Remember those public service announcements? This is your brain…this is your brain on drugs.” An egg sizzles on a hot skillet indicating the harm that drugs can do to your brain.
In Tantra , we can apply the exact same visual and words to describe your brain when you have sex except instead of polluting and “frying” your brain with harmful, synthetic drugs, you're actually feeding it powerful, organic drugs which are naturally produced in your very own body. We actually need that natural sizzle in our brains to help promote healing, rest and satisfaction.
Sex is more complex than body parts coming together. Sex in large part involves the mind. I work with individuals and couples who think of sex independent of how they feel or think. The fact is your brain is the largest sex organ you possess!
Here are some things you need to know about sex and your brain. First, the sizzle of the sexes.
A Woman’s Brain on Sex:
You’ve probably heard these lines played out in a movie or on a television show: “I know that look. You’ve had sex. You’re glowing!” A woman’s brain is constantly multitasking, juggling to-do lists and solving world problems if only by deciding on the dinner menu for that day. However, from the point of sexual stimulation through ejaculation, the female brain becomes singular in its efforts. Meanwhile, dozens of areas in a woman’s brain blissfully come to life during sex. Her consciousness is expanded and hormones flood her brain as her entire being becomes focused on the moment.
Pretty powerful stuff!
A Man’s Brain on Sex:
“After sex, he just rolls over and goes to sleep. He won’t cuddle with me.” A man’s brain is so often misunderstood in the area of sexual afterplay. Outside of sex, men normally focus on one thing at a time. When sex happens to be that one thing, it comes with powerful sensations and biological functions which culminate with ejaculation. Once a man reaches climax, his brain like a woman’s; it is flooded with hormones which involve satisfaction and relaxation . It’s like sex is a sleeping pill for men! He isn’t bored or disinterested. Remember, he’ll focus on one thing at a time. After sex, that one thing is often sleep.
For both sexes:
Sex can act as an antidepressant. Studies have shown that sexual activity decreases anxiety levels. Oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin are natural “feel good drugs” that flood the brain during sex. People refer to feelings of love and happiness during and after sex. The brain is that place where fears and anxiety can quietly withdraw from your consciousness when you are sexually stimulated.
Sex has anti-aging powers. You can save money on the expensive creams and fad treatments: DHEA is a naturally-occurring hormone in the brain that is great for your skin! Moreover, it’s been linked to improved brain function and possible new cell growth. It’s like finding the proverbial fountain of youth. It’s literally all in your mind.
Just think about how you ignite these powerful, natural drugs in your brain by simply having sex and putting a sizzle in your brain.
Robyn Vogel is a Psychotherapist, Certified Sex Coach and sex educator, and creator of ComeBackToLove.com, where she marries traditional, spiritual and energetic methods to teach men and women how to master the energetics of intimacy and Come Back to Love™.
Robyn works with individuals and couples who are struggling with intimacy, feeling lost around love, and deeply crave purposeful and passionate connection. For 15 years she's been teaching and practicing Tantra as a foundational spiritual practice that grounds her clients from within, removes obstacles to loving deeply and teaches all aspects of healthy sustainable intimate relationship.