When some people lose a loved one, they may think that that’s the end of it and that it’s not possible for them to talk to them again. In this case, they will have to rely on their memories and the memories other people have.

There are then going to be others to believe this is not the case, and that it is possible for them to talk to the person who has passed on. They are then going to try to contact their loved one who has passed on.

Many Ways

This could take place through them working with someone who has the ability to connect to people who have passed on or one try to do this by themselves. If they reach out to someone else, they may have a one-to-one reading or they may be part of a group of people who are in a similar position.

One’s loved one is then going to speak through the world of spirit or the afterlife and one will be able to have some kind of dialogue with the person who has passed on. There is also the chance that they will try to contact a number of people who have passed.

Extreme Pain

When one looses someone, they can end up experiencing extreme pain, and it might not matter if how close they were. What it comes down to is that the other person was in their life and now they are gone.

The loss that they experience will cause them to experience grief , and they may feel as though their heart has been broken. Their life has changed and it is never going to be the same again.

Support

As a result of what is taking place for them, it is going to be normal for them to need support from others. The strength they may usually feel is not going to be there and there will be a greater need for external support.

One way this can happen is through being around other friends and family , for instance, and it can also happen through being around others who are in a similar position. Therefore, going to a place where other people are also looking to contact the someone they have lost is a way for one to feel supported.

Interdependent

Human beings are interdependent and this means that they always need others, and when one experiences loss, they are going to have the need to be around others who understand what they are going through. This is unlikely to be a time where one will want to be told to ‘get over how they feel’ or to simply move on.

So if one was to try and contact someone who has passed on through having a one-to-one reading, for instance, it is going to be a different to the experience they would have through being in a group of people. However, while some people may be happy to be in a group of people, there may be others who may find that this is too much and they may prefer to work with one person.

Reassurance

There is the support that they will receive through being around other people and then there is the reassurance that they will receive through contacting their loved ones. They may find out that the person who has passed on is doing fine and that they don’t need to worry.

What they hear can all depend on why someone passed on and how one has been affected by what has taken place. They may be told that they need to carry on with their life and to ‘let go’, among other things.

In The Beginning

If one has just lost someone, they may feel the need to speak to them on a regular basis, and then as time passes, this might not be the case. This is not to say that they won’t need support, but their need for reassurance may start to diminish.

This may be because they have been mourning the grief that is within them, and as a result of this, the pain has started to subside and this has then made it easier for them to let go.

Facing the Pain

It will be vital for one to cry out the pain that is within them in order for them to not only to let go, but to find meaning once again. There is no set time for how long this process will take, and this is why one has to go with how they feel.

Yet, even though it is important for one to cry out the pain that is within them, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. And as a way for one to avoid the pain that is within them, their mind can end up holding on and looking outside for answers.

After Death Communication

When this happens, contacting a loved one who has passed on can end up being a way for them to avoid the grief that is within them. In the early stages this might not be a problem, but if they continue to avoid their pain there is a strong chance that they won’t be able to let go or to find meaning once more.

This doesn’t mean that one is aware of what is taking place, as they are likely to be doing the best they can. Ultimately, they are in pain and they are looking for a way to feel better.

Mourning

It is human nature to avoid pain, but when it comes to letting go of the grief that one experiences as a result of losing someone, it will be important for them to face how they feel. This is because the only way to let go of this pain is to go through it.

One needs to surrender to the pain that is within them; it is not possible to let go of this pain through force or through changing how one thinks. This is often more about what is taking place in the body than it is about what is taking place in the mind.

Awareness

If one finds that it is not possible for them to face how they feel, it will be important for them to reach out for support. Through this external support, they will find it easier to face how they feel.

This support can come from a therapist, trusted friend and/or a support group.

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