Is your marriage on the rocks right now? Are you having problems with your wife that you just can't fix?

Every marriage has its highs and lows, but sometimes it's more severe than that… Are you afraid that this particular problem you're facing now may be the straw that broke the camels back, so to speak?

If you're having marriage problems, then you need to understand what exactly is causing them. Why are you having problems in your marriage and with your wife?

Well, one to tell you something that you're not going to like to hear, but it needs to be said anyways…

You're facing problems in your marriage because you're not fulfilling your duty as a husband.

Ouch! I know, it sounds mean, but just hear me out. I really don't mean it as a personal attack on you… In my experience about 95% of husbands aren't fulfilling their duty as a husband, so you're certainly not alone.

Why? Because to truly fulfill your husbandly duties for your wife, you have to be the LEADER in your marriage.

It's not about the number of people you're in charge of, or having a charismatic or charming personality. Every man can be and has been a leader at some point...Your wife was initially attracted to you BECAUSE she saw those leadership traits in you. You just have to unlock them again.

So, what really defines a leader, and how can you become the husband your wife wants to follow?

What Really Defines a Leader?

* A Leader Is Fun to Be around , and doesn’t let other people’s business get him down…That includes your wife’s unhappiness or her psychological mind games. Let YOU be the source of YOUR happiness , and f@*% the rest. You don’t have to be mean, just self dependant.

* A Leader Is Confidant in Himself , and knows that life is going to keep going for better or for worse, and that he might as well make the best of every situation…This naturally makes him a happy and healthy person to be around

* A Leader Is Charismatic and Loose ; he lets himself define his own reaction to any given situation, and doesn’t let other people’s expectations affect his own actions…Because of this he is always enjoyable and interesting to be around – It just comes naturally

* A Leader Loves His Neighbor As Himself , and cares for the people that need caring for. He is loving, kind and he can be very affectionate, but he doesn’t grovel or plead for attention like some men do.

* A Leader Is a Provider , not just of food and basic necessities, but of enjoyment, enlightenment and self worth. He provides his wife with a strong pillar of support that she can lean on when her own life isn’t going the way she wants, and he can ‘man up’ when the need arises.

So, the reason you’re having problems in your marriage right now is because somewhere along the line you lost one or more of these qualities in your wife’s eyes. She can’t convince herself to ‘forgive him’ or ‘come back to him’ or ‘give it a second chance’ because she doesn’t FEEL it without those qualities.

From her perspective you no longer resemble the leader that she married – And don’t get me wrong, EVERY man was a leader at some point – and because you don’t resemble that Lion that you once were, she no longer has that biological NEED to be with you. She no longer feels compelled to follow you, and the absence of that feeling is what is driving the rift between the two of you.

If you can capture all of these qualities within yourself, then not only will you be prepared to take your marriage by the horns and have it as you will, but you will also be better prepared for life.

The men who are leaders in our world, even if it is only within their own personal lives, don’t just enjoy better and healthier marriages, but even when things go sour (as they always do at some point) he can still remain happy, successful and confidant.

Why? Because he who leads is like a Lion, and what does a Lion have to be afraid of?

Absolutely Nothing.

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If you're ready to be the man your wife wants to be married to, then I urge you to check out this free report: 9 Essential Traits of a Good Husband ( click here - it's free!)

If you still have any unanswered questions and you'd like to learn more about getting your wife back, then I encourage you to take some time and browse some more interesting articles about getting your wife back before or during separation.

Whatever you do from here, good luck!

Kindly, - Jacob Elichmann