Self-esteem is a value that you unconsciously place upon yourself. It is based upon choices that you make throughout your life and you will find that it fluctuates. The main reason why psychology experts have failed to increase self-esteem through many different approaches is because self-esteem is not dependent on external factors such as your job, your hobbies, your achievements, your relationship status or how much money you have.

Your level of self-esteem will forever determine the choices you unconsciously make. Have you ever wondered why for example, you choose the type of partner that you choose, or why some have better success in their career than others? When someone has been mistreated at a younger age, their self-esteem is affected. This in turn leads that individual to make certain life choices as a result of their lowered esteem. If you have suffered a form of neglect, abuse , or other negative experience, your unconscious programming will tell you the following beliefs about yourself (to name a few):

• I am ineffective
• I am unlovable
• I will never amount to anything
• There is something wrong with me
• I don’t deserve the best things in life
• I cannot function in the world

The problem is that the negative programming above will continue to run on auto-pilot, which causes you to make bad quality life choices. These bad choices then perpetuate yet more feelings of low self-esteem. As a compensatory strategy to soothe the pain coming from these negative beliefs, you will likely turn to relationships, addictions, and other dependent approaches to soothe your hurt.

As long as this unconscious program is running your life, the choices that you make will continue to negatively affect your life.

To make this simpler, I’m going to use an example of a person who was not loved as a child. Imagine this little child, growing up with an absence of love. The foundations for their self-esteem are already extremely poor. So this child grows into an adult and the memories of the negative events and feelings of not being loved will remain in their unconscious mind. As long as these memories are still there, that person will have what they believe is ‘evidence’ of their unworthiness. So that person feels a sense of unworthiness on an unconscious level and when they are feeling down, they try certain attempts to cheer themselves up such as doing something they enjoy, try not to beat themselves up, practising techniques they have learned to ‘find happiness ’ – but unfortunately, with those negative beliefs and memories stuck in their unconscious mind, these attempts are all temporary and short-lived.

So, what is the long-term, permanent solution?
Over a decade ago it was discovered that old negative memories are like statically charged negative parasites inside the human body. This means that as long as they are there, they will continue to plague your emotional life; causing and reinforcing feelings of low self-esteem and self-worth; feelings of depression ; feelings of unworthiness, and so on. To make it worse, as this program continues to cause you to be rejected by others, not get the job, not be able to keep any friends, not be able to hold down a loving relationship, it further reinforces feelings of hopelessness.

A new coaching modality has now been developed in which feelings of true self-esteem, self-worth and confidence can be restored back into a person’s mind and body; permanently.

To find out more, contact me via the link below to request a complimentary 1 hour consultation to continue on your journey of restoring your authentic self-worth.

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Felicity Muscat is the Founder of The Institute of Self Mastery which was created to help others fulfil the truest, highest, and most authentic expression of themselves in all areas of life.

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Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.

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