We all have moments in life when we are just not feeling the love. In every kind of love, there are times when things go wrong and people disappoint you. It happens to the best of us. I want you to know that when you feel this way that everything is fine. There is nothing wrong with you. You may be feeling this way right now. This is just a moment. You will move on when you choose to do so. May I offer you a few practical things you can do right here to begin feeling more love and proving to your skeptical self that love is all around you? Yes, love is all around you even in this moment.
Talk About How Love Feels
I know you are ready to feel the love. Who wouldn’t want more love in their life? Love is awesome. Love makes us feel warm and appreciated, nurtured, understood. Love melts away guilt, shame, anger and sadness. Love gives us strength and peace even during the toughest challenges. There is always room for more love. Love feels so fantastic. Did you know just talking about how great love is will begin to shift you into a space where you feel more love? I don’t care how blue and hopeless things may seem; love is powerful enough to break through even the darkest moment and give us a sliver of joy to hold. You are never too far or far gone to access love. Find reasons to acknowledge love and speak about love. Any excuse will do.
Keep It Real And Sift Out The Positive
There’s a tendency to jump from talking about love into talking about how love hurts. No. Don’t do it. Stay positive. Listen, there is nothing wrong with acknowledging the hurt you have experienced. I am not suggesting it is not real. Yes, those feelings are real. What I am saying is there are things about even the most disappointing and painful relationships that are good, and healing. You are not wishing away the negative when you acknowledge the love. What if you could allow yourself to acknowledge that love is complex and just choose to look in this moment at the best parts of love. Can you be open to that? It is actually a great exercise to practice sifting out the love and joy in every experience we have. Why you take a few minutes to see how skilled you are?
Show Love To Yourself
There’s that old saying that you teach people how to treat you. That’s very true. The tough part is, you teach people how to treat you based on how you treat yourself. If you are not feeling the love from people in your life, chances are you are not feeling the love from yourself. Start being more loving to you right now. What can you do to show more love to yourself right now? It does not have to be extravagant. Simple is often more powerful anyway. Show love to yourself. Want compliments? Give yourself compliments. One of the most powerful ways to feel love is to speak love. Write yourself a love note. Sing yourself a love song. Fill your day with moments when you show love to yourself. Choose to notice all the ways you are loving yourself.
Attract More Love With Gratitude
Nothing attracts more love all around you faster than appreciating the love you already have. Gratitude is powerful way to feel the love. Chances are there signs of love all around you that do not see. Why not choose to focus on the little signs of love in this moment. Allow yourself to notice more love. Challenge yourself to expand your definition of how love can be expressed. Decide to be attune to the simple ways love is coming into your life. What are you noticing? Where have you missed signs of love? Be grateful for every bit of love that you notice. How are you feeling about love now? Start listing places where love is showing up. Does it surprise you where you are finding love? Start acknowledging how much love is all around you. Prove to yourself that there is an abundance of love right here right now right where you are. How could this be true? Thankfulness attracts more love. Give thanks for every little bit of love you notice. Thank love for being there. Thank people for showing love to you. Thank yourself for choosing to notice that love is all around you.
Did you try it? How did it feel to begin acknowledging more love in your life? What did you notice about the power of love to shift how much love you see? I would love to hear from you. What are some ways you use to feel the love all around you?
Author: Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™ is a Speaker and Coach for highly creative problems solvers and entrepreneurs who struggle with procrastination, doubts, fears, over-thinking, good excuses, and stubbornness. Adrienne knows exactly how to confidentially coach Helpers who get overwhelmed being there for everyone else, but are uncomfortable being helped. The Soul Power Coach™ has practical tools for the accomplished, respected, workaholic feeling isolated and frustrated because the people around them are behaving badly, or they just want life to be more fun. Clients come to the Soul Power Coach™ needing more focus, organization, consistency, and courage to move even the most impossible obstacles out of the way and feel more unspeakable joy. Adrienne has several ways to work herself out of a job by showing clients how to access their own Soul Power immediately and more consistently. Take the 30 Second Soul Power Challenge & get $275 of do-it-yourself coaching tools free at www.soulpowercoach.com