The Path to Passion & Synergy
One characteristic satisfied and successful couples have in common is that they are part of each other's lives. Duh-ah! I'm sure this does not come as a surprise. The trick though is how the partners are part of each other's lives. Partners have difficulties negotiating what this means to them and integrating a healthy approach to togetherness and couplehood. Keep reading to learn more.
SUCCESSFUL COUPLES
Get On the Same Page & Create a Satisfying Relationship
Created by Emma K. Viglucci, CFT, LMFT, CIT
Marriage and Family Therapist, Writer and Speaker
Assists Couples Succeed at their Relationship
Founder of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC
http://www.metrorelationship.com
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One characteristic satisfied and successful couples have in common is that they are part of each other's lives. Duh-ah! I'm sure this does not come as a surprise. The trick though is how the partners are part of each other's lives. Partners have difficulties negotiating what this means to them and integrating a healthy approach to togetherness and couplehood. Keep reading to learn more.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

1. Nurturing Nugget
2. Welcome Notes
3. Feature Item: The Path to Passion & Synergy
4. Related Activity and Meditation / Visualization
5. Affirmations for Couple Success
6. Resources for Couple Success

1. NURTURING NUGGET

Cultivate mystique... Build intrigue. Become curious. Let the sparks fly!

2. WELCOME NOTES

~ WELCOME to our monthly issue of Successful Couples! And welcome to the MANY new subscribers!!

The rain has finally stopped and the much awaited Spring is finally here! My thoughts are with those who have once again been affected by the floods in the tri-state area this past week, especially in NJ, and wish them much sunshine in their life. This is a perfect time of year to celebrate rebirth and new beginnings as we celebrate the holidays and welcome Mother Nature's touch upon the earth and rejoice in her gifts of bloom, warmth and brightness. Sit with the beauty and possibilities. Become inspired. What new beginning has been dormant in your life? It's time to wake up and smell the blooms. It's time to start your new beginning.

Our new beginning in the practice comes in the form of providing new services to colleagues! I'm very excited to be at this professional juncture, and I'm easing my way in by providing our first open professional workshop facilitated at our practice. If you are a colleague reading this, please keep your eyes peeled for forthcoming details! What is the new venture in your life?

Services:
Commemorative 10 Sessions Discounted Package!
Affordable Therapy Program - Very reduced rate sessions with our student interns!
Individual Anger Management Program [One-On-One ] (scheduled at your convenience)

Events:
Couples Enrichment One-Day Retreat (4/10/10)
Individual Anger Management Program [group] (4/19/10)
Get Married, Stay Married (4/24/10)

And, as always, don't forget to check me out at more Media engagements!

This issue is about balancing and nurturing togetherness and separateness as a catalyst for a passionate relationship. Keep reading!!

As always, I want to thank all of you who share about this publication with loved ones. Please note that your loved ones automatically receive 5 BONUS RESOURCES for Couple Success when they subscribe. Continue to share the love and the resources - hit the forward button now! Thank you!!

3. FEATURE ITEM: The Path to Passion & Synergy

One characteristic satisfied and successful couples have in common is that they are part of each other's lives. Duh-ah! I'm sure this does not come as a surprise. The trick though is how the partners are part of each other's lives.

Partners have difficulties negotiating what this means to them and integrating a healthy approach to togetherness and couplehood. Their relating ranges from partners leading parallel lives where each barely knows what the other is up to and is minimally involved in the other's activities, pursuits and processes to being completely enmeshed in each other's world where there is little space for uniqueness, originality, and authentic selfhood.

The extent the relationship is characterized by these interactions impacts the resiliency of the partnership. This relating poses a danger to the couple as it extinguishes the sparks between the partners rendering them passionless.

Couples with no passion express dissatisfaction, lack of intimacy and connection and tend to feel dead in their relationship [Disengaged relational style], have a very conflictual relationship (misguided passion !) [Conflictual relational style], and/or become great friends ( friendship is nice but not enough...) [Enmeshed relational style]. In any case, they are at risk. These couples usually do not fare well. The space between them is too great to bare, the conflict is too painful, and/or their interactions are too tedious and boring!

Continuing with such dynamics leads to inertia in the relationship, while it lasts..., and in the partners' lives. This is how people get stuck and are generally unhappy.

The opposite is also true. When partners find a balance between togetherness and separateness, of being a couple while holding on to their individuality, when they create a true partnership where they get to explore, integrate and express their whole self, they are then able to engender passion and tap into the synergy intrinsic to couples. Thus the couple is able to have a satisfying and successful relationship, create and contribute to our universe, live their life and be truly alive. The goal of our humanness...

Happy Balancing!!

4. RELATED ACTIVITY AND MEDITATION / VISUALIZATION

Identify what is your style [or combination of styles] of relating: Disengaged, Conflictual or Enmeshed. Discuss with your partner the impact your style is having on your relationship and your lives. Examine the contribution of your behaviors, activities and commitment to your style and their overall value in your life. Brainstorm and explore ideas of what to add to your repertoire that addresses your level of togetherness and individuality. Pick two ideas to integrate into your lives and do it now!

~~ I pray today for guidance in living my life to the fullest and inviting my partner do the same.

5. AFFIRMATIONS FOR COUPLE SUCCESS

~~ I live my life

~~ We enjoy balanced togetherness and separateness

~~ We tap into our relationship synergy and reap it benefits - we are alive!

6. RESOURCES FOR COUPLE SUCCESS

~~ Other Issues: Read other issues to assist you create a MetroRelationshipTM!Get more insights, tips, tools and resources related to today's content! - And, others related to today's content!!

~~ Recommended Books: We have a huge selection of recommended books for healing, growth and success!
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~~ Other Great Related Resources!!
~ Couples Corner: Tidbits, Exercises, Nurturing Nuggets, Affirmations , Poems, Games and More!!
~ Links: Fun Places for Couples, Romance, Fun, Gifts, and Tons More!!!!

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Note: This newsletter provides insights and resources for couples at all levels of satisfaction in their relationship. It assists couples enhance their relationship, maintain changes, and nurture the relationship and themselves. The content of this newsletter is just food for thought, a source of inspiration and ideas, and a resource. It is not intended in anyway to be therapeutic or a substitute for professional assistance. The content is provided under the assumption the reader is involved in a non-abusive committed long-term relationship. Please refer to our website Disclaimer and Conditions of Use. If you believe you require further assistance than is provided here, please hire a Couple Therapist or other relevant professional. We specialize in working with Couples - you may contact us at 888-880-9055, 212-537-9055 or Click Here.

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Author's Bio: 

Emma K. Viglucci is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, is the creator of the MetroRelationship philosophy and a variety of Successful Couples programs and products that assist couples succeed at their relationship and life. To get your downloadable relationship enrichment insights and receive her weekly successful couples articles, nurturing nuggets (sm) and other resources visit: www.metrorelationship.com .