How Children Connect With Us From The Other Side

The parents that come to see me often ask the defining question, “Where are they?”

This gut wrenching question haunts parents every minute. Perhaps one of the most important messages that are sent between spirit and the living is that of continuation of existence. The absolutely desperate attempt by many parents to adapt and adjust to the death of their child seems like a mountain that is too high to climb. One of the primary experiences that the child brings through during a reading which helps, or hopefully helps, is to grasp the idea that their child’s soul is in a state of change, transition and expansion.

Each soul is unique in how they talk; the language they use, the symbols they choose and the sounds from which they select. It’s amazing. The depth and degree of the communication can often change depending upon the emotional state of the reader as well as the sitters. I have often experienced a better reading when I am tired. This seems odd, yet when I am “out of it” more, the soul seems to enter easier. The sense of others in the reading often adds to the reading. I have often found that in multiple person readings, especially with children, that they seem to come from a sense of family support and connection.

When the soul of a small child leaves in presence of the parent it presents a more painful and, in many cases, an unbearable emotion. To watch the body of a child leave directly in front of their parents or siblings is brutal and yet the child’s soul is trying very hard to release the pain from their parents through a final stage of transmission between the living and the soul departing. This “communing” experience is quite powerful. The child is sending final messages to their parents, reinforcing and building a psychic bridge that will be later be used to communicate with the family. To the parents, their grief is a blinding element that prevents this wisdom. The aura of the child is changing and if the parents could see it they would see the great amount of white and gold light that is being emanated from the child. This bridging effect is often done by children’s souls who “understand” that their parents need that final energy burst to help make the transition.

Items kept in the child’s bedroom should be maintained for a short while, perhaps a few months, for this physical plane link and place of comfort often attracts the child. In many of my readings I have had children enter quite beautifully and they describe in great detail the objects and items in their bedroom and living rooms that were theirs. They also tell me what items have been removed or relocated, which is a great way of telling the parents that their child is visiting a place that is familiar on the physical plane of existence. Often discarnates can be confused about their transition and points of reunion, and can sometimes “hang on” to find out what is happening. It is best to explain to the child that Mommy and Daddy are helping them when cleaning their room or removing items. Of all souls, the soul of a child is the most clear and least primitive. There is a purity in the child, and yet an innocence as well. Guidance comes from us here, as well as the spirit people who are with them.

In addition many people do not fully grasp, or wish to grasp, the psychic and spiritual idea that the passing of younger body, that which we call child, is the spiritual fact that the physical plane “work” in this particular body is complete for now and the soul needs to return to a place of energy and comfort. They gather in similar energy planes of like-type souls and family members. This is so very important to grasp. The soul leaves on its own accord. The method of physical preparation seems to be very short and often by surprise. How does it make any sense that a child’s death was planned? And yet on the psychic levels it does happen this way.

Often children’s souls need to visit and stay close to the physical plane for their benefit and the benefit of their loved ones. The child, or anyone for that matter, does not consciously plan their death (suicides are different matter and energy). That is why the death process even shocks the child initially. However once the transition begins then the “understanding” begins. On the psychic plane souls feel the emotions of the living and of course they sense and feel their own emotions as well; good, bad, right, wrong, action, fear, and anxiety are still experienced but it takes on a more defined purpose than simply “you’re right and I’m wrong.” It works more as a learning station, a cleansing agent.

The attraction of prayer and conversation are like pieces of delicious food to a soul. The intentional request of the heart is to ask for forgiveness, love, and understanding; which draw the energy of a child. The souls of children are attracted to the process of prayer. Do not discount this beautiful experience. All too often I hear from parents that they have stopped praying due to the death of their child. This is not good. It separates the child from the parent. Anger, hate, shame, fear and guilt are like barriers to the communication process, as are vanity and pride.

The soul of child “knows’ that you, as parents, perceive them as children. This is the way that they will enter psychically for your benefit. They will present themselves, in most cases, as they last remember their physical body.