Many people seeking tips on how to get your ex lover back will resort to the age old technique of trying to buy back love. While it might seem like a quickie solution the long-term ramifications might be disastrous to both your finances and your relationship.

You can't buy love. Any "love" you think you've bought isn't real love and will not last long after the money's all been spent. Instead of trying to buy love from your ex try a new approach: winning it back.

It's possible to win back the love and affection of your ex. Even if the outlook is grim there's still a chance to salvage the emotion from the relationship. As long as there is love (even if it's well-disguised as anger or hate) there is the opportunity to make things right between the two of you.

Where should you get started?

The one thing that many people fail to mention when offering tops on how to get your lover back is stress the importance of beginning all actions and changes on yourself. You are going to need to make some definite changes if you want your "second chance" at love with your ex to last. Start by taking a nice long, objective look in the mirror.

Where can you improve? No one is perfect. There's always room for improvement. What about yourself would you make better if you could? What's stopping you?

What could you have done differently? Sometimes it's as simple as walking away from fights or giving up the last word. We know we love to have the last word in an argument but is it worth the health of your relationship?

What did you do right? Just as no one is perfect or blameless no one is all wrong either. We all have things we do right. You need to understand these things too so you can keep doing them. Maybe you can even do them more often.

What could you have handled a bit better?

Are there any regrets? What would you change if you had the chance? Now is the time to make those changes.

Would you do it again, even if it meant your heart would be broken in the end?

These are important questions to answer because if you can't answer them fully then there's no point in going one step further in your efforts to salvage the relationship.

Don't insult the relationship you had together by trying to buy your ex lover back with gifts. Instead, win the heart of your ex lover all over again by making a change that will matter: a change of heart. Identify what's broken. Fix what you can. Then, give your ex the opportunity to see the new you.

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