Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Empty?

When someone feels like a whole human being, they are going to be in tune with what is taking place in their head and what is going on in their body. One is then not going to be dead from the neck down.

Connected

As a result of this, one will be able to utilise the information that is in their body, meaning they won’t need to rely on their mind. They will typically be aware of how they feel and what their needs are.

It is therefore going to be a lot easier for them to fulfil their needs, which can enable them to live a fulfilling life. And through being aware of how they feel, they should also be able to express their emotions.

The Outcome

Due to this, there is as strong chance that one will have close connections with other people. The reason for this is that close connections are not formed through simply sharing ideas alone; they are generally formed through sharing what is taking place at a deeper level.

Thus, when one is able to express how they feel, it will allow other people to feel connected to them. Furthermore, how one feels around someone will tell them a lot about if this person is good for them.

Guidance

There will be the effect their intuition has, too, and this is going to provide them with instant information. At times, their mind might not know what is going on and this could result in one ignoring their inner guidance.

But if they are in tune with themselves, this could be the exception as opposed to the rule. The mind is the part of them that has been conditioned by the external world; whereas their inner guidance is the result of their connection to all that is.

Full Up

One of the benefits of feeling like a whole human being is that one is not going to feel as though they need someone or something to complete them. Said another way, one is going to be an interdependent human being; they will need others, but they won’t need one person in particular.

Now, this is not to say that there won’t be moments when they will feel as though something is missing. When this happens, it could be a sign that one is going through a breakup or that someone has passed on, for instance.

Part of Life

However, after a certain amount of time has passed and/or they have been able to grieve, they should soon feel like a whole human being again. Life is not one big holiday, after all, and this is why it is going to be normal for one to feel as though they have been knocked over from time to time.

When they do get knocked down, they might end up being drawn to things that they wouldn’t usually be drawn to. Perhaps one could drink more than they usually do, or eat the wrong kind of food, for instance.

A Different Reality

On the other hand, if one doesn’t feel whole, their experience on this planet is going to be very different. This may mean that it is normal for them to be drawn to things that are not good for them.

Alternatively, one could simply be drawn to one thing and not care about anything else. For example, one might find that they tend to drink a lot of alcohol or take drugs, or, one might eat too much food or buy too much stuff.

A Black Hole

Deep down, one is likely to believe that this will allow them to finally feel like a whole human being. It is then as though the emptiness within then will be filled by consuming things from the external world.

Part of them might even realise that this is not working, but the part of them that is in control might not be willing to face up to this. As far as this part of them in concerned, this could be the only way that it is going to take place.

Two Experiences

Yet, while one is going to feel numb and as though they are missing something, it doesn’t mean that they will always feel this way. There could also be moments when they feel incredibly needy and emotionally raw.

It can seem as though they are either on top of a building looking down, or as though they are trapped in a pool that is full of sludge. One then is either detached from how they feel in their body or they are practically drowning in how they feel.

The Trigger

What can cause one to go from one extreme to another is if they happen to end up in a relationship and this comes to an end. One will have attached to someone and, as this attachment is broken, it will have brought up the pain that is within them.

It can be as if one doesn’t need anything at one point in time and at another, it can be as though they need everything. So, regardless of how developed their intellect is, what is clear is that they are emotionally undeveloped.

A Closer Look

When one is experiencing life in this way, it is highly likely that they didn’t receive what they needed during their formative years. The attunement that they needed, in order to grow and develop in the right way, probably wasn’t provided on a consistent basis, if at all.

This may then have been a time when one had to shut down (become numb) to stop themselves from being overwhelmed with pain. If they had embraced how they felt as a child, it might have been too much for their system to handle.

Awareness

Being neglected as a child would have stopped them from receiving what they desperately needed and it would have caused them to experience trauma. With this in mind, there can be what one needs to receive and what they need to let go of to feel like a whole human being.
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The process of being affirmed and letting go of trauma can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.