Forgiveness

Forgiveness

I spent a decade trying to forgive my abuser just so I could feel free again. I wanted to be free from being his victim long after the relationship ended. I had done so many forgiveness techniques without prevail. I read numerous books on forgiveness without them helping.
I discovered what worked for me. I wrote a book and it is currently being published. My book would not be available if it had not been for my abuse and having to learn happiness . From my darkest days stems many creative, inspirational, and wise thoughts designed to help others become better, happier, and healthier.
We all want to forgive to feel at peace . Forgiveness is not condoning the behavior . Forgiveness is not for them, it is for you. We all need to realise that point.
There is another forgiveness activity that helped me forgive. It was a forgiveness letter. I wrote a forgiveness letter that he would never see. In it, I wrote all my deepest, darkest feelings. At the end, I wrote, "I forgive you." I highly recommend making your own forgiveness letter. Be as honest as you can. Be true to yourself. No one needs to see it, but you. Do not hold back. I didn't and I am much better for it. The letter helped soothe a decade of being a prisoner of the abuse . For ten years, I did not realise I had the key to my own prison. We all have a key. Through reading, learning , and improving, we slowly unlock our mental prisons and let ourselves out.
My thoughts kept me his victim. I changed my thoughts and I became a survivor, instead. As a survivor, I can be my own boss, use my own judgement, and be free. No one can take that from me. I really hope these techniques help you as much as they have helped me.