age] aren’t having sex. Part of this is that we just don’t want to think of our parents as actually having sex, no matter how old they are, no matter ... Views:2287
VACATION 101. It’s about having fun, peace of mind, not working and not worrying. Do these things and increase those chances! And remember that the watchword today is not that it changes, but how fast it changes.
PACK THOSE “SMALL” THINGS. They get really "large" on a trip. The nail ... Views:1370
You're the new secretary and your boss asks you to become a Notary Public. He then walks back into his office and you can hear him on the phone talking about a contract he wants out of, and the fact that he's going to falsify a date and signature -- "No problem, my secretary will do it."
It ... Views:6470
“What you need to do is to have some fun,” a therapist friend of mine told me last month. I wasn’t there as his client, but I could be, if that sort of conversation continues. You see, I’d just had what I call “fun”, in visiting with him. He’s funny, he listens to me, he has interesting ... Views:7385
When are you planning to get old? According to a recent study, you'd better move the date back.
"Contrary to common belief, many people can live well into their 90s without becoming cognitively impaired, study findings indicate." - Neurology 2003; 60: 477–480
But statistics are ... Views:1131
How do you figure out what you were meant to do? How do you know what you're really good at? What can you do that makes you shine?
One obstacle most of us have is that we really don't know. People are quick to point out our weaknesses and most of us in childhood and onward were pushed toward ... Views:935
What do you do when you don’t know the language or customs? That’s when your EQ, or Emotional Intelligence, comes in handy.
On my recent tour to Russia, the people in large cities (Moscow, Saint Petersburg) knew English, but not in the small villages (Yaroslavl, Uglich).
I thought I’d pick ... Views:1304
One of the hardest things for some people to do is to accept the blame for something they did, as in admit they made a mistake. This has to do with authenticity, with being honest with yourself, and with your self-esteem. Perfectionists have the hardest time owning up to a mistake; in fact ... Views:1217
The best managers are the ones with emotional intelligence! Here's why.
1. Managers are called upon to make decisions. Primitive emotions, unmonitored, automatic, powerful and not always conscious can “hijack” us making us react thoughtlessly to people and situations instead of thinking ... Views:1249
A major problem for employers today is getting the best employees and then keeping them. How do you do this? By understanding what it is employees really want. Being able to sense what others feel and want is empathy, an emotional intelligence competency.
SOMETHING THAT HASN’T CHANGED IN 50 ... Views:23621
When Valentine’s Day comes around, I remember the year when I left a card shop, having mourned the fact I had no “honey” at the time, worried about whether I was spending too much or too little, whether I’d gotten it right or not, cursing Madison Avenue for the commercial thrust, and thinking of ... Views:1831
If you’re familiar with the lyrics to “Lady Will Power,” by Gary Puckett and the Union Gap, you understand this woman is under some pressure.
Just what is “will power”? In emotional intelligence language, we would call it Intentionality.
Emotional intelligence means being able to understand ... Views:4169
Making resolutions means resolving to do something, committing to do something. In Emotional Intelligence terms this is called Intentionality. It means saying what you mean, and meaning what you say. What are your intentions for your life this coming year? What do you intend to do to make this ... Views:1723
Multiculturalism is a reality in the US and for those of us who do business globally. The US has more legal immigrants yearly than all the other countries in the world combined.
Also there are vast cultural differences among "native" Americans living in the US for several generations, as you ... Views:1369