Getting To The Heart Excerpt 1

Letting Go

We have been taught to believe, that letting go means to push away or suppress. However, true letting go is a process of integration and healing.

Letting go can be a misleading statement because it gives the impression of separation. By integrating a situation that involves you, another person, or a circumstance in life, means to come to terms with it. We can only come to terms with something when we understand it. When we understand the purpose of our life experiences we are able to accept them, thereby releasing our emotional attachment. Learning to embrace our issues in this way allows us to take them within ourselves and integrate them.

Once our emotions are understood and integrated our judgments about ourselves and others begin to dissolve. Where there is clarity and understanding, problems can not germinate.

What we see on the outside of ourselves is a reflection of what is happening on the inside. Interacting with others is always a way of interacting with ourself. When interaction brings up feelings within us that we do not like, we should search inside to see why this is occurring. We should view others in our lives as our mirrors.

Many people distance and isolate themselves from others, creating emotional isolation.

Finding ourselves disoriented and disorganized, using the outside as a reflection of the inside, shows we are feeling how on the inside?

Realizing that you are the only true problem in your life allows you to realize the truth of who you are. Only through self-examination can emotions and feelings be healed and problems solved.

Our habits accepted beliefs and behaviors-our inner walls-all play a part in who we are. Take for example, the critical part of our self, which loves to run rampant. This part of self is continually judging and criticizing self and others. This behavior can become quite destructive. It often leads to an out-of-balance, superhuman, perfectionist complex. It has become the norm to single out what is imperfect about another or oneself rather than identifying what is unique and special. This commonly leads to pettiness and competition.

We find it is much easier to accept others when we like and accept ourselves. Being critical and judgmental are roadblocks in the path of learning to love.

We can require that others honor us in the same way that we honor our self by treating them as we wish to be treated. As we become honest with ourselves and reflect our own attitudes and actions, we see the mirrors that others play in our life