How and Where to Meet Well-to-do-Women

First off, remember men, you don't have to be a "10." This chapter isn't about the numbers game, so I'm not going to waste your time telling you how to be what some narrow-minded women think you should look like in their eyes. What you have to offer a well-to-do woman is YOU along with your attributes and faults. Don't offer a phony coverup or pat conversation. For example, if a woman says She likes a particular hobby, lifestyle or whatever and it goes against everything you've always believed, it would be deceptive for you to tell her it's always been your favorite too, just for the sake of appearing to be the one for her. This whole idea most often backfires along the way, leaving the woman feeling betrayed and seriously jeopardizing your future credibility. When you meet these well-to-do women, above all be yourself!This is not to say you shouldn't make an effort to improve yourself. Wear appropriate clothing when you are out meeting these ladies. Don't overdress, as you will stand out in a way that won't help your cause. If you're asked to a formal dinner, if at all possible, find out what the other men are planning to wear. If necessary, you can call the place where the dinner will be and ask the maitre d' what the men wear. If you're not certain what is proper etiquette, look around you and follow suit. If you're alone with the woman and you're not certain what drink to order or you don't understand the menu, ask her to suggest something or to surprise you. Also, you could tell her that you don't understand the menu and ask her to suggest something. Tell her you don't drink much and what would she recommend.

One of the cardinal rules in your search for the well-to-do woman is to forget the bars. The person you're looking for isn't wasting time in them. You have to go where the rich and soon to be rich spend their time. If you like boating and water, many yacht clubs allow people to join on social status who don't even own boats. What better way to meet a well-to-do woman than to be a member of this club and be present at the various social functions the club provides. This allows you to mingle with a lot of people of means without having a large cash outlay yourself.

If you're a horse lover, find an exclusive stable or riding club and join up. This doesn't mean you have to have a horse of your own to learn to ride.

If you can afford the membership dues in a country club or if you can afford to borrow the money to join up, do so. If you are an aspiring golfer, most areas have places you can even rent the clubs. On publiccourses without restrictions, make sure you're playing during the middle of the week whenever possible. It's a common joke your doctors and lawyers are on the course during this time. Usually they play the country clubs but they have been known to play on public courses. The private clubs often have "men only" during certain hours. Find out if this includes the club house as well. If the restriction lifts at four or five in the afternoon, make it your business to be there. Better supermarkets are excellent meeting places for the upwardly mobile, as are better department stores. You can be working there or shopping there, just as long as these eligible women see you. Some of the really large stores such as Bloomies in New York have entire departments devoted to party needs such as wine, cheese, crackers or hors d'oeuvres, etc. Want to meet a nice on-the-way up type of woman, she's here buying for a fun party. It's a sure bet if you're looking around this type of party center, conver¬sation will develop if you let it or even better, start it.

In University towns, the libraries are excellent meeting places for soon to be lawyers and doctors and other assorted professional types. Ideally, you should be in the University library as opposed to the public one. This could necessitate enrolling in one course to get the card entitling you to use the library. Take something fun and easy.

There are loads of opportunities to meet eligible, well-to-do women while working as dental assistants, receptionists to doctors and attorneys, businessmen and the like. The pay isn't always the highest but it affords you the opportunity to meet a lot of different people including female executives, etc. Salesmen in prestigious car dealerships like Mercedes, Cadillac, etc. meet a lot of well-to-do women looking for cars and maybe you. There's also the opportunity here to make a good living.

Real estate is always a good avenue to follow in pursuit of a good career and chances to meet well-to-do women. You will meet successful women looking to buy a home. The economy is currently not as generous to realtors as it once was but this too will pass. For the moment, get to night school and get that realtors license so you'll be ready to meet those women looking for a home when that market starts to loosen up.

Airline stewardesses meet a great many successful women. Airline ticket persons meet the same people but usually don't have the time to start a relationship because of the lines and the need to get these people out. A stewardess can get more exposure to the well-to-do passenger and perhaps start a relationship that will continue after the plane has landed.

Top waiters in better restaurants meet a lot of successful types who would love to get married and take care of you in a style you'd love to get accustomed to. Male hair stylists in styling salons and other types of women's beauty care centers will invariably meet the well-to-do women.

The basic idea behind meeting a well-to-do woman is to be where they are in one capacity or another. If they see you with a certain amount of frequency, things will take their natural course. You will never meet them at work if you work on an assembly line, in a man's clothing store or as a telephone oper-ator. In short, you need exposure either at work or at one of the previously mentioned clubs, golf courses, etc. The more familiar you become to them as when you're seen in their office, club, hair salon, etc., day after day, the better. The most important single thing is for YOU to be seen by them. Familiarity breeds relationships! Good luck men.