Prepare to be awed, amazed, and even shocked to discover that the real guaranteed best way to get your ex back is not a single one of the usual suspects.

Traditional wisdom would have you believe that the only way to get your ex back is to make massive changes in your personality or give your ex anything he or she asks you to provide and take all the blame for the wrongs of the relationship upon yourself. This is not the case at all. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth.

The guaranteed best way to get your ex back will have nothing to do with becoming the lap dog of your ex. Door mats aren't on the list of things to become for this vital role either.

But, what is needed to fill the role of guaranteed best way to get your ex back?

1) Stop trying so hard. The harder you try the harder your ex is going to fight you. Instead of trying to get your ex back, give your ex what he or she wants: a life without you. The longer you are able to let them go the better in most cases. You'll want to give your ex time to experience life without you and really miss you and your important role you played in his or her life.

2) Follow a plan. Put it all down in writing and follow step by step. Even if the plan doesn't work the first time it's better to have a plan to follow than trying to "wing it" and finding out that you've made a huge miscalculation that can't be undone. Step by step instructions are the easiest to follow by far so take the time to create a plan that includes step by step instructions or follow an existing plan that lays them out for you.

3) Follow a script of what to say (and more importantly what not to say). You know the danger zones in your relationship. You know those "fighting words" that will end up in an hour long fight or dishes flying through the windows. Make sure you write a script that will keep you on target and help you avoid straying into uncharted waters or seriously sticking your foot in your mouth with your ex.

It may not look like much but this proven method is the best way to get your ex back if you play the angle right.

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