Surviving Infidelity: Getting Back Your Self Worth

The key to surviving infidelity is to deal effectively with the pain and win back your sense of self worth. This is not easy in the face of betrayal by someone you have loved. However, if you do not focus on these tasks, the anger and hurt feelings may overshadow the rest of your life.

There are many different ways in which you may have been betrayed. Perhaps your partner had an emotional affair without sex. The cheating may also have been a long-term romance conducted on the side, or even a one-time thing. No matter which situation occurred, the result is incredibly painful.

One of the first things to do when you discover you have been victimized in this way, is to call upon your network of friends and family for the emotional support you will need. They are on your side and will listen to you while you express your rage and pain. This helps with healing. So does the love they will heap upon you.

If you find it difficult to navigate your way through negative feelings, it may be advisable to see a marriage counselor. Don't listen to anyone who says this shows weakness. On the contrary, it is a sign that you are strong and want to make your life better. Individual counseling sessions are the best idea at this point, even if you are considering the option of staying with the person who cheated on you.

Some people can forgive and forget. For others, this may never happen. You should therefore think long and hard about whether the relationship can be salvaged. Consider every aspect of the situation before you make this important decision.

A partner who wants to regain your trust must be willing to answer all of your questions about the betrayal, including why it happened. Relationship experts believe that if the offending party balks at being open and accountable, there is probably not much basis on which to move forward together. Be especially careful if the person says you are to blame or does not appear to be contrite.

Surviving infidelity also means taking the reins when it comes to practical matters. Depending on what your partner did, you may need to be tested for sexually transmitted infections. Don't be ashamed about this. You are blameless. A final recommendation is to contact a lawyer if you think there could be future issues related to custody and financial support. I understand any hesitancy you may have about following this advice, but in my experience they are an integral part of surviving infidelity .