Love a schizoid

Love a schizoid
How to sustain a relationship with a schizoid
THE SCHIZOIDS are people who do not make affective links, they are emotionally cold, avoiding social relations and have significant difficulties in their working lives and their relationships.

Here is a sequence that is sometimes occurring: :

1- Falling in love

If you're a woman you can find a man, who is respectful, cultured, shy ... You can fall in love with him because of some reason ... or simply for the sake of it.

When you are already united to him, trying to live that relationship you find problems, unpleasant and distressing situations ... you begin to suffer from disaffection.

Intrigued by his rare reactions, you start to investigate and get to know that he is schizoid. You discuss your problem and your friends advise you to forget him.

In reality you love him, and do not what to leave him, just like that. You fight for him and the relationship. Almost everything is against it: friends, family ... and himself, who does nothing to save the relationship, who even asks you to leave him.

2- The crisis

You try not to abandon him, you see that he needs help and try to help him but do not know how. You ask yourself if your life is still possible with him.

Every moment he becomes even more closed and the disenchantment touched bottom when you find out that even your presence seems unpleasant, you do not seem to be the solution but the problem ... the more love you give, the more he wants to get away from you.

How is it possible to help somebody – you ask yourself - who does not want to be helped?

One day he says that it’s over and shows you the door... Despite this yet you still do not resign yourself...

3 - Managing the crisis

Here are some guidelines for handling the crisis: He can feel overwhelmed in the presence of any other woman.

But not by you. : so you can not build a relationship.

He needs solitude. You should respect his need for solitude and communicate with him: Briefly, by SMS, E Mail.

He can be excited about your love; or in other words, he will fall in love "in his own way."

Although he abandons you from his life without any reason, don’t leave him suddenly. Take some time and you will have the opportunity to clarify your situation.

Almost always he will need the help of a psychologist. You can argue to go to a consultation with for his problem of anxiety .

Some schizoid, assuming their limitations on both parts, manage to keep the relationship with their partner for many years. Others, however, fail.

The effort to sustain the relationship is uneven. He will do little, she has to put a lot.

So the relationship would have a chance she has to be provided with an open character.

Remember that he can not be affectionate or have details with you. The substrate of his schizoid personality is not going to change ever.

At some point he will also have to do a step. If he does not move there is no future.

The schizoid find the balance in a solitary life with going out few. The common social life will be limited.

It is difficult to live a life together. Sometimes he will go to solitude. At that time you can be alone and frustrated.Addition to the common life,, you need to have another life, own, personal, where you have your own work, friends, hobbies, projects ...

While you're suffering from disaffection, it is best to think mostly of you.

If someone in your environment deserves your trust, talk to him: the moral support feels very good.

Any solution with future is to be accepted as he is and adapt your relationship to its limits.

If he is very schizoid or too schizoid the consolidation of the couple will not be possible Before you join your life to his, it considers if what he gives you so scarcely

- love, details, expressions of affection, iloveyous, social life with him ...– it is acceptable and enough for you.
Mikel Martinez Ph G
www.schizoids.info