Essence of Marriage as per Hinduism

There is no key for this day and age that shows you how to live your life. Forget about moksh, even then you need to know how to live your life, don’t you? You just need to distinguish where each path leads, then decide which one you want to take.

If you cannot decide, he will tell you which paths have perils along the way. Married people feel trapped in their marriage . Unmarried people feel that married people are blessed. Between the two, who will find the solution? It is hard to stay single in this world.

One has no choice but to get married, so why be miserable in a marriage if you have no choice? Some question why they should get married and become miserable. Harmony in Marriage becoming miserable, but rather to acquire the experiences of this world; is this worldly life real or not? Is there happiness in it or not? This life is specifically meant for obtaining the basic meaning. Have you arrived at its meaning? The relationship between a man and a woman is like that of a mill owner and the ox that turns the grinder. In India, there are small oil mills in the villages, where the ox is made to go round and round turning a mill, crushing and extracting oil from the seeds of a castor plant and other oil producing seeds. Parts of the ox’s eyes are covered to restrict his vision in order to facilitate the process of repetitive walking in circles around the mill. The husband represents the bullock and the wife represents the bullock-master that runs the oil mill. They go around and around. The half-blinded ox thinks he must have covered a very long distance after a day of walking , but when his blinders are removed, he realizes that he is right where he started.

Then what does the ox-master do? He feeds him a piece of oil cake and pleasing the bullock so that it starts working again. Similarly, the wife feeds her man a piece of handavo (savory bread made from rice and lentils) and the husband eats peacefully and the whole labor of life resumes early the next morning. It has become difficult now to pass days. When the husband comes home, he will complain about a pain in his chest and the children will come and announce they have failed their exams. When the husband has a pain in his chest, the wife will have anxieties about what is to become of her family if the husband has a heart attack. She will consume her mind with all kinds of negative thoughts, which will prevent her from living peacefully. When can you say it is worth getting married? Only when just one person out of a hundred thousand gets married. What is the big deal when everyone marries? There is a big college (Dadashri’s Science of worldly interaction) for women and men where they can learn how to conduct their life’s interactions after marriage , but these people get married without educating themselves. If someone insults you there is no problem in accepting the insult, but you have to keep that insult in your awareness and remind yourself, “Is this life meant for such insults?” There is no problem with insults, there is no need for anything that elevates the ego, nor is there a need for anything that defeats the ego, but is our life meant for insults? Should we not have this awareness? As long as the wife is sulking, he would say, “Oh God, please help me!” When she comes back to talk to him, he forgets everything, and God and everything else is set aside. How intense is this puzzle? Is your suffering going to heal this way? What is the meaning of this world? Troubles. Even this body is trouble. Should there be a desire for troubles?

It is a wonder indeed that there is any desire for this. A fishing net is different from the worldly life net. With a fishnet, you can at least cut your way through and escape, but you cannot escape from the net of this worldly life. Even when you die, you do not escape. A Gnani Purush shows you a way to escape the net of the world. He shows you the path to moksh (liberation) and puts you on that track so that you feel that you have been liberated from the problems of external forces forever. How can you call this a life? How lovely life should be! Each and every person should emit a fragrance. There would be praises sung all around, about how wonderful a person is, Harmony in Marriage 97 98 Harmony in Marriage becoming miserable, but rather to acquire the experiences of this world; is this worldly life real or not? Is there happiness in it or not? This life is specifically meant for obtaining the basic meaning. Have you arrived at its meaning? The relationship between a man and a woman is like that of a mill owner and the ox that turns the grinder. In India, there are small oil mills in the villages, where the ox is made to go round and round turning a mill, crushing and extracting oil from the seeds of a castor plant and other oil-producing seeds. Parts of the ox’s eyes are covered to restrict his vision in order to facilitate the process of repetitive walking in circles around the mill. The husband represents the bullock and the wife represents the bullock-master that runs the oil mill. They go around and around. The half-blinded ox thinks he must have covered a very long distance after a day of walking, but when his blinders are removed, he realizes that he is right where he started. Then what does the ox-master do? He feeds him a piece of oil cake and pleasing the bullock so that it starts working again. Similarly, the wife feeds her man a piece of handavo (savoury bread made from rice and lentils) and the husband eats peacefully and the whole labor of life resumes early the next morning. It has become difficult now to pass days. When the husband comes home, he will complain about a pain in his chest and the children will come and announce they have failed their exams. When the husband has a pain in his chest, the wife will have anxieties about what is to become of her family if the husband has a heart attack. She will consume her mind with all kinds of negative thoughts, which will prevent her from living peacefully. When can you say it is worth getting married? Only when just one person out of a hundred thousand gets married. What is the big deal when everyone marries? There is a big college (Dadashri’s Science of worldly interaction) for women and men where they can learn how to conduct their life’s interactions after marriage , but these people get married without educating themselves. If someone insults you there is no problem in accepting the insult, but you have to keep that insult in your awareness and remind yourself, “Is this life meant for such insults?” There is no problem with insults, there is no need for anything that elevates the ego, nor is there a need for anything that defeats the ego, but is our life meant for insults? Should we not have this awareness? As long as the wife is sulking, he would say, “Oh God, please help me!” When she comes back to talk to him, he forgets everything, and God and everything else is set aside. How intense is this puzzle? Is your suffering going to heal this way? What is the meaning of this world? Troubles. Even this body is trouble. Should there be a desire for troubles? It is a wonder indeed that there is any desire for this. A fishing net is different from the worldly life net. With a fishnet, you can at least cut your way through and escape, but you cannot escape from the net of this worldly life. Even when you die, you do not escape. A Gnani Purush shows you a way to escape the net of the world. He shows you the path to moksh (liberation) and puts you on that track so that you feel that you have been liberated from the problems of external forces forever.